Customers who hit on you

[Misanthropical]

Okay, after going back to work after having my children, I worked in a call center and it wasn't the callers that were hitting on me.

It was the maintance guy, who knew straight up I was/am happily married, but would still go around asking my coworkers what hours and days I worked, where I lived and what I read.

My coworkers didn't tell him a thing about me, except to remind him that I'm married.

Anyway, one night we are both there and he follows me into the ladies room. I push past him and tell my supervisor, who laughs it off. I'm really angry and afraid this guy will try something.

I sat down nearly in tears and my two large male coworkers ask me what is wrong and I told them about the guy following me into the ladies room and the supervisor laughing it off. They got a very angry look on their face and told me it would be okay.

I didn't see the maintance guy after that and asked the guys about it. They told me to not ask any questions, just know that he wouldn't be bothering me anymore. I still don't know what they did.

When working security, I got hit on A LOT. My favorite was one of the cleaning guys was standing by the security office listening to me talk to a coworker. I mentioned my husband and the cleaning guy says "Oh, you're married, damn!"

He was a very sweet guy, who reminded people not to piss me off or they would piss him off and he is armed. He had tears in his eyes when I left to move away. He told me to tell my husband what a lucky guy my husband is and to appreciate what he has.

After that, I just got the weirdos who had a thing for women in uniform. I told my husband that I can go to the store in my uniform and get guys falling all over themselves to talk to me, but if I go in my street clothes I don't usually have a problem.

I'm in a call center now, so I get the usual guys telling me what a sexy voice I have. I did get a woman who hit on me over the phone, which was a bit weirder than normal.

This one happened away from work. I was waiting in the ER for my husband to pick me up and I decided to get a soda. This woman walked behind me, so I thought she was just waiting for me to finish so she could get a soda. She started hitting on me. I told her I was straight and happily married, she apologized and walked away. I was just

[Despina83]

Oh no, not this topic again! Again, I say I have never been hit on. Now I'm depressed. I mean, come on, just one creepy old man?! Is that too much to ask?

[RedRoseSpiral]

I used to be known as the 'hot chick at the chinese place' by guys who worked at other fast food places around me. Sadly they were all fugly. Then there was the guy who was tripping on something. As soon as he found out he could in fact not get his chicken fried rice for free he turned in to a total SC.

[MCSledgehammer]

When I was working at the hardware store I took to carrying a 5 lb sledge at all times specifically to deter that. (It was a small store, I could get away with it). You'd think the wedding band would have been enough... ALWAYS old creepy guys. Among the early ones:
Him: Well, you're kinda tiny, but you're cute enough for me!
Me: *sigh*
Him: So, you got a boyfriend?
Me: Nope. Husband.
Him: Oh..... sorry. Guess I just put my foot in my mouth, huh?
Me: Well, if you're that flexible, I might have to reconsider.
Him: *laughs* Your husband is a lucky guy!
Me: Also very large. What were you looking for?

He was at least polite about the rebuttal, and was a perfect gentleman afterwards. Some, however, were just crude. Ick. Seriously, guys, if she's sending you "not interested signals", leave it alone.
PS- I'm on Dayquil, so this is probably not exactly Pulitzer Prize-level storytelling. My apologies

[MisseLaneius]

There's been two different people say how ok they are with interracial relationships... what's with that? is this some American thing that I'm missing?

Oh, when I worked at a call centre, we were support and activations for a mobile telelphone network, so most of our callers were mobile phone dealers, and you got to know them after a while. One day I was in a silly mood and was just about to knock off, so I made a few jokes/small talk with my last call. Big mistake. He asks me for my phone number. I politely decline, he urges, I continue to decline.

Next time I speak to him, I do his transaction for him, and give him a receipt number for it - "And now I've got that, can I have your number?"

"You know it - you called me!"

[akilika]

I get hit on sometimes by the drunks as they leave. I don't take it personally--generally a "No, thanks" or a "Not in my job description" is all I need before they go on their way.

The one I like the best was the . . . really, REALLY drunk guy who caught me at the end of a bad day. I made myself feel better by talking circles around him to assure myself of my own superiority. He tried again the next time I saw him, though, and I cut him off more quickly.


The thing that really DOES get me is the former manager-in-training (now a manager at a different location) who called me "Sexy [my name]" whenever I answered the store phone. It's like . . . you're a manager. Is there any WORLD in which that is appropriate?

[Gurndigarn]

There's been two different people say how ok they are with interracial relationships... what's with that? is this some American thing that I'm missing?

It was generally a socially unaccepted practice, and illegal in some states, until about forty years ago. It's moved to socially acceptable for most people in most places since then, and is a fetish for a few.

Sadly, while I have seen some rather good interracial relationships-- the type that help build the idea of racial equality here-- the people I see it in the most are gangsta blacks with white "ho" girls, both of them doing it for social "point" reasons ("I'm good enough to get a white bitch" and "At least I can get a boyfriend", respectively) that hurt the concept of racial equality.

[LadyAndreca]

There's been two different people say how ok they are with interracial relationships... what's with that? is this some American thing that I'm missing?

There's still quite a bit of racial tension in many areas of the country. Things like segregation and the civil rights movement are still within living memory and there's still some people that can't let it go. A couple years ago, one of my white friends was even threatened and called a 'race traitor' for daring to marry a Chinese girl.

It's a non-issue for the majority of Americans...kind of sad that we have to add a disclaimer like that to our stories to keep others from taking things the wrong way and pointing fingers and accusing us of racism.

Baaaaaaack on topic, I haven't been hit on too much at work. Looking ten years younger than I actually am, as well as the obvious and sparkly engagement ring I wear, usually keep most guys off of me. Either that, or I'm too dense to notice, which is ENTIRELY possible.

Worst I ever had outside work, though, was when I was 19 (looked 15) and on a bus trip from Newark to Atlanta...on the DC to Atlanta stretch I got stuck next to a fat, greying man who spent hours telling me I reminded him of his granddaughter and trying to hold/pet my hand. He gave me his number, too, which I threw away as soon as he was out of sight. I really wish I'd had the courage to ask the bus driver to switch my seat, to this day I'm uncomfortable next to guys on busses.

[PepperElf]

i dont get hit on at work - i'm the only female in my workshop but... well the "customers" are all part of the same place (tech support for other departments)

but... just the other day while i was walking home a drunk came up to high-5 me. his buddy held him back a little but....

drunk guy: Where are YOU off to?
me: I'm going home.
drunk guy: Oh? Where's home? (at this point I knew what he wanted - and um. no)
me: My boyfriend's apartment.
drunk guy: aw....
me: Sorry... (but from the way I was smirking his sober-er buddy knew I wasn't sorry at all, heh)

heehee

[RecoveringKinkoid]

Never hang out with anyone who uses the phrase "race traitor."

Unless they use it like I just did.

I live in the south, as you know, and I see a LOT of interracial couples. I do see quite a bit of the sort that Gurndigarn mentioned, I also see a lot of serious, married, committed-for-years-and-have-children types. I hang out with two married interracial couples, and have seen various colors of single friends date various colors of other single frinds over the years. I really do think it's losing it's stigma in all but the most backwards-thinking circles, which is refreshing. A black/korean friend of mine just recently married a white woman, and their wedding looked like a United Colors of Beneton ad. It was georgeous! It was how it should be in the world. All these beautiful little children of all races with flowers in their hair, holding hands and dancing together. You just dont' see that all that often, at least here, and that's a shame.

Sounds corny as hell, I know.

Misanthropical, if someone pulled a stunt like that to you and your sup "laughed it off", you should go screaming straight to HR and file a complaint against both the perv and the ineffectual sup. That's beyond harrassment, that's a sexual THREAT.

[princess4life]

I used to have people compare my appearance to Britney Spears, honestly I hated it and I have tried changing my hair color to avoid having match whatever color her hair is at the time. Anyways I have been hit on at all of my jobs I have ever worked.

16 years old working Mc Donald’s I had a guy in his 30s hand me a hotel key though drive thru, tell me is room number and that he would see me later. Side note he had kids in the car calling him dad and he was hitting on a 16 year old girl through the drive thru while ordering happy meals.

While working in call centers I had one of my bosses tell me on his last day that I had the type of voice you expect to hear when you call a 900 number and that is why he liked listening to my calls. Also he said that is why I had all kinds of guys hitting on my over the phone. Or getting the guys that you can tell are masturbating when talking to you, asking me about orders they places for adult movies, or about how to access certain websites depending on what company I was working for at the time.

Working the front doors at concerts I get guys hitting on my all the time, most the time it is because they either want in for free or they want to go out to there car and come back. It's not just guys though I have girls that have offered to buy me a drink or even bring me a drink at the door.

During the Sundance Film festival I worked the coat check/ box office for a bar/ concert venue. I got paid in tips so of course I would flirt and "appear single" even though I am married. I had a girl come up and ask me if I had paper and a pen because there was someone who needed her phone number. I handed her a piece of paper and a pen when she handed the pen back to me she also handed me paper and said it was for me the paper had her name, phone number, address and my space address
I also while at the bar would have someone from security escort me through the crowds if I needed to get somewhere it made it easier for me and people would leave me alone thinking I was someone special. The one time I was walking behind security in my heels and short skirt the next thing I know there is a hand grabbing my ass under my skirt . I kicked my heel back and kicked the guy right in the crotch then turned around to see who had grabbed me (my husband was there that night I had to make sure it wasn't him) Security turned around too to find a guy falling over red in the face. I told security that he reached up my skirt and he got thrown out but he tried claiming that his hand "slipped"


I have had co-workers that know I am married ask me if I would ever have an affair. Then tell me that when the followed me up the stairs at work that they just wanted to bite my ass. I had guys follow me out to my car and try to corner me in the empty parts of offices. I had another coworker ask me if I have ever had a threesome with another girl with or without my husband. When I worked the fitting rooms at Wal-Mart I had there loss prevention tell me he wanted to hand cuff me and take me into one of the fitting rooms . I seem to be a magnent for sexual harassment and inappropriate behavoir I have tried changing the way I dress and avoiding talking to people but I can't play shy I am really out going.

[TryNotToBeThatOne]

Princess4Life, I am so sorry. I hope that most people at least take the 'no, I'm not interested' politely & don't hassle you about it.

Personally, I'm a very friendly/complete flirt but since I'm monogamous I do mention that I have a BF at some point during the conversation. That cuts down on the hitting. I have had a couple men ask about my ring, 'is that a wedding ring?' since I do wear a silver band on my ring finger and one friend tell me that my BF is very lucky. That's it.

No creepy old guys. There was one creepy drugged out guy my age & that's it. Either that or I'm oblivious &/or blocking it.

[Rapscallion]

If I've ever been hit on at all, I've never noticed it - well, at the time. There have been a couple of occasions when I've wondered after, but that's been about it.

Rapscallion

[Despina83]

I wouldn't mind a creepy guy every now and then. Friends and family tell me I'm really good-looking, but guys just totally ignore me, even the vast majority of my male co-workers. Young guys at my register look at me and act the same as they would if I were a wrinkled 60 year old woman. It's kind of depressing.

[Chrono180]

I have never been hit on and I never want to be. I have heard so many horror stories about dating that it got to the point where I swore off romance.