etiquette, or fishing for the answer they want to hear

[depechemodefan]

A woman calls the library:

sc: I'm sending invitations for a bachelorette party, and I want a way to politely say "no children" on the invites.
me: *thinking, seriously?* ok, let me look this up.
So I go to Emily Post's Etiquette, which only tells me "people can not bring people who are not listed on the invitations". Of course, how did that stop anyone from bringing their kids
So I google this, and come to yahoo answers blog. I find someone mentioned "Adults only occasion".
me:Ok, I didn't have any luck with Emily Post's Etiquette, since it mentions people who are invited can't bring people not on the invitation; it doesn't mention a way to politely tell people not to bring their kids. But I found on yahoo answers that you can put on top of the invitation, "Adults only occasion".
sc: but I already made the invitations!
me: *thinking seriously?* Well, then, just add a note.
sc: inside the invitations?
me: yes.
sc: ok

I felt like she was fishing for an answer.

[starsinthesky]

I am sorry, I think my brain just exploded. She wanted to know how to make it clear on the invites that the party was for adults only, but she already printed them up?

[Crossbow]

Ok, my reception was adults only, but we at least thought of that before having the invitations made up. Of course, I don't remember how we worded it (it's been 16 years)....

[gremcint]

due to legal reasons of the venue no one under the age of 18?

[NateTheChops]

That "unaccompanied minors will be given free espresso" sign just keeps coming up.

[depechemodefan]

I just imagine she ordered the invites and showed them to the bride-to-be who then mentioned that something about kids not being invited.

I kind of wonder who would bring kids to a bachelorette party, since I always imagine "crazy" and "penis-shapped cakes/pins/party favors".

[NateTheChops]

There is always that one case of the single mother who can't leave her child alone and wonders if it will be safe to bring junior along and just let him play his gameboy, etc. Can't say I wasn't the unwitting victim in similar moments where the invite clearly didn't state not to bring me along.

[Syriilord]

Never been to a bachelorette party myself (probably has something to do with this curse of being a ruggedly handsome eligible bachelor ) but I would have imagined that they are a no-kids affair as standard.

One has to wonder what kind of parties the woman in the OP has been to

[MoonCat]

I would have been more surprised if one of the attendees brought her kids along. It's a bachelorette party. They're not usually, well, "suitable for children," let's say.

[Mongo Skruddgemire]

That "unaccompanied minors will be given free espresso" sign just keeps coming up.

No...

"Any children attending this party will be given a quad-damage mocha, a bag of pixy-stix, and a puppy."

[Mel]

Wait, she was asking for a bachelorette party. I had to go back to make sure. I first thought you were talking about wedding invitations.

If she feels the need to to point out 'no kids' for a bachelorette party, then...umm, what kind of people does she know...lol

[RealUnimportant]

Maybe she's the last of her group to marry, & all the rest have simultaneously squeezed out their first little rugrats?

[RedRoseSpiral]

I've been to a bachelorette party with kids. It was my cousin's party. I was there (17 so not too much of a kid), my other cousin who was about 11, a 5 year old, and a new born. It was at a bar and grill.

We ended up getting kicked out and the cops called on us for not paying all of the bill. Except the waitress tried charging us for food we didn't order, added on several drinks from people who were sitting in a different section than us, and then added a 25% tip to the bill. The cops ended up being drinking buddies of my aunt and we ended up not having to pay anything for the inconvenience once the manager realized the cops weren't taking their side.

[manybellsdown]

So I go to Emily Post's Etiquette, which only tells me "people can not bring people who are not listed on the invitations". Of course, how did that stop anyone from bringing their kids

Unfortunately, some people don't understand this when making the invitations. Last year my husband's brother got married, and the invitation was addressed to me and him only. Not to our teenage daughter. We had to call and make sure she was invited too. BIL was surprised we'd asked - "of course she's invited!" But I would have assumed she was not, from the invite.

[Solumina]

People send out actual invitations for a bachelorette party?