Dating site

[Seshat]

<laughs>

Sorry. Better to be prepared in advance, is all.


And yes, I probably am interesting.

.... in fact, I just seriously interested a psychiatrist. He seems certain I do need chemical support - but he's stumped about what he can give me that doesn't mess up my pain meds!

I know that's not the sort of interesting you meant! Yes, I am widely read, and in some ways widely experienced. I leave 'which ways' to your imagination. Enjoy!

[Victory Sabre]

I've tried 2 dating sites. The first one claimed to match based on compatibility. It didn't work out too well. The ones I actually talked to were stuck up snobs, who thought they were god's gift to men, because they used that site. It also gave me some very crazy matches. I selected that I wanted matches within 100 miles. It gave me loads of matches 1000 miles away. What a joke.

The site I'm on now is a free site, and is pretty good. I've dated 2 women from that site, but haven't had too much luck with them. The first was amazing, but our work schedules were so crazy that we couldn't make it work. The second one, while a great woman, there was no spark there.

Follow the advice that others have given you, and when you do get together, make it in a public place.

[Whiskey]

Trust your gut and carry a subtle weapon (or not so subtle if you want). I put a bottle opener on my keys. My gut and my keys have gotten me out of numerous situations.

[Eireann]

I think I'll tell you a little story.

One day, when riding a tram (streetcar) in Prague, I noticed something weird. I looked down, and saw that the guy behind me was sneaking his hand along the wall, trying to grope me.

I got up and moved to a seat well behind him.

Then I got mad. I thought, "What right does he have to try this shit on me?"

My stop was coming up, so I got up, took the cap off the bottle of water I was drinking, and poured some in his lap. He pushed the bottle away, but didn't even make a move to get up.

I stood near the doors, holding the bottle so that I could backhand him with it if necessary, and got off at my stop. He just sat there, staring out the window, legs firmly crossed.

Don't worry about safety tips, friends; I've dealt with far worse than Tram Shithead. But thanks!

[Victory Sabre]

Trust your gut and carry a subtle weapon (or not so subtle if you want). I put a bottle opener on my keys. My gut and my keys have gotten me out of numerous situations.

A .38 special works wonders in this situation.

[KellyHabersham]

Add me to the list of people who feel it's best to talk on the phone for a bit before meeting in person - I made that mistake recently with a guy whom I met through a dating site. Not that there was anything wrong with "Bobby", just that I'm NOT the kind of person who finds conversation easy when I don't know the other person well, and when that person seems to be in the same boat, it makes things awkward.

(Not sure if I worded that correctly or not, but let's just say that despite the fact that "Bobby" and I shared some of the same interests, we still couldn't really get a conversation going)

[Eireann]

Okay, everyone, please DON'T worry about us meeting in person.

If - and I mean IF - it ever happens, it won't happen anytime soon. He is not in the same city or country as I am. He is not even on the same continent. Meeting him would not be a simple "let's get together for your beverage of choice" affair.

It would involve one of us paying through the nose to take a very long flight, dealing with jetlag and other fun things, just to meet. So it's not something that would be taken lightly.

Do not fear.

[Jester]

Well, anyway, this guy contacted me recently, and I'm not sure how to react. It's obvious that he's read my profile very thoroughly. He's made various comments on it. He's asked me if I'm going to write him back. When I wrote him back, he thanked me for it.

Is this the kind of thing that happens fairly often? I really don't know.

You mean a man being polite, courteous, and expressing interest in a woman beyond her ability to blow him?

No, that doesn't happen all that often. Which means this guy is worthy of a response.

So compatibility ratings aren't infallible.

Nor are people.

Remember, dating sites are merely a way to meet people, and just like any other method, they have their ups and downs, their good and bad.

Relax, stop worrying so much about this, especially since this guy is quite literally half a world away, and just enjoy the conversation with him, whether via computer or phone. And if it gets to the point where you feel he is actually a douche, end the conversation.

Pretty simple, if you ask me.