Did anyone ever tell you that you're beautiful?

[Mixed Bag]

she goes "shoooo" "shooo"

Probably she was asking for shoes, even if your store doesn't sell them.

You're new here; see threadd "She Wanted To Have A Word With Me.....Literally"

[squall]

Ummm, no I'm not new here actually. I have been through three incarnations of this board. I have not had the time to post lately like I used to. I've been here for almost a year I think.

[Mixed Bag]

I understand not having time, I've just been in a lull myself in other areas so that I've indulged in this lately more than I usually would--sorry about the shooing.

[Barefootgirl]

I pushed her back with all my strength, sending her flying into the gutter. I then walked over to her, and said, "Stupid bitch." Now, I'm not fat; I'm a size 16 and 5ft 9in tall. I was wearing platforms at the time that made me 6ft tall.

*is frightened of Lace Neil Singer*

I'm sure people say all sorts of nasty things behind my back, but I've never actually noticed. I suspect i give off "teacher vibes" as well. I also have a "headmistress" voice, which is loud and a bit posh (I'm not posh, but I went to a posh school and had elocution lessons !), and it does tend to make people either get out of the way, or stop messing about !

[Lace Neil Singer]

Aww, no need to be frightened! I'm nice to nice people.

[Brighid45]

Having been large for most of my life, I can say without exaggeration that I've been called every filthy, nasty name in the book, and a few more besides. Sometimes it still hurts when someone slings some horrible epithet at me, but most of the time I just consider the source and feel pity for someone that screwed up. Sad that they have to try to tear someone else down to feel a moment of superiority or satisfaction.

Latest incident, told from a customer's pov: about a year ago I was in the checkout lane of a local supermarket. I follow a pretty great food plan now: plenty of fresh fruit and vegetables, eggs and butter, lean red meat and fresh fish, mineral water, and (too cool!) good quality dark chocolate. It's a great plan, it works for me, and I'm regaining my health (and losing weight) following it. That said, I'm not a food nazi in any way, shape or form--unless people get in my face and say ignorant things.

So there's this old coot ahead of me in line, and he thinks it's his job to berate me for the chocolate. Nothing else in my cart matters--only the damn chocolate. "No wonder you're such a slob if you're eating that sh*t," sez he, or words to that effect. All delivered with a sneering, superior tone and nasty mean looks, like I'm the scum of the earth.

And what was in HIS cart, you may ask? Ringdings, Coke, Hot Pockets, potato chips, doughnuts, ice cream, cans of Spaghetti-Os . . . I mean, not a single healthy item in the whole mess. And as far as looks go, he was definitely no Mister Universe--at a guess I'd say he was a good fifty pounds over ideal weight. As he started yelling at me the cashier looked at me, looked at his cart, then shook her head. We both started laughing. The old guy gives us the look. Then he got it. He went beet red, threw his stuff on the belt, paid for it, hurled it into bags and slunk off. We laughed him right out of the store. DUMBASS.

[chainedbarista]

Yeah, I was chunky, but looking back at pictures, I wasn't nearly as fat as I was seeing in my own mind. I had huge self esteem issues, and it was because of jerks like that who thought it was funny to make comments like that.

i know your pain, ree; i was chunky when i was younger, had glasses and was plain looking at best (not saying that has changed too much, outside of the glasses), and because of that, i was insulted quite a bit as well.

one even went so far (i had a serious crush on him at the time) to tell me that i was 'the ugliest girl he'd ever seen.' yah, thanks for the self esteem boost, jackass.

sphinx, 140# at 5'10 isn't fat; it's at the right range for your height. you're probably 'curvier' than what most jerks like currently (the starved waif look) so this one naturally sees you as fat. he's an idiot, probably can't get a date with his dream girl (some bag of bones that just herfed up her salad) so he's boosting his morale at your expense. (damned jerks)

it's funny that you mentioned the anorexic idiot; they remind me of scrawny yappy dogs that tend to annoy larger dogs, until that larger dog takes a bite out of the yapper...

brigid, i've also found it funny that overweight men (ducks incoming barrage) also tend to pick on larger women, while completely ignoring that they are in need of 'loss.' this stuns me, not only for the insensitivity, but for the lack of recognizing their own issues first.

i like the sound of what you're eating; it sounds like what we have at home. that old dink is in need of nutritional counseling as well as a boot or twelve to the head. seriously, wtf? tend to your own cart first, gramps and the crap that you're eating, rather than hers. oooh, one thing of chocolate-she's a CRIMINAL! sheesh.

skinny isn't good, yet people tend to think so; people need a serious reality check, and then some.

[XCashier]

So there's this old coot ahead of me in line, and he thinks it's his job to berate me for the chocolate. Nothing else in my cart matters--only the damn chocolate. "No wonder you're such a slob if you're eating that sh*t," sez he, or words to that effect. All delivered with a sneering, superior tone and nasty mean looks, like I'm the scum of the earth.

And what was in HIS cart, you may ask? Ringdings, Coke, Hot Pockets, potato chips, doughnuts, ice cream, cans of Spaghetti-Os . . . I mean, not a single healthy item in the whole mess.

brigid, i've also found it funny that overweight men (ducks incoming barrage) also tend to pick on larger women, while completely ignoring that they are in need of 'loss.' this stuns me, not only for the insensitivity, but for the lack of recognizing their own issues first.

Just like the big jerk who made fun of me for having a small dessert with my salad at the salad bar. http://www.customerssuck.com/board/s...9&postcount=14 Bloody hypocrite, keep your opinions to yourself!

skinny isn't good, yet people tend to think so; people need a serious reality check, and then some.

Naturally skinny is fine; some people were blessed with high metabolism. Self-starved skinny isn't good. And it's fairly easy to tell the difference; naturally skinny people don't have their bones sticking out like a picture out of Gray's Anatomy. They generally also don't feel so miserable and self-hating that they have to abuse everyone else.

[Lace Neil Singer]

Besides, any man who fancies a bag of bones that has the physique of a 12 year old boy is obviously a closet case.

[Hempress]

brigid, i've also found it funny that overweight men (ducks incoming barrage) also tend to pick on larger women, while completely ignoring that they are in need of 'loss.' this stuns me, not only for the insensitivity, but for the lack of recognizing their own issues first.

Well, in this day and age it's acceptable for men to be overweight. Look at practically any sitcom and you'll see an overweight man partnered with a skinny "hot" chick. But you never see it the other way around.

I've had fat guys insult me over my weight, too. It totally boggles the mind.

[Ryu]

some naturally skinny people do have some bones sticking out
my ribs/collarbone/several other bones are very visible yet i have mroe of a stomach than i'd like but i dont starve myself at all
so assuming just because you can see bones that they starve themselves isnt fair

[ShockQueen]

[QUOTE=Retail Associate]Not one of them said thanks but the last one, a young man, stopped dead in his tracks, turned and looked me straight in the eye and said, "You know, ugly is a crime. You should be locked up."
[QUOTE]

*SMACK! WHAM! kick kick kick PUNCH! RRRRIIIPPPP! BLAM! >>WHAMM!!<< hit hit hit*.....then rams man into wall face first to watch bounce off.

Looks down at man laying there........"You first!"

GAH, I can't stand self-important smugholes like that one. EEGH!

[chainedbarista]

i've seen that too, ryu; mine will stick out to a degree when i'm within the right weight range (not under/over) and it does on others, too. it's when they're prominent enough to cut something that it's unappealing, just like hip bones when those show...*horf.*

i think slim or slender are better words than skinny; someone can be either of those with a great deal of strong muscle tone, while to me, skinny means just that: a bag of bones with little else on it. ewww...

yes, that fat dude/thin 'hot' girl dynamic also is misleading; while i don't mind a bit of extra on a guy (my hub is a little weighty, but not too much), there's a fine line between a little extra and a LOT extra, but some don't seem to know the difference.

i could stand to lose about 10-15 myself, but i don't get overly worked up about it unless my cholestorol gets too high at that time; i've also had guys give me the 'wow, you're fat' look too, especially those extra 'robust' types.

how they carry themselves matters much more; if they're jerks, the rest of their flaws stand out clearly...

smughole *snerk*

[Ree]

some naturally skinny people do have some bones sticking out
my ribs/collarbone/several other bones are very visible yet i have mroe of a stomach than i'd like but i dont starve myself at all
so assuming just because you can see bones that they starve themselves isnt fair

Umm....I don't think she was necessarily just basing the comment on the fact that bones stick out. That would be kind of silly, don't you think?

There were probably a few more factors other than the bones sticking out.

[XCashier]

I could've worded that better, and I'm sorry if I hurt your feelings. I'm just saying that there is a big difference between the naturally skinny and those who torture themselves into some imagined ideal of perfection.