Coworker just friendly or trying to send signals?

[Jester]

Just thought I'd let everyone know; he fessed up today to us that he was in trouble for trafficking. So the ball's out of my court and no one has to know that I nosed around and found this out sooner, lol. Huzzah!

That is excellent! The question is, why did he do this? Did the employer question the validity of his excuse for the work days he missed?

Is it weird that I think it's a positive thing that he came clean about why he was out?

Not at all. After all, there is much positive about this. As stated above, SGA is in the clear for checking up on him. Also, she doesn't need to tell the other coworker that may be interested in him, as she now knows. Finally, there is the small possibility that he is trying to turn his life around and this is one of the first steps. And, if so, that is very much a good thing.

Though of course I still wouldn't date him. And not just because he's a guy and I'm not into that, but more because it is rather common for people who are trying to turn their life around to fall back into the old habits that got them into the shit and the drama in the first place. And who needs that?

[BookstoreEscapee]

Is it weird that I think it's a positive thing that he came clean about why he was out?

^-.-^

I agree with you but I still wouldn't date him...

[Andara Bledin]

Is it weird that I think it's a positive thing that he came clean about why he was out?

^-.-^

[ShinyGreenApple]

Just thought I'd let everyone know; he fessed up today to us that he was in trouble for trafficking. So the ball's out of my court and no one has to know that I nosed around and found this out sooner, lol. Huzzah!

[Exaspera]

Oh, stop. Let's not compare idiot drug peddlers and manipulative thieves with Ted freakin' Bundy, okay?

All I'm saying is that he was handsome and charming, too.

And please gimme back my head.

[ShinyGreenApple]

The boss has been trusting him with power tools since day 1. If he wanted to rampage and kill us all, he's had plenty of chances.

[Jester]

The sentence was served on Thursday, when he was absent for personal reasons, and he says he was deathly ill to his stomach on Friday and that's why he wasn't in then.

Yes, I can see why one might be sick to their stomach when they are in jail on drug charges.

As for the coworker, she wasn't showing her usual signs of trying to chat him up and the like, so maybe her interest doesn't go beyond "jumping him in a heartbeat", as she said the other day.

Maybe, but do you want to take that gamble? Seriously, talk to her. If she was that interested in him the other day, she probably still is, even if her outward signs did not indicate it. Let her know what you know so she doesn't make any uninformed choices.

My charming sociopathic ex-con BIL was exactly the same way. He was in for embezzling funds.

Think of Ted Bundy and everything he got away with at first!

Oh, stop. Let's not compare idiot drug peddlers and manipulative thieves with Ted freakin' Bundy, okay?

[Exaspera]

Hokey Smokes! I'm glad you checked him out! And believe me, I am sure that you are not the first person he has fooled.

My charming sociopathic ex-con BIL was exactly the same way. He was in for embezzling funds.

Think of Ted Bundy and everything he got away with at first!

[ShinyGreenApple]

He was caught (in my county, no less) on February 26 'Misusing county property to solicit' and Hyrdocodone was listed. That's what the county website says. The state website lists him as being sentenced with the probation for Rohypnol. The sentence was served on Thursday, when he was absent for personal reasons, and he says he was deathly ill to his stomach on Friday and that's why he wasn't in then.

But no, no more intentions on my part. I'm not into casual dating/sex and he's not marriage material. While interaction during work is inevitable, I'll just be sure not to eat or drink anything he may offer. As for the coworker, she wasn't showing her usual signs of trying to chat him up and the like, so maybe her interest doesn't go beyond "jumping him in a heartbeat", as she said the other day.

[Jester]

Or perhaps a shorthand for "deal."

So, what you found on the DOC site said he was arrested in or had a warrant from February? And said nothing about the last few days when he was out of work?

Just curious.

Either way, do not get involved with this guy. Sure, there is the chance that he was just selling it to friends who wanted to get high....people do get high on that drug without using it as a date rape drug. But do you really want to take that chance? And even if that is true, do you really want to date a drug dealer?

I still think you should advise your coworker who is interested in him of the situation.

[BookstoreEscapee]

Can someone please explain to me what "DEL" means as far as DOC terms? It says "Sell/Del" on there and I'm trying to figure out what exactly that entails.

From what I found from Google I'm guessing deliver.

[ShinyGreenApple]

Seems like you dodged a bullet.

Just curious why you searched his name on the DOC site if he seemed so clean cut and nice and he seemed like the guy you take home to Mom and Dad.

I mean, it seems you had already considered asking him out before you posted for advice, but then, on a whim you searched him on the DOC site?

It's quite a fantastic coincidence that you did, but I'm wondering if there wasn't some vibe that you already felt.

I guess maybe I did. I was just bored and looking him up on this and that; and I guess maybe I expected to find something from when he was younger; he's 33 now. But this happened In February and yikes. Can someone please explain to me what "DEL" means as far as DOC terms? It says "Sell/Del" on there and I'm trying to figure out what exactly that entails.

And by the way . . . he's still at work. No one is acting any differently so I guess I'm the only one who knows. He says he missed the days last week because he had a horrible stomach bug and couldn't leave the bathroom.

[Jester]

my scumbag 'radar' is usually quicker than everyone else's and it's scares me that I didn't notice something. I doubt anyone did though; everyone gets along with this guy.

Don't beat yourself up over it. As you said, everyone liked this guy. Which means he was good at disguising his true nature. I had a girlfriend once who was like that....everyone thought she was this sweet, giving, friendly person. The entire time, though, she was manipulating people and situations to her advantage, stealing (she eventually got arrested for embezzlement), and lying about this, that and the other. A classic example of the last one: she told at least one coworker that I know of that I was physically abusive to her, when I've never hit a woman--other than my sisters--in my life. I could not at the time understand why said coworker was such an utter bitch to me. Now she and I are friends, and we laugh about the horror that was my ex-girlfriend. But it wasn't just me that got taken in by her....everyone did.

So again, stop beating yourself up. This guy was obviously very good at manipulating things to his advantage, and had everyone else fooled, not just you. Just consider yourself lucky, relax, and move on.

[Ree]

Seems like you dodged a bullet.

Just curious why you searched his name on the DOC site if he seemed so clean cut and nice and he seemed like the guy you take home to Mom and Dad.

I mean, it seems you had already considered asking him out before you posted for advice, but then, on a whim you searched him on the DOC site?

It's quite a fantastic coincidence that you did, but I'm wondering if there wasn't some vibe that you already felt.

[ShinyGreenApple]

Oh I know. I'm not turning my nose up at the fact that I found out about the dealing before we got involved. It just bothers me that I had to be interested in him at all; my scumbag 'radar' is usually quicker than everyone else's and it's scares me that I didn't notice something. I doubt anyone did though; everyone gets along with this guy.

I still get a sick feeling in my stomach when I think about the Rohypnol. . .