Way to screw us AND your Dad!

[BeenThereDoneThat]

If this was my kid.. The only thing left in his room would be a bed, a dresser, and a (non radio) alarm clock..

We did that with my stepdaughter once. Took almost everything out of her room, put a key lock doorknob on her closet that locked from the INSIDE (actually I think that's where a lot of her stuff went), and took her bedroom door off. She was a preteen and didn't need much privacy...not a lot got her attention in those days but I think that one did quiet her down for a bit.

There's incidents all the time where a parent or other adult calls police, intending to scare a kid straight, then back off, only to discover that once the police are called, the process is all but automated. And the kid gets a criminal conviction and jail time out of it.

I wonder if the dad could find out what kind of charges he could press that would not mess up the kid's whole future. My brother was caught stealing from cars when he was about 16 and he did have to go before a judge...he was scared shitless. But eventually he got off with probation and community service, and after he turned 18 his underage record was either cleared or sealed (I forget which). Grand theft auto might not be a good charge to press with this kid but maybe something lesser might be a good way to scare the kid straight and still allow him to be treated as a minor whose brain will not be completely physically developed for quite some time

[Food Lady]

Records can be expunged; my brother's was. At any rate, that kid's attitude is evil and I agree with very strong punishment.

[BeenThereDoneThat]

Yeah, I think expunged was the word I was looking for also.

[suburbandecay]

We did that with my stepdaughter once. Took almost everything out of her room, put a key lock doorknob on her closet that locked from the INSIDE (actually I think that's where a lot of her stuff went), and took her bedroom door off.

I had a coworker who punished her kids that way when they were especially bad. She'd take the bedroom door and if they were really bad, she'd turn off the breaker for their room.

[Sapphire Silk]

WOW!.

I had a second cousin who wouldn't be above that sort of thing. My mother recommended contacting IL DCFS and declaring this piece of work 'beyond parental control' for less.

Not a bad idea, considering in some jurisdictions parents can be held criminally liable for the dumb things their kids do (and they're always civilly liable).

I wonder if the dad could find out what kind of charges he could press that would not mess up the kid's whole future. My brother was caught stealing from cars when he was about 16 and he did have to go before a judge...he was scared shitless. But eventually he got off with probation and community service, and after he turned 18 his underage record was either cleared or sealed (I forget which). Grand theft auto might not be a good charge to press with this kid but maybe something lesser might be a good way to scare the kid straight and still allow him to be treated as a minor whose brain will not be completely physically developed for quite some time

Juvenile records are sealed at age 18. As long as you don't get in trouble again, it won't hurt you much unless you are planning to join the military, and even then it only really hurts you if it is gang related, drug related, or involves violence.

And you can always get the records expunged, as someone else noted.

I would love to know the outcome of that situation. That was a mean vindictiveness like nothing I've ever seen.

[Ben_Who]

Reaching the age of majority may be no salvation either. When my cousin was caught letting her college roommate use her birth certificate to get a fake ID, Auntie sued her for the costs of her college education, which she had, until then, free-ride paid for.

Scared ME straight, since Mom seemed to love the story and related it constantly, so I lived in fear that she would try the same.

[rose_metal_nz]

*angry face* If he's old enough to drive, he's probably old enough to be kicked outta home. Hope he faced some SERIOUS consequences

[downforit2008]

If that were my kid, I'd have him sent on a one-way ticket to the Marines. Let the military take out that sick habit of his "I can do things my way" attitude and mold him into a respected person of the service. He's been spoiled too much in his childhood!

[LillFilly]

I believe the kid was not younger than 16. The father admitted that they were having trouble with him, he told me a pretty personal story that I can't recall now, but had some family friends that were going to help him try and straighten out his kid. He didn't say anything about criminal charges. He seemed a little resigned to the fact that his kid behaved like that, making me think it wasn't the first time something like this had happened. He seemed too nice to have raised a brat like that. It made me glad for once though, that corporate doesn't like us calling to have vehicles towed.

[Skelly]

If that were my kid, I'd have him sent on a one-way ticket to the Marines. Let the military take out that sick habit of his "I can do things my way" attitude and mold him into a respected person of the service. He's been spoiled too much in his childhood!

I doubt the Marines want jackasses like that kid.

[Moosenogger]

I doubt the Marines want jackasses like that kid.

Are you kidding? Marines love when they get snot-nosed punks who think they're hot ****. Only takes a few days of getting screamed at and forced to do hard labor before the kids are crying for their parents to take them back.

[Draco]

Not a bad idea, considering in some jurisdictions parents can be held criminally liable for the dumb things their kids do (and they're always civilly liable).



Juvenile records are sealed at age 18. As long as you don't get in trouble again, it won't hurt you much unless you are planning to join the military, and even then it only really hurts you if it is gang related, drug related, or involves violence.

And you can always get the records expunged, as someone else noted.

I would love to know the outcome of that situation. That was a mean vindictiveness like nothing I've ever seen.

Unless it's changed in the past 10 years since I took a law course in High School, in Pennsylvania, juvenile records are kept until 25/26 years of age. Used to be 18 until something like the year before I took that course, but few seemed to know.

[ShootMePlease]

Had this been my kid he would have been on his own from that point on. Anything that he needed would be paid for by him, or he wouldn't have it. The things that I paid for would be removed from his room, where he would be going to straight from school and/or work. His meals would be of my choosing, and he would not be permitted to eat with the rest of the family. What's that ? You got a baloney sandwich and we were eating steak ? Well, isn't that too bad. He would get the equivalent of an Amish shunning.

His actions and behavior from that point on would dictate whether or not he was shown the door on his 18th birthday, with the edict that he not contact us for any reason.

[Difdi]

I wonder if the dad could find out what kind of charges he could press that would not mess up the kid's whole future.

In most places, this would result in a grand theft auto charge. It's not the complainant who picks what charge is pressed, it's the district attorney's office. In some places, it's not even up to the complainant IF charges are pressed, charges might be filed even against the wishes of the parent who reports their kid. Once reported, it's up to the cops and prosecutor. Whether to charge the kid as an adult is likewise up to the prosecutor - adult charges are NOT expunged at 18.