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Background: So I'm a college student, working a school tele-soliciting job (yikes, I know). Basically, I call former students and ask them for donations to the school.
I used to get calls from your compatriots at my alma mater. It got to the point where I would tell them up front I wasn't going to give them anything, but they continued on with the spiel and asked for money at the end. My reason is that I don't give to telephone solicitors. Come to think of it, it has been several years since they have called. Gee, they do know how to learn.
"I don't have to be petty. The Universe does that for me."
I figure they won't like any of my reasons anyways. They range from "You peckerheads have gotten enough of my money for no real good reason" all the way up to and including "I will never, ever, ever give to phone solicitors, ever."
But really, the bottom line is that why I give anyone anything or why I don't is my business. I'd be offended if I was pressed for that information, it's an offensive and out of line question. Giving monetary gifts is a personal choice. You don't have to explain yourself to anyone because the person requesting the gift is not owed anything-neither money, nor an explanation.
I can see why the pet names would bug you, though. However, they really reflect more on the ignorance of the person calling you that than they do on you. Still, kind of annoying, I imagine.
Of course. Being an evil bastage is what I do. Thus, fractions are integral.
But are they real? And rational?
Seshat's self-help guide:
1. Would you rather be right, or get the result you want?
2. If you're consistently getting results you don't want, change what you do.
3. Deal with the situation you have now, however it occurred.
4. Accept the consequences of your decisions.
"All I want is a pretty girl, a decent meal, and the right to shoot lightning at fools." - Anders, Dragon Age.
pi and i are having a fight. It gets very heated. Finally, frustrated, i shouts "pi, will you just be rational!" pi retorts "oh yeah? Why don't you get real?!"
Also, what is with the pet names? I get it SO often, and these people can't even see me. Is it the fact that I have a female voice? Does that really warrant so much condescension?
*nods*
I can't count HOW many times I've calmy (well, thru gritted teeth) said "I am not your honey. I am not your dear, your darling, or your sweety. Let's keep things professional, shall we?"
it's even creepier when it's someone of the same sex as you!
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This is Tech Support, not Customer Service.
What's the difference? We're allowed to tell you "no".
pi and i are having a fight. It gets very heated. Finally, frustrated, i shouts "pi, will you just be rational!" pi retorts "oh yeah? Why don't you get real?!"
Oh man, I already used my rimshot for the week on Sheldonrs...
Well, I live in the south, so a woman or old man calling me a pet name doesn't bother me much, but in places where it's NOT the south, I can see where it would be taken (and meant) as disrespectful.
I mean, if you are sitting in a diner or local eatery and the waitress, who will be wearing a ton of aqua eyeshadow and smell of cigarettes, does NOT call you by a pet name, something ain't right.
What's weird here is when women who are younger than I am do it to me.
I have to agree with the "none of your business" poster from earlier. Although if I was going to give an answer, it would be, "Because thanks to your school's lack of a job placement department I am working a dead end job and in hock up to my eyeballs 5 years after graduating. Thanks for asking!"
*nods*
I can't count HOW many times I've calmy (well, thru gritted teeth) said "I am not your honey. I am not your dear, your darling, or your sweety. Let's keep things professional, shall we?"
it's even creepier when it's someone of the same sex as you!
It all depends, I had a gig doing telephone surveys for the Va Pilot Ledger Star in Norfolk, and little southern ladies call any female under 60 some variant of honey, sweetie or sugar, and the lil old men tend to call the females under 60 darlin, sweetie or honey. I can forgive that.
I detest some young northern guy calling me Honey and asking to speak to the manager ... when I managed a number of machine shops for a previous company I would get that now and then. Those sales cavemen got told that I was not their honey, I was the manager and their company could send out another salesman who knew how to behave in public if they wanted to try and sell me anything for my shops.
Amazing how civilized they got after that
Although there is one supplier that I allowed to call me honey ... but I had known him since I was about 9 years old =) He was sort of an honorary uncle and older than dirt when I was running my shops.
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