dendawg needs prayers, badly

[Crossbow]

I'm so sorry, dendawg. All my thoughts and prayers are with you right now.

[Irving Patrick Freleigh]

Umm...what??!?!

I must've misunderstood this:

My ex-wife actually suggested that I 5150 myself if the worst happens, even though I haven't been having suicidal thoughts. (yet)

Anyhow, very very sorry to hear of your loss.

[csquared]

I am so sorry to hear about your loss.

Don't worry about how you will react at the viewing. You are grieving. It is expected.

[Marmalady]

Dendawg, I'm so sorry to hear this. You and your mother are in my thoughts.

[Victory Sabre]

I offer my condolences for your loss.

[Mytical]

This is the first I have heard of this. I am sorry for your loss.

[morgana]

So sorry, Dendawg. --hugs--

[DGoddessChardonnay]

Dendawg, I'm so sorry, Hon.

You need anything, let us know. We're here for you.

[MoonCat]

Very, very sorry to hear this. Been there. {{{hugs}}}

[cleorose]

I am so so sorry. I remember losing my mom and I have no words or advice that will make it easier. I can just send hugs.

[El Pollo Guerrera]

I'm sorry for your loss.

[dendawg]

Thanks, everybody, for the well wishes. I'm still very much a wreck and uncertain of things, but have been speaking with family all day yesterday. I have a cousin that sounds like she wants to take me in and help me get SSI benefits, etc.

The viewing for my mom will be sometime Sunday, with the funeral the morning after, in I believe Russell Springs, KY. She'll be buried between my dad and her dad. Sadly, most of my family won't be able to make it because of distance, the farthest away being in TX.

As I said before, this is one of the hardest things I've EVER had to do, taking it day by day, but I think with my cousin helping, I think I'll be okay....eventually.

[wolfie]

My condolences on your loss. BTW, you might want to change your "location" information.

[CorneliaMarieRocks]

first of all, I'm so sorry to hear of your loss..prayers going out to you ((hugs))

If I may make a suggestion, is there going to be anyone else other than you & your cousin making funeral arrangements? had your mom ever discussed her wishes with you for when the time came? The reason I ask this is, on July 22nd it will have been 3 months since we buried my grandmother on my mother's side, she had advanced dementia & was living with us when she died, here at home...Years ago, when my grandad & my great uncle were still living, they made pre-arrangements with the funeral home there in Ft. Worth, they had the plots, the headstones, coffins, all that pretty much paid for & had told the funeral home (and my mom) what songs to play, what they wanted to be dressed in etc etc. When my granddad died she wanted an open casket (as was the same with my great uncle but I don't know b/c I wasn't able to go)

But, when the time came to make final arrangements with the place in Ft. Worth when granny died, the funeral director (who knew my grandparents, the place is a family run place) asked my mom whether we wanted an open casket or not, my mother said "No there's no reason for that" BTW, there apparently was a break down in communication somewhere because they DID NOT our wishes.

My point is, and yes I do have one, in MY humble opinion, unless your mom was adamant about it (or your cousin pushes for it) why have a viewing at all? Honestly, I think it makes it harder for the family having an open casket, but again, that's dependant on what YOU want

again, condolences on your loss ((HUGS))

[dendawg]

is there going to be anyone else other than you & your cousin making funeral arrangements? had your mom ever discussed her wishes with you for when the time came?

Actually my sister was making the arrangements. All I knew was that she wished to be buried between her dad and my dad.

My point is, and yes I do have one, in MY humble opinion, unless your mom was adamant about it...why have a viewing at all?

It'll be hard for me tomorrow, but open casket viewings/funerals (the casket is closed after the viewing) are all I've ever known. I've never cried at any either, but I get the feeling tomorrow will be the exception.