loud mouth or just self confident?

[candyshopgirl]

Okay me and my hubby diagrees about this subject:

He says that I say that anyone that is self confident is a jerk or a loudmouth.I say no,theres a difference. You know the loudmouth jerks that come in a announce that their there by saying HELLO!!(thus making you get up and leave whatever little pointless project you have to finish before you can leave).And guess what you go up and they doin't want anything,they just think that if you undivided attention aren't on them then somehow you're disrespecting them. Or the people that discuss their business meeting in front of you without even giving you a second thought. Or the people that fling credit cards at you and give you that I'm better then you look. (you know the one)
My husband says oh they are just self confident:
No they are loudmouths and jerkoffs. My husband works in an office doing computer work,he has never worked in customer service. I've offered him to come sit with me though an 8 hour shift.I told him that he would see some real pieces of work.

[the toy guy]

These people do not sound self-confident. Self-confident people do not need to make themselves feel superior by treating others poorly.

[morgana]

These people do not sound self-confident. Self-confident people do not need to make themselves feel superior by treating others poorly.

What he said. Yeah, your husband needs to come sit with you for a shift. He's got a little too much faith in the human race.

[Bramblerose]

I am tired of people who confuse Rude with Self Confident. I have this issue with one of the aunts- she raised her youngest to be a utter b*tch because she wanted said daughter to stand up for herself and not take it from anyone. This included being breath-takingly rude.

Oddly enough, my mother instilled in me a belief in who and what I am *and* an ability to be nice to other people and follow basic rules on how to be gracious and easy to work with (well, mostly, anyway). I may not choose to call you the awful names I am thinking about your annoying ass, but rest assured, as soon as time and vocabulary allow (ie I think of a fairly inoffensive yet accurate way), i'll let you know. On the flip side, it also means I can and will apologize if I am wrong, hold my tongue if nothing is to be gained, and generally treat retail well even if I am tired and badly out of sorts.

Attention whoring belongs in teh bedroom.

[XCashier]

These people do not sound self-confident. Self-confident people do not need to make themselves feel superior by treating others poorly.

Quoted for truth!

They're not self-confident, they're attention whores, bullies or worse. They need to sample the salmon:

[SilverOrb]

My boyfriend is a very self confident, self assured person. I have never seen him be rude or fling cards at people or demand attention. In fact, he has a much, much longer fuse than I do. Asses are not neccessarily confident people, and confident people are not neccessarily asses.

[Apathy]

Don't stop at taking your husband to work. Make him get a second job in retail for a while. If he thinks his office job is stressful (not that anyone said he did), he'll see what you put up with all day long.

[One-Fang]

Ask your husband how he'd know a jerk or a loudmouth.

[nomorecarts]

self confidence is being able to know that you're doing the right thing, and being able to convince people why what you're doing is right(like when your register rings something twice, then you fix it, and the customer doesn't see)

the examples in the OP were just being an ass. although, the person demanading your attention isn't that bad, because if they're trying to attract attention the only thing wrong they're going to do is be an ass, nothing you can't laugh about later. but that's just my opinion

[AirHostess]

Like the difference in being assertive and the difference in being agressive.

[Kiwi]

IMO

self confidence - I have the self esteem to believe in my convictions and treat myself and others with dignity and respect

loudmouth - I need attention as I have NO self confidence and need to make sure that EVERYONE knows my opinions

jerk - I feel I am worth nothing so I must make other people feel the same as me