Hate discussing my love life again, but need advice

[Jester]

He then spent about 2 weeks ignoring me totally since he needed to figure out if he wanted to be with me or not. He apparently decided that yes he did want to date me. He told me this by kissing me and grabbing my ass. For the record that's the most affection I've gotten since then.

Dude's a douchebag. Move on.

Some guys (not all) don't do well with the 'now just friends again' thing.

And sometimes it's situational. I am generally on friendly terms with most of my exes, even if I don't see them or talk to them all the time. Hell, there are some girls I've been involved with that I would invite to my wedding. And they would come.

That being said, sometimes the "just friends" thing is just not possible. And for me, I am not referring to my Worst Girlfriend Ever, as my feelings about her are well-documented here. No, I am talking about my ex-fiancee, The Brit. She was (maybe still is) the love of my life. I couldn't envision her being around and being "just friends" with her. Frankly, neither could she. (We actually had discussions about this while we were together.) Not because of any bitterness, but just because we could not be Just Friends, if you follow me.

I don't know if that applies in this situation. Personally, I think the dude sounds like a toad.

[RecoveringKinkoid]

Jeeze, move on. Guy's a loser.

Why on earth would you go to Pennsic attached (when you really aren't) if you didn't have to. I mean, if you had, y'know, a RELATIONSHIP, that would be one thing, but you don't. Sounds like you guys would have to step it up a bit just to have something to break off.

Anyways, I will be at Pennsic next week. Come see me. X09, green gypsy wagon.
Travel safe.

[elsporko]

I wouldn't call the guy a douche. Seems like there was some baggage from the first relationship he thought he was over but actually wasn't and might not even be self aware enough to realize it.

[Jester]

I wouldn't call the guy a douche. Seems like there was some baggage from the first relationship he thought he was over but actually wasn't and might not even be self aware enough to realize it.

That's certainly a possibility, and the dating/not dating thing does not make me call him a douche.

But actions speak louder than words, and his actions are shouting from the hilltops here. Such as him treating her like she doesn't exist and letting her know that they are still involved by only a kiss and an ass grab.

Dude's a toad. Complete and total fucktrumpet. Sir Douche-a-Lot. Douchapotamus Rex. His Majesty, King Ass of Clown.

[elsporko]

I'd say fault lies on both parts. She should have confronted him on the behavior sooner, definitly before she leaves.

[ArcticChicken]

it'd ruin our friendship.

What friendship?

You just told us he prefers to hang out with your aunt and uncle, and he doesn't speak to you.

So, I ask again, what friendship?

[Whiskey]

he prefers to hang out with your aunt and uncle, and he doesn't speak to you.

You are not friends.