Friend's Baby RIP

[Binky]

oh no! poor thing! hope she is ok, I could only imagine what she must be going through

[El Pollo Guerrera]

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Damn.

All I can say is best wishes out to her and her family.

[RavenStarr]

I am so sorry.

[Jangles the Moon Monkey]

I'm thinking of your friend and her loved ones. Don't be scared to ask her about the baby and just generally a shoulder to cry on and an ear to talk to.

[Bella_Vixen]

Oh dear.

*hugs*

[Plaidman]

Thank you for the advice. I tried to talk to her, but she gave me death glare and says she doesn't want to talk about it. I'm fine with that.

One of the classmates who sits at our table was excited. "OH how's baby!"

Girl: ."....Yeah, we're not going to talk about the baby"

Both me and the hippy woman next to me both looked at each other. At this point, only me, her, Sha and Ran who both sit with us in other classes with her and the teachers she has and dean knew of the lost. The girl that asked looked alittle taken aback, but backed off. Later when the girl had to leave to talk to someone, we filled her in.

Later in that class, my pal Jas needed some help, and I was trying to explain to him stuff when the girl came back. Jas, being the smartass he is and known jokester that we all love, even that girl,

"HEY! You losted your front backpack! Alright!"

Girl gave him death glare. He looked confused, and saw me shaking my head, and hippy lady shaking her head. (Not shaking head like "IDIOT, but shaking head like SHUTUP!"

I quietly whispered to him what happened, and he felt like shit and embrassed.

It does happen though. You don't expect it.



Later on, in Anatomy class which I share with her, Jas and hippy lady, we were watching videos on Urology, and including how to put on a catherer for males. However it was on a youtube, and from the screen it looked like it was a video on woman giving birth. One of the annoying assholes that we disliked joked about how he would never see a woman giving birth, and how it's the sickest thing in the world. Both me and Jason both blanked, and kinda argued over the fact of witnessing childbirth and not, and how I was arguing that it wasn't sick it was a natural thing and nothing to be grossed about.

Yeah. Jas and I were arguing over childbirth right in front of her. We both just spaced at that instant, and next thing we saw was her storming out with tears.

I felt like shit. I bereated myself silently about I should have never joked about that. The teacher, who has ears like a freaking hawk usually told me that Annoying guy didn't know about the lost of child, and I had to explain to her that I was talking about ME talking about it.

Both her and Hippy lady were telling me not to feel that way. It was a normal converstation and all that. but man I feel like utter shit.

Hippy lady went to talk to her, and they came back and I told her I was sorry, or tried to before she cut me off and told me it was fine, and she doesn't. want. to. talk. about. it.


I like the girl. She's incredibly strong willed person which I find attractive in women. ( I'm not going to ask her out or I only think of her in that terms). She's faced hardship before, and she tends to quickly and firmly smack me everytime I even attempt to insult myself even quietly and jokenly fashions. She's dealt with alot of hardship, and belives everyone can recover from hard stuff if they keep a positive attitude.

So I'm going to keep quiet about all you guys, as much as I want to let her know otherwise, I'm just not sure if it make her very pissed off at me or what.


Thank you all though. For alot.

[Mishi]

Plaidman, you did a good job by trying to respect her wishes, and yeah, you forgot for a moment. Still, you're being a good friend and you shouldn't stress about your slip up because you're human and everyone, regardless of how well intentioned they are, makes mistakes. Talk about ANYTHING else and just keep being her friend, that's the best anyone can do.

[tollbaby]

Well, while I can understand your embarrassment, please don't beat yourself up over this. It's like everyone trying not to think of the big white elephant sitting in the middle of the room.

Eventually, she will begin to grieve in earnest (right now, she's very angry, and that's natural) and while there will be tears and a lot of emotion, she's probably trying to keep that away from her "outside" life. She can't just shut herself away forever to cry, so she's trying to be strong and put on a brave face while in public. All you have to do is help her by being her friend. Be the guy she's come to like and respect, and the rest will fall into place. Yes, you and others will put collective feet in mouth occasionally... I've done it myself with my SIL. It's natural, and they won't hold a grudge. Just be there She may eventually want to talk about it, she may not. Either way, just respect her wishes and be her friend. That's all you can do *hug*

And don't sell yourself short You're worth a lot more than you give yourself credit for.