If That Which Does Not Kill Me Makes Me Stronger....

[Jester]

She destroyed my life.

No. No she didn't. She tried to destroy your life. But as you are discovering, and she soon will, she failed.

I'm going to live. I'm going to fight for those kids, because they are worth it. And I'm going to fight for me, because I'm worth it.

The dawn you never expected to see has arrived. Finally you get it, that it's time for a new start, and that it all starts with you.

I also feel.... awake. Alive. The veil has been lifted, everything looks clearer than before, more focused.

Yes, yes, yes, and yes. Don't you EVER forget how you feel right now! Don't let this woman drag you down again, and don't you dare let her try to weasel her way back into your life, something I would not at all put past her. Remember this moment, and it will serve you well in the future, not just with her, but with others, and most importantly, with yourself.

And I don't care how cheesy anyone thinks it is, this is the song for this moment.

I don't know where I go from here, I don't know what will happen. But I will remain true to myself. I'm going to stop trying to make everyone else happy at the expense of myself and start living for myself and to hell with whoever isn't okay with that. I'm going to live for my children, to make sure they never get burned as badly as I did. And may God have mercy on whoever hurts them, because I won't.

It's time to fight. It's time to live.

You are discovering your inner Phoenix: that no matter how badly you've been burned, you too can rise from the ashes and begin again, be reborn to hope and to life.

[Barefootgirl]

Kara, I am so sorry that you are going through all this cr*p right now. I think you are doing incredibly well to stay so upbeat and positive in the face of some truly appalling behaviour by that woman.

When will you next meet with your lawyer?

[Cat]

**many hugs**

You are strong...stay strong.

[Cookie]

Kara, crying for you right now. Crying that you're going through this crap, but also happy tears to read what you wrote. You ARE worth it. SHE is not worthy of YOU and she's making that more obvious every day!

[morgana]

Kara, girl, you rock! Hang on to those feelings, and don't ever let anyone chain you again.

[Kara]

And I don't care how cheesy anyone thinks it is, this is the song for this moment.

That's quite good for the situation, yes. My best friend sent me this last week, he said it made him think of what I was going through. I always called her my angel, it left me bawling the first time I heard it because it was absolutely right.

You are discovering your inner Phoenix: that no matter how badly you've been burned, you too can rise from the ashes and begin again, be reborn to hope and to life.

Do you know why that makes me smile? Because you are not the first to make that connection. I even referenced going down in flames and rising from the ashes on my facebook the other day. The Phoenix has always been one of my favorite mythical creatures, I think because I have this annoying habit of getting back up no matter how hard I'm knocked down. I had one put on my high school class ring just because I liked it (my school mascot was the Spartan). I wrote a fantasy-adventure trilogy named for it and it plays a big part of it. If I ever get a tattoo, I already know what it's going to be.

[Mikkel]

No. No she didn't. She tried to destroy your life. But as you are discovering, and she soon will, she failed.

You might say that she destroyed the life of lies she had seduced Kara into. Now Kara is free to live.
What's the legal consequences of accusing someone falsely of attempted murder? I hope the consequences are harsh .

And I don't care how cheesy anyone thinks it is, this is the song for this moment.

"Blocked for your country". Which song was it?

[surreal20]

Kara, I believe you to be a very amazing women. You have gone through hell and back, and you are a much better person for it.

I wish you all the good luck in the world, and pray that God makes this situation resolved in the best manor possible.

We're all rooting for you!

[Parrothead]

"Blocked for your country". Which song was it?

Evanescence "Bring Me to Life"

[Mikkel]

Evanescence "Bring Me to Life"

Thanks........

[Jester]

What's the legal consequences of accusing someone falsely of attempted murder? I hope the consequences are harsh

I don't know off the top of my head, but there are a lot of variables, such as the jurisdiction in which Kara lives, whether such a thing is indeed a crime in that jurisdiction (it usually is), how severely they judge that crime, and whether the authorities there think there is enough evidence to prosecute and win a conviction...and then, of course, the judge almost certainly has some discretion with the sentence if such a conviction is actually obtained.

Generally speaking, though, making false reports or false accusations are minor crimes with minor penalties, when they are even pursued as crimes at all, which in such a situation as this with a domestic breakup is highly unlikely.

[shadowpanda]

Kara, my thoughts are with you. Please know we are hear to listen to whatever you want or need to say, whenever you want or need to say it. I really hope you get the support of people physically close to you and that all this is resolved as smoothly as possible.

xx

[BookstoreEscapee]

[Chazzie]

To be honest, I thought of this song as soon as I read your post:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yXE0MOzI-vQ

(: Has a bit less influence of other people and more about waking up yourself.

[Kara]

Met with my attorney yesterday. He agrees that she is making a HUGE mistake, and that she is only hurting herself by her actions. She's killing her credibility, and that's certainly not going to work against me. He said this latest bit, the allegation that I was in the store asking about her, never should have happened and he's going to see to it that it gets handled.

Also, I got a call from CPS the other day. There is now an allegation that "sometime between the start of the school year and Halloween," i choked my son. Gee, that's a little vague, I'm honestly surprised they could even investigate it based on that. I pretty much shrugged it off. I mean, it didn't happen, and if it did, why didn't she report it at the time? She's only doing it now because she probably finally got her mail that I took to her dad, saw that CPS cleared me of the first claims, realizes the criminal case is going to end the same way, and is going to try to do anything and everything to keep me from my children. Again, it's only going to hurt her in the end. The CPS lady, who was very mean and nasty to me when she called the first time in December, was very pleasant this time around, I think they're starting to figure out what she's trying to do.

I do feel sorry for her. It's painful to know she's setting herself up for a big fall. But it won't be me who reaches out for her, not anymore. She's made it clear that's how she wants it, and I have accepted it.