I do NOT need a stalker, thankyouverymuch!

[RecoveringKinkoid]

Oh GOD that is the quickest way to piss me off!!!!!

(insert whiney, mocking voice here) "Oh, you're MARRIED? Do you FOOL AROUND?"

What, are you asking me if I am willing to throw out my marriage to a wonderful guy, whose boots you are not worthy to lick, my child, my family, and my self respect so I can get poked by a disrepectful, sociopathic DOUCHE? Are you asking me if I am an unfaithful, untrustworthy whore? Sure! Let's go to a hotel NOW! Let me put it on my card!

Stupid fg redneck jerks!!!!!!!

Oh MAN! Can you tell that is a major hot button with me? GAaaaaaah...

[blas]

Wow kinkoid, I thought I got hot when nasty guys hit on me!

It may suck trying to get people to buy me booze for now, but I'm kind of dreading turning 21.....I know I don't HAVE to go to the bars but a lot of my friends are into it and for the first few months that's definetly going to be my biggest thing.
I already have my comebacks picked out though:

SG= sleazy guy
M= me

SG= Can I buy you a drink?
M= Well I'm gonna need to drink a whole case to be even somewhat interested in you.

SG= Can I buy you a drink?
M= Sorry Grampa, I'm 21 now, I'm a big girl, I can buy my own drinks.

SG= Sup baby you're gorgeous?
M= Sup moron, you're nasty.

A lot of people have told me, "Well if you don't want them to notice you don't put yourself out there!".....that is just a silly argument. It doesn't matter if I wear makeup or no makeup, skanky tight clothes or men's XL hoodies.....guys will approach and will hit on me...it doesn't help staring at the floor or scurrying off somewhere. Some guys are just such....pigs (to put it nicely) that they will approach anyone. We girls do not ALWAYS bring it upon ourselves.

[Bliss]

and of course, the alltime classic example of the two mixing in one person: Ted Bundy.

tsk tsk tsk, why do people always end up comparing me to Ted Bundy?? bah.

[MadMike]

SG= Can I buy you a drink?

Or you could do what George Carlin says, and tell him, "No thanks, but can I have the money instead?" Tell him you're saving up to buy your own god-damn bar.

[RecoveringKinkoid]

"Wow kinkoid, I thought I got hot when nasty guys hit on me!"

Hehheh. I don't mind nasty guys hitting on me so much as stupid, sleazy guys hitting on me, you know? I have been hit on my grizzled, unwashed street dwellers who made me smile because they were fairly respectful and humorous about it. ("Hey, georgeous, you married? You're not? Would you like to BE married?" ) I've had good looking, well dressed men who pissed me off to the point of making a scene because they said "So, do you fool around?" to me.

There is so much wrong with that line I don't even know where to start.

[kibbles]

Why is it sleezy to offer to buy someone a drink? You know, provided if someone declines, they leave and are not creepy about it.

[AFpheonix]

If you were ringing someone out and an old skeezy guy came and offered to buy you a drink, could you honestly say that you wouldn't be at least a little creeped out?

It's one thing if you're at a bar. Another if you're at work, with no where to go to get away from these morons.

[kibbles]

Doh! I thought the post was talking about being at a bar, not at work, eeks!

[Irving Patrick Freleigh]

I heard two sleazy stories last night:

1. One of the people on third shift is a younger girl--about 21 or so. She got approached recently by some guy who startedchatting her up. He mentioned that he worked second shift at some factory in town. She asked him "Shouldn't you be sleeping right now?" He told her that he had come into the store "to find a pretty girl who will sleep with me."

2. This one's scary. One of the girls in electronics is being hit on by some guy who works in the Radio Shack right next to our store in the mall. What's more, he lives right above her in the same apartment building. He's been coming in and asking her out on dates, and asking her personal questions, and she keeps trying to ignore him. One time, in making casual conversation with her, he mentioned that new windows had been put in the bulding, and she said that it sucked because her bathroom window offered no privacy.

He said"Oh, then I guess I'll be looking into your bathroom window then!"

One night, she was in her bathroom getting ready for work, and she heard a knock on her door. She looked through the peephole in the door and didn't see anybody outside. So she opened the door to see if anybody was out there (BAD MOVE). Nobody was there, but she knew he was around because she saw his car parked outside.

Methinks she needs to invest in a good can of mace.

[morgana]

Methinks she needs to call the cops and start a paper trail.

[Canarr]

I know I don't HAVE to go to the bars but a lot of my friends are into it and for the first few months that's definetly going to be my biggest thing.

[snip]

Some guys are just such....pigs (to put it nicely) that they will approach anyone. We girls do not ALWAYS bring it upon ourselves.

Okay, little newsflash: approaching a woman in a bar does NOT automatically make a guy a pig. There are actually people (of both genders) who visit bars for just this express purpose - meeting other people of the opposite gender. For whatever purpose is their business, and theirs alone - I don't judge people who do that, and neither should you.

Matter of fact, a guy I know will occasionally, when "the urge" strikes him, visit local bars, and "chat up" women with the line "Fancy a f***?". By his own estimate, he'll get slapped three to five times before finding someone interested in his offer.

What DOES make a guy a pig is
- not taking no for an answer
- sleazy, nasty or dirty pickup lines
- comments like "do you fool around"
- behavior like this guy I know - although apparently, there are enough female pigs to make this... approach worth his while

But offering to buy a girl a drink? Trying to chat someone up (who isn't clearly there with their OWN person of the opposite gender)? That's completely normal, socially acceptable behavior. If you don't like that, there's ways around it: a female friend of mine has taken up the habit of going to gay bars on her "Girl Nights". She says the cocktails are great, and nobody hits on them.

[kibbles]

Okay, little newsflash: approaching a woman in a bar does NOT automatically make a guy a pig.

I agree totally! Whether it's a women or a man doing the approaching, they shouldn't automatically be deemed a pig for merely offering to buy someone a drink at a bar.

Kibbles

[MCSledgehammer]

What always bugs me is when guys assume "Sure, I'll have a drink with you, maybe we can end up having an interesting and engaging conversation." actually means "Oh God yes, take me here and now big boy!" Just because I've accepted your offer of a libation doesn't mean I owe you a damned thing. And any body part that wanders onto my leg, or worse, to my chest, well, you're not getting it back.

[blas]

I'm sorry if I've pressed a few buttons......I just don't find it proper for a man my father's age to hassle me, I think that's disgusting, and I find names like "Baby" and "Sexy" to be extremely inappropriate to use on a stranger.

[Gurndigarn]

Or you could do what George Carlin says, and tell him, "No thanks, but can I have the money instead?" Tell him you're saving up to buy your own god-damn bar.

You wouldn't be worried that the guys assumed that they just bought you? Or at least rented you?