One of my best friends killed himself today

[Crossbow]

Oh, screw that. Yeah, you don't need that BS in your life. Good riddance to her.

[Akasa]

I've been helping BFF with funeral arrangements. Funeral is tomorrow and I have a stress migraine.

[RootedPhoenix]

Hugs and prayers.

[Akasa]

Made it through funeral. There was some family drama from in laws trying to steal the spotlight.

I was on tissue, hand holding, literal shoulder to cry on duty.

My little brother played bouncer and kept everyone not on the short list away from her.

[JustaCashier]

Akasa, condolences to you and your friend. Such a painful loss.

Good move on cutting Step M-i-L out of your life. She sounds toxic.

Mike

[Akasa]

In 2 hours it will be exactly 2 weeks. I'm trying to get her to come over.

[Akasa]

I got home last week. BFF has done some reading and says that usual grief cycles are different for suicide. That there's a lot of layers, so we can be basically in shock for a while before it really hits us.

Shock is a good description of what I feel. I just can't get to the point where I can cry again. I haven't really sobbed since right after it happened. On occasion I'll have a tear make a track, but no real healing crying.

[protege]

Sorry for your loss

Thought I'd mention this--don't ever feel that there's a "correct" way to grieve. Losing a friend or family member affects everyone differently. Nobody should be told how to grieve or even when to stop. If they do, repeat after me: "Go fuck yourself."


But seriously, take care of yourself too, OK?

[Akasa]

I forgot to tell you guys about the BS the Social Security office put the widow through.

Friend killed himself 5/29. 5/30 is Memorial day so Social Security office was closed. She goes in TUESDAY, and the bitch behind the counter told her she should have come in sooner.

Widow was like "On Memorial Day when your office was CLOSED?! Or how about the weekend when your office was CLOSED?! TELL ME HOW I COULD HAVE COME IN EARLIER?!"

[Eireann]

I agree with protege. There just is no "right" way to grieve, and from hard and bitter experience, I know that we don't grieve in the same way for different people. You would think that one person would always grieve in the same way, but that's not what happens. Sometimes you start with shock. Sometimes you burst into tears right away. There's just no way to know how it will happen, even when you have some advance warning of the person's passing.

And, good for your friend's widow! I hope she shut that bitch up!