Dating Advice

[technical.angel]

Both times, he canceled the night before. It left me hanging, but not hanging in a restuarant waiting for him.

Why? Did he explain why he bagged on you?

The first time he was sick, and worked open to close all week. The second time, he had family in town.

[blas]

I only use the rules of baseball with my friends.....not dates.

You blow me off once.....if you at least call or text me, I will give you another chance. You completely blow me off, no call no text no apology....you're done. Bonus points if when I speak with you again, you act like it's no big deal blowing someone off.

[RecoveringKinkoid]

I just figure I should at least tell him why I'm not talking to him anymore.

Why? Did he explain why he bagged on you?

Personally, I would have written him off after he bagged on me once. But twice?

And you'.re considering giving him a shot at doing it again? Exactly why are you so desperate? I mean, even if he doesn't bag on you the third time, what do you get? A guy who knows just how desperate you are knows he can treat you with disrespect because of it. That would be even worse than if he just bagged on you.

People treat you the way you demand to be treated. If you let people disrespect you, believe you me they will.

At this point, any attention from you will be regarded as desperation by him. It's not an attractive trait, but a lot of insecure or abusive men like that in a woman because they know they can mistreat a desperate woman and get away with it. Hell, he might even be testing you, who knows?

Move on. You should have moved on after the first dissing. And don't explain yourself because he doens't matter enough to have earned an explanation. And furthermore, he'll know why.

[The Gatekeeper]

What did you want me to say? Me and the roomie will be down with her hatchet and a bag of quicklime?

[technical.angel]

I just figure I should at least tell him why I'm not talking to him anymore.

[taxguykarl]

I'm with Gatekeeper on this.

Ask yourself: What makes this individual such a prize that you are willing to go to these lengths?

[technical.angel]

Okay, I need some dating advice, and GK is a little too passive aggressive to help.

I started talking to this guy on a free dating site. We clicked and took it to first Google talk and then skype.

The problem is that he's canceled two dates on me. I'm planning to stick to the 3 strikes rule, but I have no idea what to do if he strikes out.

Gatekeeper said just to delete him and move on. I need other suggestions.

Help!