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As many of you know, I have had some not very good luck with roommates, and my current one is no exception.
So, I let her and her son move in after her husband attacked her. That was 6 weeks ago.
In that time period she has paid no rent, she has eaten my food, and her son has threatened to kill both me and my mother. Some of the stuff that the kid has done makes me truly despise him. On Friday I ordered myself some pizza and a thing of garlic bread that I was going to have for breakfast the next day, that little fucker, despite me explicitly telling him not to eat it because I was planning on having it for breakfast ate it all. I bought some peanut bars to have as snacks at work, the little shit ate nearly half the box (without asking if he could have any, of course). It has gotten to the point where I have had to put locks on the pantry to keep them from stealing stuff.
And the child, juvie would be the best thing that would ever happen to him. With luck an older child would beat the shit out of him on his first night and snap him out of this delusion of his that he's some badass. He has done nothing as far as chores (oh, excuse me, in 6 weeks he has done the dishes once and taken out the trash once). When I remind him that all members of the household need to pull their fair share, his response is "you aren't my father, and if you try to be, I'll kill you asshole". My mother was planning to come for Thanksgiving, and I reminded him, that as I rent it from her, this is her house, when she is here he will follow her rules. His response was the exact same "she isn't my mother, if she tries to be, I'll kill her"
Now, his real so called mother knows that he says this and the things he's done (stealing, skipping school, disrespecting elders, etc) and she just doesn't give a shit. Her response "oh, it's a phase, he'll grow out of it".
Oh yeah, to add to this, he threatened to fire pepperspray at my fiance when he asked him to put the sofa bed away when he wasn't using it. I've point blank told his mother, the next time that happens his phase will end with him being escorted away in handcuffs.
As it is, on Friday when my fiance gets back from Reno, we are going to kindly tell her that she has until the end of October to get the fuck out. My mother has point blank told me that not only is she tired of paying to support her, she works for one of the most prestigious financial firms in the UK (granted in the Reno office serving their customers who have relocated to the United States and some US based customers also) and she can't afford to have a delinquent in her home potentially sullying her reputation. For that matter, I'm going into accounting, I can't afford to have my reputation affected by having a child living with me who is skipping school and God knows what else. In the accounting and finance fields, your reputation is all that you have.
So, yeah, call me a monster if you will, but after 6 weeks of supporting her and her child because for 4 of those weeks she was just too lazy to work (she was offered jobs that she turned down because they just weren't what she wanted to do), and now she is paying off her debt from that month (which apparently she does not consider me one of her debtors). Oh, yeah, and by the way, if we accept the reality that I am not single (though for the foreseeable future the IRS won't see it that way), I live beneath the poverty line. I truly can't afford for someone to be dragging me down even further. On top of that, after her child threatened to kill me and my mother, I don't feel much sympathy at the fact that they will very possibly be homeless if they don't find someone else to sucker into supporting them.
ETA- I know that many of you also have me on facebook. Please do not mention this on facebook, as much as I want support on this, I don't want it crossing over into a public arena that my roommate has access to making things worse than they already are.
As many of you know, I have had some not very good luck with roommates, and my current one is no exception.
So, I let her and her son move in after her husband attacked her. That was 6 weeks ago.
In that time period she has paid no rent, she has eaten my food, and her son has threatened to kill both me and my mother. Some of the stuff that the kid has done makes me truly despise him. On Friday I ordered myself some pizza and a thing of garlic bread that I was going to have for breakfast the next day, that little fucker, despite me explicitly telling him not to eat it because I was planning on having it for breakfast ate it all. I bought some peanut bars to have as snacks at work, the little shit ate nearly half the box (without asking if he could have any, of course). It has gotten to the point where I have had to put locks on the pantry to keep them from stealing stuff.
And the child, juvie would be the best thing that would ever happen to him. With luck an older child would beat the shit out of him on his first night and snap him out of this delusion of his that he's some badass. He has done nothing as far as chores (oh, excuse me, in 6 weeks he has done the dishes once and taken out the trash once). When I remind him that all members of the household need to pull their fair share, his response is "you aren't my father, and if you try to be, I'll kill you asshole". My mother was planning to come for Thanksgiving, and I reminded him, that as I rent it from her, this is her house, when she is here he will follow her rules. His response was the exact same "she isn't my mother, if she tries to be, I'll kill her"
Now, his real so called mother knows that he says this and the things he's done (stealing, skipping school, disrespecting elders, etc) and she just doesn't give a shit. Her response "oh, it's a phase, he'll grow out of it".
Oh yeah, to add to this, he threatened to fire pepperspray at my fiance when he asked him to put the sofa bed away when he wasn't using it. I've point blank told his mother, the next time that happens his phase will end with him being escorted away in handcuffs.
As it is, on Friday when my fiance gets back from Reno, we are going to kindly tell her that she has until the end of October to get the fuck out. My mother has point blank told me that not only is she tired of paying to support her, she works for one of the most prestigious financial firms in the UK (granted in the Reno office serving their customers who have relocated to the United States and some US based customers also) and she can't afford to have a delinquent in her home potentially sullying her reputation. For that matter, I'm going into accounting, I can't afford to have my reputation affected by having a child living with me who is skipping school and God knows what else. In the accounting and finance fields, your reputation is all that you have.
So, yeah, call me a monster if you will, but after 6 weeks of supporting her and her child because for 4 of those weeks she was just too lazy to work (she was offered jobs that she turned down because they just weren't what she wanted to do), and now she is paying off her debt from that month (which apparently she does not consider me one of her debtors). Oh, yeah, and by the way, if we accept the reality that I am not single (though for the foreseeable future the IRS won't see it that way), I live beneath the poverty line. I truly can't afford for someone to be dragging me down even further. On top of that, after her child threatened to kill me and my mother, I don't feel much sympathy at the fact that they will very possibly be homeless if they don't find someone else to sucker into supporting them.
ETA- I know that many of you also have me on facebook. Please do not mention this on facebook, as much as I want support on this, I don't want it crossing over into a public arena that my roommate has access to making things worse than they already are.
Don't wait until the end of October unless you absolutely HAVE to. I think you should check out what Andara Bledin said, maybe that will help.
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