I almost feel sorry for this sleepy head....Almost

[Irving Patrick Freleigh]

You snooze, you lose. As "Bob" says, "F@*k 'em if they can't take a joke."

PS: I love that I can hear your accent in your written word!

What she said. I'm failing to see the suck on the OP's part.

The guy fell asleep twice, was awakened twice, and still didn't have the presence of mind to go someplace where he could fall asleep unmolested, such as his own home? Having stuff painted on his face is nothing compared to what could have happened to him instead.

[Mordecai]

The guy fell asleep twice, was awakened twice, and still didn't have the presence of mind to go someplace where he could fall asleep unmolested, such as his own home? Having stuff painted on his face is nothing compared to what could have happened to him instead.

Regardless it was still very unprofessional. He could have called the cops and had him removed which would have been the professional thing to do. If what the OP and the people at the club did is ok then can I write "WHORE" on a drunk woman's head when she's passed out and write things on her chest too? Also what if the guy had been gay himself? Would it have still been ok to write slurs on him?

[Irving Patrick Freleigh]

? Also what if the guy had been gay himself? Would it have still been ok to write slurs on him?

This is fucking stupid. Unless you see the guy hitting on other guys in the club you can't really tell his sexual orientation from looking at him, so what's that got to do with anything?

As for the rest of the your post, I'm not going to deal in hypotheticals. What the OP described is harmless compared to what could have happened. If any other information about the situation comes up I could change my judgment.

If this was guys writing on a passed-out female, I could have a different opinion. It depends on what I see posted.

[Mordecai]

This is fucking stupid. Unless you see the guy hitting on other guys in the club you can't really tell his sexual orientation from looking at him, so what's that got to do with anything?

??? You don't think writing "HOMO" on a guys forehead is unacceptable? Maybe it's just because I'm bi but if someone wrote that on me while I was passed out for whatever reason you can bet they'd be hearing about it when I woke up especially if it's someone I don't know. The op's lucky he didn't complain to whoever was in charge when he came to.

[Irving Patrick Freleigh]

Not as unacceptable as other people evidently do, at least not as the situation was described. But then again I've been called similar often enough that I just let it roll off my back nowadays.

You don't want it on your forehead? Don't pass out in a crowded bar and keep doing it after you've been awoken a couple times, that's what I say.

[Phone Jockey]

I would have personally put the make-up on him. HILARIOUS!

[Mordecai]

I would have personally put the make-up on him. HILARIOUS!

Maybe I just don't have a sense of humor, but what is so funny about a drunk guy with "HOMO" written on his head? You're going to have to explain this to me. I never understood why some people are so obsessed with writing on anyone who passes out at a party, club, ect.

[Horsetuna]

I was napping at bible camp, in my bunk, in my cabin (Shared with five other girls) when they decided to put toothpaste and other stuff on me in the same manner - and I was napping where I was SUPPOSED to be napping during quiet hour. Its humiliating and just sucky IMHO.

[Boozy]

So far, the discussion here has been reasonable and polite. Keep it up. Disgreements are fine as long as everyone is careful not to hurt anyone's feelings.

However, I'd like to ask that the "Homo" aspect of the discussion be dropped. I'm concerned that it will devolve into a debate about what words are offensive and when. We have threads like that over at Fratching if anyone is interested in taking it there.

Thanks.

[Rebel1012]

??? You don't think writing "HOMO" on a guys forehead is unacceptable? Maybe it's just because I'm bi but if someone wrote that on me while I was passed out for whatever reason you can bet they'd be hearing about it when I woke up especially if it's someone I don't know. The op's lucky he didn't complain to whoever was in charge when he came to.

The owner was there at the time so im covered for any complaints i think

[NightWatch]

People like to mess with drunks because it's easy. If you go out in public and get tossed and aren't capable of holding your alcohol, someone is bound to mess with you. It's not necessarily nice, but it wasn't super bad (he could have been jumped or mugged). The OP already mentioned that people have tried to take it too far in the past and he stopped them. He knows the line. It's not like he said to the girls, "have your dirty way with him" and walked away. He kept an eye on the situation.

Although I do disagree with letting them roll up his shirt and pants. I think that should have been stopped. Strangers should not be undressing an entirely unconcious party. Even if only partially.

(PS: I don't think it'd be a big deal if some guys wrote stuff on a girls face or arms. It goes both ways. Although other body parts should be strictly verboten. If people I know wrote on my stomach/chest, I'd laugh it off. If it were strangers, I'd be wondering what the hell else happened to me.)

ETA: I think a degrading word is not nearly as bad as people who tend to draw pictures of penises on faces. I'm sorry, but I'd rather have something like homo or whore on my forehead rather then a giant d***

[Jay 2K Winger]

As someone who's been the victim of pranks when I've been asleep (only once, at summer camp, and that was the old tickle-their-face-and-make-them-smear-shaving cream-on-themselves trick-- though it was toothpaste instead of shaving cream, and it didn't work), I can still see the hilarity in it.

Honestly, if you pass out anywhere in public, especially when alcohol is being consumed, you're leaving yourself wide open for humiliation like this. Doesn't matter if you're drunk or not, you pass out in a bar and don't leave when awoken twice, you deserve what you get.

Just my opinion.

[Megg]

Yeah, I have to agree. If you get that drunk in a public place, serves you right if you get some lipstick on your forehead. In high school, I got too drunk at a party and they used a sharpie. I got off lucky. He got off luckier.

[Jester]

I also have to wonder what was wrong with him, if he could fall asleep there.

Its quite normal for drunks to fall asleep in the club

I have to pipe in here, as I have a perspective on this situation that many of you probably don't.

See, I HAVE been that drunk! I am actually rather notorious in these parts for dozing off while out at the bars drunk. Oftentimes it will be while standing up, holding my beer....and no, I don't drop the beer. I just kind of nod off while standing up. Or while sitting down. Whichever. And when I say I am notorious for this, I mean that not only has it become a running joke with my friends, but one of my regular bartenders has dubbed me "the Narcoleptic Magician." Hell, one time, while watching a big game at that bar, I dozed off in my booth. For a while. The server, not being familiar with me, was concerned, and asked the bartender what to do. "Oh, don't worry. That's Jester. He does that all the time. Just leave him be, he'll wake up in a bit, and he tips really well." (I heard all this later from the bartender.)

I have been fortunate in that I have never had anyone mess with me in this regard at a bar. At HOME or at PARTIES, however, my friends have done some fucked up shit to me (toothpaste, permanent marker, glue, etc.), and while I was pissed at the time, I can't really fault them for it, as I have been on the other end, and been one of the merry pranksters abusing a dozing drunk.

That being said, it could be considered slightly unprofessional for the bouncer to not only allow and condone such behavior, but to actually suggest taking it the further step of the lipstick writing is something I think that many would consider unprofessional. Even if the bouncer's boss was cool with it, in certain jurisdictions, this could be considered assault and/or abuse, and could potentially be the basis for a lawsuit. Just some food for thought.

You would think after a time or two you would figure it out. Don't pass out in the bar.

Easy to say. But speaking from experience as the guy who's been known to pass out in bars, the problem is that when you do so, you are drunk, and thus your judgment is, to use a technical term, pretty much fucked. "Wake up, Jester!" "I AM awake! I'm fine, damnit!" Etc., etc.

I was napping at bible camp, in my bunk, in my cabin (Shared with five other girls) when they decided to put toothpaste and other stuff on me in the same manner - and I was napping where I was SUPPOSED to be napping during quiet hour. Its humiliating and just sucky IMHO.

THAT situation sucks. Those people sucked. I have participated in a situation similar to that in a dorm, but there was a difference. Yeah, the guy was passed out in his bed in his room. However, he left his door open, he was naked, he was clearly drunk, and he had done all that while his roommate was trying to study. His roommate alerted us to the sitch, and we pounced, dressing the dude up with various food products. And that, my friends, is how he got the nickname Tomato Head. Immature? Sure. I admit we were. But the dude got what was coming to him, due to what he subjected his roommate to. (Of course, that was the logic of a bunch of 19 year old college students at one of the biggest party schools in the nation. Your mileage may vary.)

Now if you'll excuse me, I need to go get a beer....and a nap.