Choose now or you can STARVE!!!

[Kisa]

Best Mom Ever Award goes toooooo *drumroll* THIS LADY!!!

I was taking orders for Drive-Thru when she came to the speaker.

Best Mom Ever: I want blank, blah, flaggle, blablah.....what do you want?
Kiddo: I dunno....
Kid: Me neitherrrr....
BME: Well hurry up and choose.
Kid: ....
KIddo: ...ummmm....umaaaaa
BME: Do you want this?
Kid: Nooooo...
BME: How'bout that?
Kiddo: Nawwww.....
BME: Well you better hurry up and choose!!!!
Kiddo: MoOoOooMm
BME: CHOOSE RIGHT NOW OR YOU CAN STARVE FOR ALL I CARE!!!
Me:

Kiddo picked a cinnamon twist and she picked 2 small drinks for the kids. They looked about 4 and 6. O.o

[pageantmama]

I have pulled that one on my kids. They will tell me what they want and then decide to change their mind right as I pull up. Especially my oldest. And he is so dang picky he won't hardly eat anything anyway. He just decided to stop eating Krystals because he accidently got onions even though I ordered it plain. I told him they are all cooked on the same grill with onions and he has eaten them for years so just scrape them off and eat it. Since I said that he won't eat them at all. Just like he won't eat mashed potatoes but he loves fries so I took a fry and broke it in half and squished out the middle and said "look fries have mashed potatoes in them so I know you like mashed potatoes." Worked the opposite way I wanted, the kid would not eat fries for over a year after that because they had mashed potatoes in them.
I have apologized to the drive through person and just pulled completely away before because my kids (or even my husband once) has sat there and pulled that and I know the person taking the order and the people behind me don't want to deal with it.

[Gidgetdigit]

Sounds like she was having a bad day.

Still, if she had figured out what they wanted before she went through the Drive-Thru, she wouldn't have had this problem.

In our household, you have to make up your mind and stick with it. It's sort of like "Millionaire": "Is that your final answer?" After that, if they don't eat it, tough. They won't starve having to wait until their next meal.

[Laund-o-rama Mama]

I have a Spawn, I can relate too. But I usually use the "decide or I decide for you!" card.

It sucks you have to listen to it. Also, doesn't she think it might be easier to go into the dining room rather than tie up the drive-thru with her indecisive kids?? I really don't get the parents that take bratty/indecisive kids into the drive-thru, or pull up in a minivan with like half a dozen family members all with picky, special orders. GO INSIDE! Sheesh.

[Hyndis]

hehe, I like that!

The kid isn't going to starve to death. Hunger is a remarkable motivator for someone to be less picky or indecisive. If they're picky or indecisive to the point they can't choose something to eat in a reasonable timeframe, then they get nothing at all!

Maybe next time, when they're more hungry, they might be more decisive.

[ShootMePlease]

Haha. I've done that to my friend's kids when they have pulled the indecisive shit on me. And this is after I asked them what they wanted and they told me. I do recall "I guess you're going to starve then" being uttered from my lips quite a few times. My best friend's daughter couldn't wait to go home and tell Mom her mean friend wanted her to starve. She didn't like it when Mom laughed at her and told her she wouldn't have been as tolerant as I was.

[Teskeria]

pageantmama, guess I'm just a heck of a lot meaner than you are. My kids (like my siblings and me before them) ate what I set before them. If that meant they sat at the table until bedtime and went to bed hungry, so be it. They learned fast that I didn't stand for being picky (mind you allergies are a completely different matter, I DO NOT feed someone something they are allergic to!). The youngest is 25 now and they will eat almost anything (youngest still thinks she doesn't like peas, except when....) and willingly try new things at least twice (from different cooks)
My sister on the other hand, makes a separate meal for herself, each kid, and each kids friends if they say they don't want what she made. (Her kids BTW are late 20's). After working a 10 hour shift. And she wonders why when she said they need to help with the mortgage (they live with her) they both told her 'no. you wanted the house, you pay for it.

[Setsunaela]

Teskeria, my mom was somewhat in between you and your sister when I was little... you eather ate what she cooked for supper, or you made your own supper with the kitchen skills you had. No help. My little brother's picky stage was rather short-lived (four whole days) as he got sick of peanut butter on toast (he couldn't spread the peanut butter on untoasted bread) while watching us eat full meals.. but it was sort of nice once we'd grown up some and had some decent cooking skills, if she made something we REALLY didn't find appetizing. Heck some of my substitute suppers made it into the regular meal rotation.

[pageantmama]

pageantmama, guess I'm just a heck of a lot meaner than you are. My kids (like my siblings and me before them) ate what I set before them. If that meant they sat at the table until bedtime and went to bed hungry, so be it. They learned fast that I didn't stand for being picky (mind you allergies are a completely different matter, I DO NOT feed someone something they are allergic to!). The youngest is 25 now and they will eat almost anything (youngest still thinks she doesn't like peas, except when....) and willingly try new things at least twice (from different cooks)
My sister on the other hand, makes a separate meal for herself, each kid, and each kids friends if they say they don't want what she made. (Her kids BTW are late 20's). After working a 10 hour shift. And she wonders why when she said they need to help with the mortgage (they live with her) they both told her 'no. you wanted the house, you pay for it.

oh I have been meaner
My oldest has high functioning autism and he does have texture issues but mainly it is the stubborness. His behavior therapist told me do not send his lunch to school, do not make him a special meal just to get him to eat, set everything we were having in front of him and he would eventually eat. I got a written letter from him for the school so they would know to make him have a lunch in front of him from school. He is on an IEP at school so they know his issues. After 3 days of not eating ANYTHING his teacher called me. He was laying in the floor crying and saying his stomach hurt and when the teacher asked why he said because his mom wouldn't feed him Thank God I got the letter from the therapist for them and they knew what was going on and that in his mind since he wasn't getting what he wanted it meant mom was being mean and starving him. She asked could she please get him a cheese sandwich from the cafeteria and I told her fine. The next session the therapist said "well his stubborness won I guess. Just make him at least have the food in front of him, that is all I can tell you because it is not going to work on him" We have also threatened him with a feeding tube when he went through a period of eating nothing but mac and cheese. The therapist told him about it but I went home and got youtube videos of them inserting it and made him watch every second. Then when dinner came around and I tried to get him to eat a food I knew he liked before and he had his meltdown I grabbed him and put him in the car and told him we were going to see the doctor to get the tube put in his nose. He decided to finish up his meltdown and take a few bites. It did not work with new foods though unfortunately. He thinks I am so meeeaaannn.

[Captain Trips]

.... And she wonders why when she said they need to help with the mortgage (they live with her) they both told her 'no. you wanted the house, you pay for it.

That lady is no mother. Mother's teach their children the ways of the world. This woman is an enabler, who tries to mold the world to her children's tastes. Doesn't work. "You wanted the house, you pay for it"??? If MY kids had said that to me, then I would have returned with "Well, since YOU don't want to contribute to THIS house, YOU CAN FUCKING GO FIND YOUR OWN!"

Fortunately, it didn't go like that. The rules in our house were: if you stay in school, we will provide you with the support you need. If you don't stay in school, then you are expected to contribute to the household - monetarily is good, so is "chores." (I will NOT charge my own child "rent," but if an adult is living under my roof, they have to contribute to the upkeep of the home or have a damned good reason not to. Working towards a degree is a damned good reason, though.)

Isn't that the truth of the world? You only get it handed to you until you are considered capable of earning it yourself. And for most people, that's either age 18, or high-school or college graduation. (There are of course exceptions, but "lazy-assed good-for-nothing" is NOT one of them.)

[manybellsdown]

I totally sympathize with you pageantmama. My stepson has autistic behaviors due to his celiac disease. Before he was diagnosed, all he would eat was grilled cheese, chicken nuggets, pizza, and french fries. He would actually force himself to vomit if we made him eat a vegetable.

His mother caters to him when he's with her, but in my house the rule is "eat it or don't eat". Happily, since we discovered his celiac disease (daddy has it too, that's how we found out) he's begun to eat a much bigger variety of foods.

[pageantmama]

I totally sympathize with you pageantmama. My stepson has autistic behaviors due to his celiac disease. Before he was diagnosed, all he would eat was grilled cheese, chicken nuggets, pizza, and french fries. He would actually force himself to vomit if we made him eat a vegetable.

His mother caters to him when he's with her, but in my house the rule is "eat it or don't eat". Happily, since we discovered his celiac disease (daddy has it too, that's how we found out) he's begun to eat a much bigger variety of foods.

That is my son, he will force himself to vomit if we do somehow force him to try a new food. It gets really frustrating. Especially from family that say the same thing as parents with kids that only go through a short picky phase. Let him go hungry he will eventually eat. Yeah right.