Dealing with my own polyamory

[taxguykarl]

For relations in general, honesty is best.

[telecom_goddess]

Just be careful. I was poly once and it fell apart and I got dumped by multiple people. It can get to the point where no one has enough time with a person anymore. You need a calendar to keep track of who/where/when.

I'm monogamous now and it's much simpler.

[blas]

I agree it's much more simple, and to me, more meaningful if it's just one on one, but everyone is different and as long as everyone involved is ok with it and no one is being hurt, then it's your own business.

The part that I see problems with is someone will always end up hurt or with less attention or less love than others, with poly relationships.

But McG is my little sis and I know she's a very honest good girl and she knows what's right for her and she'll do the right thing and everything will be taken care of in the best way possible.

[Megg]

I am poly. I don't think I have ever mentioned it here, so this is my "coming out" with y'all, so to speak. Be gentle.

I am the second wife in a long term poly relationship. My hubby and wife (for simplicity's sake, hehe) were married for 13 years when we met playing EQ. I moved in 8 and a half years ago, and we have been together ever since. Much like any other relationship, I have found that honesty is key. Jealousy is normal and natural, especially at the beginning, but with honesty and understanding, it can be worked out. What you are looking for seems to be different than what I have - I am involved with both my partners, and they with me. We have a truly poly relationship, but from what I can tell, you just want a "swinger" kind of thing? Like you are with each other, but are both allowed to see other people? Do I have that right? If so, that's a different ballgame, but it still will require tons of trust and honesty.

Good luck, and I hope things work out for the best. Also, the Boy just might be a keeper, if he's willing to work with you on this!