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*Figured this was the appropriate place for an update on my previous thread, where I got advice from my fellow members! If I posted it in the wrong place I'm sorry 
So a few months ago, I was having problems with my lazy, borderline-abusive, insecure, child of a husband. You all may remember this thread:
http://www.customerssuck.com/board/s...d.php?t=100188
After that post, I actually gave him another chance. He somehow convinced me he'd go to counseling, anger management, look for a second/better job, then get us our own place. A part of me didn't believe him, but I wanted to believe him. I was holding on to the hope he'd change back to who he was (or who I thought he was) when we started dating 8 years ago.
We won about 5,000 dollars (US) in the state lottery a few weeks after that post, which he promised me he'd put to good use. At first he did--bought our son a new crib, other stuff. He said he wanted to save the rest, so he could get us a house. He said the Big Box Store he works for will give him full time plus a raise if he transferred to another store, which turned out to be a lie. So we rented a house, but he lied about where a lot of money went and started smoking copious amounts of pot, ignoring the babies again, and pretty much slacking off, but luckily not getting violent. I then found the rental agreement to the house: He lied about how much rent cost each month, the length of the contract, and found out he had his mom forge my signature on the rental agreement. Everything he told me was a boldfaced lie. He blew the rest of the money on weed, coffee, and cigarettes.
So the babies and I went to visit my family for the holidays, and decided not to go back.
I'm not regretting moving into that house with him though: It got him the hell out of my parents' house, made me see he would never live up to any of his promises, and made it easier for me to get away from him. I feel more secure there's about a thousand miles seperating him from my babies.
So a few months ago, I was having problems with my lazy, borderline-abusive, insecure, child of a husband. You all may remember this thread:
http://www.customerssuck.com/board/s...d.php?t=100188
After that post, I actually gave him another chance. He somehow convinced me he'd go to counseling, anger management, look for a second/better job, then get us our own place. A part of me didn't believe him, but I wanted to believe him. I was holding on to the hope he'd change back to who he was (or who I thought he was) when we started dating 8 years ago.
We won about 5,000 dollars (US) in the state lottery a few weeks after that post, which he promised me he'd put to good use. At first he did--bought our son a new crib, other stuff. He said he wanted to save the rest, so he could get us a house. He said the Big Box Store he works for will give him full time plus a raise if he transferred to another store, which turned out to be a lie. So we rented a house, but he lied about where a lot of money went and started smoking copious amounts of pot, ignoring the babies again, and pretty much slacking off, but luckily not getting violent. I then found the rental agreement to the house: He lied about how much rent cost each month, the length of the contract, and found out he had his mom forge my signature on the rental agreement. Everything he told me was a boldfaced lie. He blew the rest of the money on weed, coffee, and cigarettes.
So the babies and I went to visit my family for the holidays, and decided not to go back.
I'm not regretting moving into that house with him though: It got him the hell out of my parents' house, made me see he would never live up to any of his promises, and made it easier for me to get away from him. I feel more secure there's about a thousand miles seperating him from my babies.
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