Dating Advice

[BookstoreEscapee]

Given the extra info in your follow-up posts, I can understand you want to give him the benefit of the doubt...if you think he's telling the truth, go ahead and give him one more chance. Really, you're the only one who can decide that. But be cautious and if he cancels again, I'd say the hell with him. Either he's chickening out or he's jerking you around. Either way, do you really want to deal with that? It's not like you've got years of history invested in this person. He may be a nice guy, but if he can't follow through on plans you're just going to be frustrated, at the very least, if you try to pursue him. And hey, guys generally understand baseball...tell him it was strike three if you feel you must give him a reason.

[RecoveringKinkoid]

You know, GK, I was just thinking about that.

1.Nothing is known about this guy at all. A person can be anything they want online.

2. I can't even get my head around the statement "I don't knowwhat to do if he cancels again."

TA. Honey. Come on.

[Fufu487]

I with RK on this one. He should have known well ahead enough about the family to have known. And even thoy ouve talked to him alot, you dont really know him. I dont usually take anyone I meet online seriously unless I actually meet them . If you want to give him the benefit of the doubt, I can understand that. But stay sceptical and keep your guard up, cuz it seems a lil iffy........

[technical.angel]

Well, I know what to do if he cancels, I just don't know how to do it.

And it's not like I have a bevy of guys knocking down my door...

[Rapscallion]

All I want is help phrasing a " off" letter. :: sniffle ::

Yeah, I'd better make sure you don't get your hopes up. You've blanked on me twice. Forget the whole thing. If you're that unlucky I don't really want to be around you, and if you're just chicken then I don't want to be around you. Bye.

How's that? Covers the essential bases, methinks.

Rapscallion

[technical.angel]

Um... it's a start?

[Rapscallion]

Intended as a finish

Rapscallion

[Fufu487]

Intended as a finish

Rapscallion

ummm...maybe some editing required before sending?? FANTASTIC start to the letter, but this guy may, in fact, have feelings.....maybe??? Good start tho

[evilminion007]

that happened to me many times also.............after three strikes move on ....you dont deserve him....do what i did, move on !!

[RecoveringKinkoid]

I'm sure he does have feelings, and if he'd like to have them considered by others, maybe he should start by considering those of others.

[Kittish]

How about this:

"I'm sorry, but this just isn't working out. I need someone with a bit more stability in their life. I wish you all the best."

Short, sweet, to the point and polite. Not that I really think the guy deserves polite, he really does appear to be yanking your chain deliberately. I mean, really, he didn't KNOW, weeks beforehand, that his family was going to be in town that night?? TA, honey, he's playing you, seeing just how far you'll let him go.

He might come across as 'a nice guy', but trust me on this one, he isn't. He isn't worth any more of your time or emotion.

I don't have guys beating down my door either, but I'm absolutely NOT desperate enough to put up with BS like that. You need to ask yourself 'am I really that desperate?'

[technical.angel]

Thanks, Kittish, that's exactly the kind of thing I was looking for.

[Rapscallion]

"Dear Potential Boything.

Sorry, but I decided I prefer my men attractive."

Any better?

Rapscallion

[crazylegs]

TA,

Just get shot of him (not literally, that's a bit too much paperwork). He's been a no show for two potential dates. If he is that nervous do you really want to deal with his neurotic behaviour, and if he's that flaky do you really want him bailing out all the damn time?

[smileyeagle1021]

So this family from hundreds of miles away didn't tell him they were coming for a visit until the night before they were due in? That's driving a long ass way to visit someone without even confirming they were gonna be there beforehand.

Playing the devil's advocate here... I've before called up my mom and said "hi, leaving salt lake in about half an hour, I'll be there in time for dinner"
so it is possible.