I'm A Loser Baby, So Why Don't You Kill Me?

[Thuringwethyl]

I see this place (or Fratch if more suited) as a safe haven to vent... I realize that making threads like these open for advice and it's up to the member to take them. In the past I have given some shitty advice or hopped on the "You need to get a new job!" bandwagon or "You need to move!" before, and realized it's not always that realistic and not everything is always as it seems.

I mainly post negative things, mostly because I can't say them elsewhere or it lifts a giant weight off of my shoulder after typing it out. I felt the world better after making this thread because it was like "Yes finally it's out! Whew!" I wish I had more positive things to say about work or my relationships or friends.

Maybe I'm a hypocrite, one page defending him, another bashing him, but it felt good to vent.

I understand completely, it's what I do. I'm so detail-oriented that by the time I finishing exhaustively explaining everything the issue has become a multi-page saga. I end up deleting most of the positive stuff because it's already so long! Plus, it's hard to present objectively without any sort of spin.

I also don't like to talk to people I know about other mutual aquaintances because I've realized I don't see things the same way as "normal" people and I don't want to negatively influence my aquaintances with some poorly-thought-out observation. This means I go to strangers online for advice.

[blas]

Yeah, it may be hard for some to understand, but that's why I feel the way I do about this place and Fratch.

I did go out on Friday night for bf's birthday. Mind you, I did not get drunk or even buzzed, just had a few, and I shoved a few creepy guys who thought they could just walk up and try to hump me or start dancing with me. I'm not a violent person or an advocate of fighting (sounds conflicted, but part of the reason I hate going out so much is because I have to stop myself from wanting to punch every single guy who approaches me or all the idiots who can't handle themselves properly and go running into everyone or spilling everywhere).

Yes, blas the creeper buster. Call me if there's ever a guy who won't leave you alone. I'll throw him against a wall.

[Flying Grype]

Ugh, random party-animal extroverts.

I was fortunate to be introverted enough that I had no problem not being friends with people whose idea of 'fun' was getting so drunk that they started risking their personal safety. I did go to clubs with a few friends because they did what I liked sometimes as well. Eventually they grew out of it and we're still friends. We still like to have a few drinks, but in the safety of their homes or mine.

The best thing I ever did was (don't laugh) join an astronomy club. There were a lot of geeks there who had similar experiences to mine, and who had other things they did for fun rather than killing their brain cells. Seriously, I think most of the hard-partying clubbers out there just never learned that anything other than drinking could actually be fun or worth spending time on.

I don't know how big a town you live in, blas, but go looking for stuff like that and people who are interested in things you're interested in. Chances are you'll find people you can have fun with who are not exhausting to be around and who won't feel betrayed if you aren't there on any given night.

Also, it sounds like you really care about your man, and if he cares for you too he'll respect your needs. It might take some time for him to figure it out. Don't let it take too long.