How to Date: A guide for the romantically clueless

[Seshat]

Plaid:

There's a whole world of people out there who don't give a damn that you're disabled.

There's a whole world of people out there who ALSO don't give a damn that you're deformed. Or that you'll likely get worse.

There's a LOT of people who will simply look at the personality. Or who will love the body as well regardless of its shape.

There's even some who will love the body because of its shape.

We cripples and gimps are just as entitled to experience love, lust and desire as the whole of body - and there are plenty among both the whole-bodied and the cripples/gimps who are happy to share such with us.

(That said, my own loves have cystic fibrosis, and schizoaffective disorder. So I'm scoring 2 for 2 in loving disabled people.)

[Plaidman]

Your very very lucky too Seshat.

But you totally deserve it anyway .

[Whiskey]

Plaid:

There's a whole world of people out there who don't give a damn that you're disabled.

There's a whole world of people out there who ALSO don't give a damn that you're deformed. Or that you'll likely get worse.

There's a LOT of people who will simply look at the personality. Or who will love the body as well regardless of its shape.

There's even some who will love the body because of its shape.

We cripples and gimps are just as entitled to experience love, lust and desire as the whole of body - and there are plenty among both the whole-bodied and the cripples/gimps who are happy to share such with us.

(That said, my own loves have cystic fibrosis, and schizoaffective disorder. So I'm scoring 2 for 2 in loving disabled people.)

People generally only give a damn (in a bad way) when they sense you do, unless they're supermassive assclowns. The people who know how I am (mentally) couldn't care less, but if I'm being a debbie downer, they don't want to be around me. Strangers pick up on those same types of behavior.

I just saw a macro online recently, I don't know the context but this is the order in which I noticed things

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1. Dude seems like he has an awesome sense of humor
2. Dude has some kind of syndrome I'm unfamiliar with
3. Who cares, hes funny

I learned a long, long time ago not to decide for someone else if they like you or not. Let them figure it out. Its the same with dating. Don't tell anyone why they shouldn't go out with you, its boring, negative, and makes a statement of "oh well I dont really care that he doesnt have a car, but maybe he's right about being a loser, oh well."

I've had guys outright tell me I wouldn't sleep with them or give them the time of day in casual (often the first) conversation. I just said "Okay" and walked off. Why? Because who wants to deal with that after talking to someone for five seconds. They already have the interaction lined out in their head how its going to go and its going to be absolutely boring because I'm constantly going to hear "are you having fun? youre not having fun are you? no this is stupid im dumb see I told you you'd never like me blahhhhhhhhh"*

Another quote I like. "No one but you knows you've screwed up until you tell them." I've passed presentations in class because I fucked up and rolled with it. No one even knew I had messed up because I didn't tell them and I didn't lose my cool.

*actual encounter, a few of them.

[Becks]

Those people don't get laid enough, thats why.

Talking about me again?

[Seshat]

Your very very lucky too Seshat.

But you totally deserve it anyway .

Yes, I am. And awww, thank you.

And Whiskey's right. Once your self-worth improves more, you'll start to give off 'I'm a great guy' signals. And that is attractive.