Ew. Ew. Ew.

[RecoveringKinkoid]

Does anyone else want to commit murder when they ask "Okay, so do you fool around?" when told you are in a relationship?

I HATEHATEHATEHATE THAT

Asshole, WHY would I mention the husband if I were interested in fooling around with you? Am I a faithless who creepy jerks I don't know behind my husband's back? Are you really asking me that? Are you really disrespecting my husband, my family, and my marriage to my face in an attempt to hit on me??????



No, that's not a major pet peeve of mine, not at all.

[KellyHabersham]

So far I've only had that happen when chatting online, but yes, I can relate to the feeling of wanting to commit murder. Especially when the guy would say "Oh, he'll never know" when I told him that I had a boyfriend. (which I actually did at the time)

[Gravekeeper]

Get bear spray. A tazer is fun but the effect wears off too soon. ^^

I get hit on by older women and gay men for reasons unknown. My age deters neither. One of our older female clients ( Whom is widely considered a terror by the entire staff ) is only nice to me. She's vicious with everyone else. Me, she likes. She asked a coworker how old I was, then when informed said "He's young enough to be my son.". But that hasn't deterred her. ><

PEOPLE - personal space is from my body to about 12 in (1 ft) in front of me. Inside that area makes me, and probably a whole hell of a lot more people, really uncomfortable. That's my PERSONAL space. I've thought about eating garlic while on shift just too keep people WAY out of my personal space!

My Personal Defense Aura is around 2 feet. 1 foot is the Potential Homicide Radius.

[Broomjockey]

My Personal Defense Aura is around 2 feet. 1 foot is the Potential Homicide Radius.

I just wanna tell people sometimes "Remember, I've got long arms. If you're close enough to touch me, I'm close enough to touch you back. Hard." And then mumble something about a baseball bat. I HATE being touched. I can feel the exact spot someone touches me sometimes hours after the event. And it feels icky, for lack of a more properly descriptive term.

[Gravekeeper]

I just wanna tell people sometimes "Remember, I've got long arms. If you're close enough to touch me, I'm close enough to touch you back. Hard." And then mumble something about a baseball bat. I HATE being touched. I can feel the exact spot someone touches me sometimes hours after the event. And it feels icky, for lack of a more properly descriptive term.

I don't mind being touched, but I'm like that too. It feels like people's energy rubs off on you. Icky person, icky feeling in that spot for the next couple hours. Different kinds of people have a different...residue, for lack of a better explanation.

But I've always been sensitive to weird things like that.

[Rapscallion]

How would it be if he was an attractive older man, say Sean Connery or similar? Does his age have anything to do with it?

Got me curious.

Rapscallion

[GingerBiscuit]

It's never been the age thing for me, it's how inappropriate it is. It is MASSIVELY inappropriate to be hitting on a stranger in their workplace. Especially in the creepy, insinuating way these guys do it. These are probably the same guys who feel you up in clubs and don't seem to understand that you aren't public property. It's a real problem for a lot of people, and it is sexual harrassment and indecent assualt in UK law if it goes to touching.
It is insulting, degrading and horrible.
Both me and my boy have had come ons that won't go away- although I'm the only one who gets them where I work. I've had the 'your boyfriend would never know' too, to which I responded- yes, but I would, and I would be disgusted with myself for breaking his trust.
And what? Just cause you think I'm hot you think I'm that kind of girl? I DON'T CHEAT.
What the f** is wrong with people that they think they can just pick you up somewhere? What is wrong with people that they think pressuring you and nagging you in the hopes of getting laid is ok? Why do people think that just because they find you attractive you MUST think the same, and their insulted, aggressive and rude if you don't?

Sorry for rant, it just REALLY annoys me.

[Andara Bledin]

It's all in the way they do it.

Some guys can be charming, and when they hit on you and you rebuff them, you both can laugh about it, and there's no ick factor. They tried, got shot down, and will move on.

Most of them, though, have no grace about how they hit on women. And some of those guys have the added, "I'm a sleeze" vibe that would make you say no regardless of whether or not you're in a relationship already.

^-.-^

[XCashier]

How would it be if he was an attractive older man, say Sean Connery or similar? Does his age have anything to do with it?

If Sean Connery was leering at my bosom, making obscene remarks, blatantly ignoring my wedding band and repeated "NO!"s and insinuating that I should disregard my wedding vows and do the horizontal tango with him, yes, that would still be creepy. And he would still deserve a good solid kick in the joy department.

[iradney]

I wouldn't care if Johnny Depp himself appeared at my door, clad in nothing but a thin film of chocolate. If he can't take no for an answer, then he's a creep. If I have to fish his eyeballs out of my cleavage, he's a creep. If he has a case of Roamin hands and Rushin fingers, he's a creep. Creeps are not sexy. Creeps make vermin look attractive. Creeps get NO PLAY.

It's flattering when a gentleman pays a compliment, and charmingly accepts that you are spoken for. You're more likely to at least speak with that person a little longer.

[RecoveringKinkoid]

Thank you. Thank you sincerely for this visual:

"I wouldn't care if Johnny Depp himself appeared at my door, clad in nothing but a thin film of chocolate."

My day suddenly got a lot happier.

[traylk]

Tell your boss about him, and while you're at it, tell your boss you don't want to help in anymore. You see him come in, hide.

We have a few like that too but they are around my age (but just as creepy) and I do tell the employees to go in the back and when you hand out the order DON'T make eye contact. They have never tried touching an employee but believe me if they did I'd ban them in a heartbeat!

I want to pass along a comforting pat too!

[blas]

Sean Connery? Please, no no no, I really don't want to throw up today....ewww.

Maybe I am a hypocrite, but how many older men actually look like John Stamos? Eh...very few. Only famous ones.

The older guy would have to be extremely attractive and still pass for 25 for me to accept the compliment and not feel grossed out.

Throw whatever you want at me, but I think older men need to leave girls my age alone. Keep it professional and keep the conversation clean, unless the girl is showing a genuine interest.

Sorry to say, not every girl my age is an Anna Nicole seeking a J Howard Marshall or a beauty queen seeking a Donald Trump or Tommy Hilfiger.

[boringscreenname]

New member here. I work as a security guard at a scale and deal with semi drivers who come to the plant to pick up loads, get unloaded, etc. Most of these men are creepy, cranky and old.

One time at work I had a guy pull up onto the scale and get out. He was Russian and looked really disheveled. I get him checked in and he asks me if I'm married, and indicates I'm not wearing a ring. He asks me what time I get off work and I say later. He then tells me he's going to go take a shower and shave so he can meet me after work. I told him that just because I wasn't married, didn't mean I was available. He apologized, and got back into the truck. When he got to his assigned door he just stayed in the cab while he was being loaded staring at me.

[kibbles]

Throw whatever you want at me, but I think older men need to leave girls my age alone. Keep it professional and keep the conversation clean, unless the girl is showing a genuine interest.

Sorry but that last sentence should apply to both men and women of all ages. If it's a genuine compliment (not skeevy) and the guy or girl backs off right away when disinterest is shown then there is absolutely no reason to say that older men should leave girls your age alone.

JMO of course.