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  • #1

    My family upset me this weekend

    Both my sisters are mothers. My youngest sister and her 4 yo son live with my parents while she goes through divorce with no child support.
    For Mother's Day myself and all my siblings got mom something, from flowers to rose bushes. The whole family gathered at my one living grandmother's house for brunch, bringing food, cards, and presents.
    I called later on in the day and asked my younger sister what she got for Mother's Day, because I assumed at the least someone would get her son to draw her a picture or make a card. Nope! My sister got nothing!

    I was so upset I immediately got on amazon and ordered something I knew she would like, then told her when to expect a package.

    It arrived yesterday and she called it "The most epic Mother's Day present ever."

    I can't believe my parents. They make their favoritism so obvious at times like that.
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    I used to get shafted on Mother's Day too. My mom says I'm not a "real mom" because I had emergency C-sections.

    Now hubs and the kids spoil me

    Glad you took care of sis!
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    • #3
      Quoth Kanalah View Post
      My mom says I'm not a "real mom" because I had emergency C-sections.
      Huh? What the fuck? I have no words.

      Akasa, I'm so glad your sister has you. What a rotten thing for your parents to do. I can't believe they couldn't even have the child draw a picture or something. How thoughtless.
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      • #4
        That's...just...bizarre. They have to pass through the birth canal to be 'official'? WTF?

        Poor sister. I had my son draw cards for both grandmothers and my husband had him make one for me.
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        • #5
          I was seriously in tears over it. My BF was like "why are YOU crying over this!?"

          I guess I'm overly sensitive to the favoritism of my parents.

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          • #6
            Kanalah -- wtf...>_< Yeek. I have no words.

            My brother and I were both C-sections. A mom is a mom! We had dinner at bro's house for her (and his wifey and her mom)...Made our mom's fave dish: Stuffed bell peppers
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            • #7
              my mom had 3 c sections, and only one labor. 25 hours for me ^_^ this year i gave her a card and organic pecan cookies and meimei bought her mexican food and the boy failed per usual to remember a holiday/event. he forgot my birthday too

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              • #8
                I was going to say that I bet Kanalah's folks don't consider adoptive or foster parents, OR guardians who parent, to be 'real' parents either.

                Aunts, uncles, grandparents or godparents who are the primary carer count as 'parents' for 'mother's day/father's day' sort of purposes, IMO.
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                • #9
                  Quoth patiokitty View Post
                  And that includes moms who adopt or foster, or their kids are feathered or furry
                  Discrimination! So you're saying that if the kids are scaly (fish, reptiles), the "mother" is less of a mom?
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                  • #10
                    Quoth AnaKhouri View Post
                    That's...just...bizarre. They have to pass through the birth canal to be 'official'? WTF?
                    No kidding, major surgery isn't enough for her?!
                    I'm trying to see things from your point of view, but I can't get my head that far up my keister!

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                    • #11
                      Quoth Kanalah View Post
                      My mom says I'm not a "real mom" because I had emergency C-sections.
                      What were you supposed to have done? Take some castor oil and jump up and down?
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                      • #12
                        Quoth patiokitty View Post
                        And that includes moms who adopt or foster, or their kids are feathered or furry - you love, care for, and nurture another life then you're a parent, mother or father.
                        Very much agree with this.....with one of my cats, I pretty much HAD to be her mom because she and her littermates were abandoned at less than a month old.

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                        • #13
                          Actually according to my mom, you have to give birth without painkillers or any aid whatsoever.



                          But Mom lives in another world anyway. She actually had the nerve to tell me that the years of emotional abuse I suffered from her was the "right thing for her to do" because I "turned out okay." Yeah no thanks to you.
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                          • #14
                            Quoth Kanalah View Post
                            I used to get shafted on Mother's Day too. My mom says I'm not a "real mom" because I had emergency C-sections.
                            Quoth Kanalah View Post
                            Actually according to my mom, you have to give birth without painkillers or any aid whatsoever.
                            I have a message for your mom:

                            Woman, go fuck yourself.

                            Furthermore, get the fuck over yourself? Just who the fuck do you think you are? And who the fuck elected you to be the Sole Arbiter of Motherhood?

                            A mother raises a child, whether they came through the birth canal (with or without drugs) or came out through a C-section, or were adopted.

                            Let me ask you this, All-Knowing Expert on Motherhood: the children of a woman who didn't give birth the only way you deem qualifies her as a Real Mother--are they not "real" children? Are they somehow lesser because their mother adopted, or followed her physician's orders, or did something in a way other than you?

                            Ah, forget it. We both know logic and rational thought has nothing to do with any of things crap. So, back to my original comment:

                            Woman, go fuck yourself.

                            Quoth Marmalady View Post
                            What were you supposed to have done? Take some castor oil and jump up and down?
                            Classic!

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                            • #15
                              I've come across that reasoning before, but usually from lady friends' MILs. It's ignorant and hateful, and classic narcissism.

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