Abusive Ex Husband

[Eisa]

Abusers of any sort tend to be very good at manipulation.

I still remember actually believing that it was all my fault and feeling horrible that I didn't trust him when he had actually tied me up in trying to...um...hurt me, and I got free. All of a sudden, it was a "trust-building exercise," and he was so disappointed in me...

I hate mind-fucks.

[Magpie]

bad things happening

Not good. Can you distract the mods so I can explain what I would like to do your ex?

[zombiequeen]

OK, my husband is so worried that I'll freak out because of what I went through that he starts crying and begging me not to be mad if he accidentally hurts me, like if we're playing around and I fall, or my notoriously weak wrists get bent wrong, or something silly like that. I have an older brother, I know the difference between rough housing and trying to hurt someone. I've made it plenty clear that if he ever hurt me on purpose, I would not just brush it off or think I deserved it.

He did finally get me to stop saying sorry all the time too. I was to the point where I'd be sorry for being sorry when I shouldn't have been sorry.

[Eisa]

Not good. Can you distract the mods so I can explain what I would like to do your ex?

Awww, thank you. Of course I can distract the mods! *dangles shiny things in front of them* Hey...does this work? Shiny? What if it's shiny bottles of, say, whiskey? And shiny boxes of chocolate? Mmmm, chocolate...

zombiequeen, I say sorry all the time, too! Although I'm trying to stop.

[Whiskey]

I'm not a mod but suddenly i am distracted

[ADoyle90815]

OK, my husband is so worried that I'll freak out because of what I went through that he starts crying and begging me not to be mad if he accidentally hurts me, like if we're playing around and I fall, or my notoriously weak wrists get bent wrong, or something silly like that. I have an older brother, I know the difference between rough housing and trying to hurt someone. I've made it plenty clear that if he ever hurt me on purpose, I would not just brush it off or think I deserved it.

He did finally get me to stop saying sorry all the time too. I was to the point where I'd be sorry for being sorry when I shouldn't have been sorry.

I had the same issue of saying sorry when I shouldn't have, as I was also in a verbally abusive relationship, and my boyfriend got me to quit apologizing all the time. He also reassured me that there was no excuse for the abuse, and that I didn't cause it in any way.

[Skelly]

Had an abusive boyfriend in high school. I had 3 friends from work holding my hand when I called to break up with him. Couldn't get any of my school "friends" or anybody in my family to believe what had happened to me and we still had classes together. I made sure to never be alone with him at school. He didn't drive (I'd been his ride everywhere for the last year) so I could go out with my work friends without a problem but PTSD was not fun to deal with.

He showed up at a couple of events I went to last year and started following me around again. I was a nervous wreck until a friends son (6'4" hockey player) caught up with him and had a "chat". I have no idea what actually happened but the ex disappeared and I haven't heard anything about him since.

Shotgun. Shovel. Remote location. You do the math .

[Sheldonrs]

Shotgun. Shovel. Remote location. You do the math .

You forgot the bag of lyme.

[draco664]

What if it's shiny bottles of, say, whiskey?

I'm not a mod but suddenly i am distracted

I'm not surprised. If someone was threatening to bottle me, I'd be distracted too...

[Kristev]

You know what my favorite scene in "To Wong Foo, thanks for everything, Julie Newmar" was?

When Vida, forced to remember that she actually really is a man, decides to be one for a moment and puts a stop to Virgil abusing his wife.

She intrudes into the room as Virgil is beating his wife, and she can't stop crying out. The other two 'girls' are with her, and escort the wife out of the room. Virgil is, of course, quite angry.

He attempts to hit Vida, but Vida is really Patrick Swayze. Nobody tries to hit Patrick Swazye . . .

The next scene is Vida literally kicking Virgil out of the house, then locking him out.

[zzapp the witch]

Now remember, boys and girls, don't mix up your lyme and your quick lyme!

And its ok girls, bf's been breaking me of the "sorry" thing, too. I also cringe whenever he gets a certain tone of voice, not that his tone is inappropriate for what's going on, just reminds me of past things with other ppl.

He shouted at the dog once, and I flinched, he looked at me surprised and I said, "Sorry!" And he's looking all embarrassed while trying to be stern with me about not apologizing anymore.

He's so cute.

[Racket_Man]

I will point everyone to this thread started by Jester
http://www.customerssuck.com/board/s...ht=tiny+dancer

[zzapp the witch]

That is still the most heartbreaking thing I've ever read.

[superhotelworker]

yet another reason I will one day have to go meet Jester. He's one of the few good guys I've found on here that doesn't seem to think with just lower anatomy. Though that seems to be able to be said for most guys on here: THANK YOU FOR HAVING BRAINS. Now teach your local males. Maybe some of the male ego will die and this "Must hit to be heard" Mentality stupid people have, will be killed off.

[Seshat]

He did finally get me to stop saying sorry all the time too. I was to the point where I'd be sorry for being sorry when I shouldn't have been sorry.

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Okay. Yet another reason I was probably an abused child. I'm still trying to shake that behaviour.