rude comments on appearance

[Ttam]

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Whats the weather like up there?

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How tall are you?

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Do you play basketball?

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Have you always been that tall?

Check (answer, yes, my mother still walks with a limp to this day)

Gotten all those too..... Enough so to come up with a few retorts.

What's the weather like up there?
Clear, but I'm getting tired of having to dodge satellites.

How tall are you?
Get me a ruler long enough and I'll tell you.

Do you play basketball?
Are you a jockey?

Have you always been that tall?
Nope. When I was 6 I accidentally took a bath in hot water and shrunk.

Have you gotten taller?
No, it's the heels. (Note: As a guy, I obviously don't own anything with a raised heel.)

[crazylegs]

Had a customer today ask me, point blank, "Are you really that tall, or are you standing on a box?"

Check.

Whats the weather like up there?

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How tall are you?

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Do you play basketball?

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Have you always been that tall?

Check (answer, yes, my mother still walks with a limp to this day)

[GingerBiscuit]

I have the dark shadows too. It's genetic for me, and I'm quit fair skinned so it shows up more. They get worse when I'm eating badly, stressed or not sleeping.


No concealer covers them totally I've found, but a yellow based light reflecting one is the best on I've tried so far.

I don't get so many rude comments about my appearance, but I do get a few hair related comments- my hair is long and died a vivid red, so can attract attention- good and bad.

[Ttam]

Well... there always is the possibility that at least some of them are trying to be friendly... being concerned about the overall wellbeing of a stranger, even if it's none of their business. For instance, when someone looks obviously tired, I will sometimes try to lighten things up with a comment like "Try not to work too hard, now." I know it doesn't really do anything except to possibly illicit a wry grin, but that's what's intended anyway.

Still, there are those sayings regarding "The best intentions".... After all, even well-wishes can sound like jabs when its something a person is sensitive about... And then there are people who just are sucky, plain and simple. The rulers of their own personal universe, and wanting to be of yours as well. I get all sorts of hassle over the fact that I'm a guy with long hair which ticks me off because I like the way it looks this way and no, I don't plan to cut it off just because someone who I've never met before and have no interest in ever meeting again thinks it would look better short. What the heck business is it of theirs anyway?

I'm always getting comments over looking tired too, actually. Stems mostly from the way I slouch (since at 6'4" it brings me closer to eye level with others), slow speech, large periods where I don't move at all, and, interestingly enough, dark under-eye area. I tend to let it slide, though, since for one it doesn't really bother me that much and two, I have trouble sleeping often and they're not always wrong. Still, it bothers the heck out of me when people will keep asking over and over "Are you sure you're not tired?" Yes. I'm pretty darn sure I'm not tired. I think I'd be the first one to know. Or am I just boring you too badly, cuz I can leave if you want.

[Saydrah]

Language Warning:

When I worked for an environmental organization, we had a trainee who was absolutely one of the most beautiful people I've ever met- seemed like the inside matched, from what I saw of her, too. Long curly hair all the way down her back, looked like possibly part Hawaiian, the figure of a dancer- just GORGEOUS. People dripped jealousy looking at her. She actually WAS a dancer- a fire dancer, actually- at her other job, and like most dancers, she wore stretchy, loose fitting clothes, easy to move in stuff. Nothing nearly as skanky as most 12 year olds today wear, but pretty, stretchy clothing.

Then one day she was wearing a knee length cotton skirt and a matching half-sleeve shirt with a neckline low enough to show a small amount of cleavage (her tasteful tattoo on her forearm was showing, too), she talked to someone who responded with:

"IT IS ABSOLUTELY INAPPROPRIATE FOR A WOMAN TO DRESS LIKE THAT! You look like a WHORE! You should NEVER go out in public wearing that and showing your tits to EVERYONE YOU MEET! COVER UP, WHORE!"

She was so traumatized she quit that day.

Thanks, jerk, you just lost us a good employee.

[Lady Heather]

I have had acne and acne scars sense I was 10 years old. Still do. Let the rudness begin. The scars go down both arms to my elbows. Wearing a "girls" T-shirt with those cute half sleaves is really not a good idea. The worst is when they don't say anything, they just stare, or try to glance without geting caught. A coworker was the worst: "Oh! My God! Is that an alergic reaction? Did you get poision ivy?". I just looked at her walked to the back and put my sweatshirt on.

[chainedbarista]

it's so irritating, rude and insensitive; it's further reinforcement of the opinion (imo) that we're so stupid we can't, don't and won't recognize our own 'flaws.'

we're not allowed to comment on their 'flaws,' what makes it seem ok for them comment on anyone else's??

also, i've found that putting a waxed based tea tree oil product on cracks, cuts and pimples has helped me fight those problems with good results (i get the cuts from the numerous steel surfaces and the dry hands from the sanitizer we use at work-plays hell with my skin).

another thing that helped with my acne (which has plagued me since i was 18) was using skyn icelandia; my skin is the clearest it's been since i was in high school, making me one happy camper.

[ArenaBoy]

If it's just appearance in general, I get a lot of comments about my hair length, right now it's just meeting my collar. Even in today's times I get some comments about my hair and given the area I live in they just seem to detest long hair.

[Imogene]

Had a customer today ask me, point blank, "Are you really that tall, or are you standing on a box?"
At which point I huffed and stepped out from behind my counter just for high royal majesty, who said, "You must be that tall."
No shit?

[powerboy]

A cousin of mine, has bags under his eyes. He has always had them. No one that I know off, says anything.

I also have a couple of stress related pimples. And had a few people talk about it.

[Despina83]

Nowadays everyone comments on my pimples. They are awful.

Why in God's name would someone go up to a complete stranger and start making comments about their zits? People continue to surprise me.

[wagegoth]

Lanolin with cotton gloves at night is the best for dry skin.

For the dark circles, I have them, too, also genetic, but allergies will make them worse. Also, they get worse if I am not eating right. Use a liquid concealer with a yellow base. Dot it on and then smooth lightly with a soft eye brush. Blend light foundation over it in the same way.

If the circles are looking red, use a green-based concealer.

[blas]

I used to get a lot of shit from people about my makeup.

Nowadays everyone comments on my pimples. They are awful. Guess what? They are stress related. I am making an appointment with a dermatologist this week because I am on stress-induced acne medication and they won't stop. Especially Wednesday night, when my one coworker drove me up the wall, I went home and saw 4 fresh bumps forming. Now they are full blown pimples.

[yomiko]

You might want to try Aveeno Lotion. It's fragrance free and moisurizes for 24 hours (put it on right before bed and let it work all night long). I've used it for my insanely dry skin, and it works wonders!

Further to this, it's better to use the stuff in the pots rather than in the pumps as it has a higher petroleum jelly component and moiturizes better/longer (in my opinion).

[XCashier]

Between having a bitey parrot and extremely dry skin that has a tendency to crack (especially in the winter)

You might want to try Aveeno Lotion. It's fragrance free and moisurizes for 24 hours (put it on right before bed and let it work all night long). I've used it for my insanely dry skin, and it works wonders!