No, I don't want to have a threesome with you.

[notlovinit]

So this story happened a long time ago, before I knew how to stand up for myself. I just stood there and took it for a lot longer than I should have. If anything like this happened now I would actually say something.
This happened at the second window when I was handing out food to this guy in the driver’s seat and his wife in the passenger’s seat.
SC – The guy
W – Wife of the SC, she was in no way sucky the whole time and discouraged him from talking a lot
Some of this isn’t going to be word for word since it was so long ago, but it is as close as possible. One thing I can’t remember is how I knew they were married. I know he mentioned it at some point, but I’m not sure where so I will just leave it out.
SC- Hey, I was just wondering what you are doing after work?
Me – Uhm, probably sleeping.
SC – Well, do you want to hang out with us?
Me – No, I really need to get to sleep.
SC – We’re looking for a partner in a threesome. Are you interested?
Me – (Note: This guy was NOT attractive either. The wife was and I could see why SHE would want to involve someone else in their marriage, but he should have just counted his blessings instead of chatting up the girl in the DT) No, I’m not interested.
SC – Why not?
Me – I just don’t want to.
SC – Well, are you married or something?
Me – No, but I have a boyfriend.
SC – Does he please you sexually?
Me - *giggles nervously and looks around for help* I’m fine, thanks.
SC – How big is he? I bet I’m bigger.
W – Honey, stop!
SC – No, I wanna know how big this guy is that she’s turning ME down.
W – Let’s go! She might call the cops!
SC – What time do you get off?
Me – When we close (note: this wasn’t the true time I got off. I’m not THAT stupid.)
Then they finally left. I got my guy friend to stay with me at work to make sure the guy didn’t come back. My boyfriend was off in TX for basic training at the time.
Please don’t judge me for not saying something to him. I was really young at the time that this happened (like MINOR young).

[EricKei]

Please don’t judge me for not saying something to him. I was really young at the time that this happened (like MINOR young).

You have nothing to be ashamed of. The guy was being a major skeeve >_< And to a minor, no less. Thank goodness (for his sake) his wife at least realized that you would have been fully justified in calling the cops!

[Hanzoku]

Too late now, but you should have said in a loud voice "Sir, I am a minor and I am calling the police about your attempts to solicit me for sex."

Then run a stopwatch to see how fast he can peel out of the parking lot.

[MoonCat]

Ewwww. Talk about icky. Even if he was attractive, that's so no-class it's not funny. I hope he tried it with someone whose boyfriend was there to, ahem, "discourage" him.

ETA: I have nothing against consensual, legal-age threesomes. But this guy was out of line.

[blas]

No need to apologize for not saying anything back then.

It's rare that people actually get the cue or the balls or the skill to say just the right thing to the wrong person in those situations.

And, plus, most of the people who preach about what you should have said or done, they probably wouldn't have done it themselves, then or now.

[Hyndis]

No need to apologize for not saying anything back then.

It's rare that people actually get the cue or the balls or the skill to say just the right thing to the wrong person in those situations.

And, plus, most of the people who preach about what you should have said or done, they probably wouldn't have done it themselves, then or now.

Yup, frequently what happens is that the madness is so completely random and unexpected that your brain just sort of shuts down, trying to figure out exactly how it got into crazy-land when everything was perfectly normal just a few seconds ago.

Poor brains can be stunned and dazed by the sheer stupidity of the situation.

[emax4]

Yeah, you didn't do anything wrong. I think it's one of those instances where I wouldn't have had the right comeback until later, but it might have been, "oh, so you're one of those people that will just give in to random strangers? It's a miracle you've stayed alive for this long..."

[Amajean]

I am soooo sorry hun! There's always going to be pervs out there! I had a few incidents myself, but not so crazy. There was a guy claiming I was going to run away with him, but that I was so young (18), I asked him how old he was he said __ and I said oh, you're younger than my bf and he took off. There was a more serious incident where no co workers were around and a customer tried getting a kiss out of me and hun this was no drive through. I too, like you was too like wtf? to do anything but told a manager later, who told me that he would've personally escorted the guy out if he had known. Next time, tell a manager.

[Pixilated]

Too late now, but you should have said in a loud voice "Sir, I am a minor and I am calling the police about your attempts to solicit me for sex."

Then run a stopwatch to see how fast he can peel out of the parking lot.

Oooh, love it!!

You have nothing to apologize for. You were young and not at all used to dealing with scumbags like that. In my early years, I'd have stammered and stuttered my way out of it as best I could. Nowadays I'd either give him a long once-over and then laugh myself sick ("Hey, everybody, come look at what just propositioned me!!!") or cut him off at the knees in extremely rude language and then slam the window shut.

[notlovinit]

Next time, tell a manager.

I guess I should have mentioned in the post. I WAS the manager on duty . My store broke a few rules to promote me before I was of age. I was the highest person on duty and there were only two coworkers there at the time that were too far away to see what was going on. It was way late at night.

Thank you everyone for being so nice. I was really expecting a lot of "well you should have done this or that" posts, which when I think about the experience I'm always thinking WHY didn't I do such and such. Hate when that happens.

ETA: I guess what surprised me the most about was not that he was suggesting it (I mean, yeah that is gross), but that he thought I would give in eventually if he asked enough. Like "Oh, she's at work and I'm a customer. She HAS to do what I want." Or that he was just so attractive no one could resists.

[XCashier]

You're not the only one who's been hit on by some sleaze. And Hyndis is right; the situation starts out perfectly normal, then this crap comes out of left field and leaves your brain going You can never come up with a clever putdown like they do on sitcoms because real life isn't scripted. And too few young people are taught about their rights and what to do when someone makes an unwelcome pass at them.

I'm not going to tell you what you "should have done"; I "should have" reacted differently too when it happened to me. All I can suggest is to learn your rights. Maybe teach them to your younger siblings, cousins and coworkers so they don't get blindsided as well.

[HappyFun Ball]

Maybe his own wife cut him off and told him she might sleep with him if he could get someone else involved.. And didn't think he could find anyone.

Doesn't excuse what he did, but its just a theory.

Don't worry about it, I've often been sideswiped by SC's

[pltkcelestial18]

That really does suck, especially when you're still kinda young and not sure what to say.

I started working at a grocery store halfway into my senior year of high school as a bagger and worked there for 2 and half years. I had my fair share of creepy. Once, I was taking this guy's groceries out who was probably at least 15 years older than me (possibly more, he looked like he could've aged well) and started asking me if I was married or if I had a boyfriend and if not was I looking and did I want to move in with him and stuff. I hurried up and put his stuff in his truck and booked it.

[Sapphire Silk]

What an ass.

No worries, notlovinit. We've all had to to learn through the school of hard knocks. There are some things in life you just have to go through before you figure out how to deal with them . . . and age does not make one immune to this fact of life.

You actually handled it fairly well, all things considered.

[ackmeow]

A friend once told me that a threesome is a man's way of sleeping with other women when he wants. I can't understand that at all.

Poor you. I hope you forget that little incident.