My cousin's wife

[protege]

I guess the real question here is, "how close are you to West Virginia," and "does this girl have any family there." Sorry folks, but someone had to say it Seriously though, what she's doing is nasty. If it was me, I'd embarrass the hell out of her the next time she starts with it. Maybe the shame of it will help keep her trap shut.

[aniwahya]

The evil part of me wants to suggest next time she tries the "rock-your-world" bs in front of your cousin that you start taking off your pants and ask her how she wants it. Maybe then your cousin might respond.

However there is always the chance that could completely backfire and turn into you learning a whole lot more about their sex life than you are probably comfortable with.

Whatever her intent in propositioning you, whether it is to make your cousin jealous or enact a fantasy of yours, you have made your stance on it clear. Unfortunately they are not behaving like reasonable beings who have respect for a loved ones boundaries which does not leave you with many options. Basically you can endure in the hopes your cousin gets a clue (my guess is that will never happen), or you can severely limit your contact with them and involvement in their life.
If a boundary alone isn't working, build a fence.

For what it is worth I feel for you in this situation. I am still trying to understand why loved ones go batshit insane when choosing significant others. In my case it's a relative who has decided to subject themselves to an asshole who in addition to suffering from narcissistic personality disorder neglects his dog (as well as doing things like throwing the dog across the room when he has temper tantrums which are frequent). My relative knows its wrong, but she takes it anyway. It is definitely one of the hardest, most depressing things I have ever seen in my life.

[BookstoreEscapee]

neglects his dog (as well as doing things like throwing the dog across the room when he has temper tantrums which are frequent). My relative knows its wrong, but she takes it anyway. It is definitely one of the hardest, most depressing things I have ever seen in my life.

That's sad. How long before he starts throwing her across the room? If he hasn't already..

[Zellie Crescent]

Just say this: Why the fuck would I be interested in you, you're ugly as hell. That'll shut the bitch up.

[Mytical]

I've said no in a thousand ways, including just flat "No". *shrugs*. She can't be convinced there is a guy out there who does not desire her. This is a woman who claims one of my gay friends came on to her. That's right, she is convinced she can turn a gay man straight.

As for their children. There is 'almost' nothing I wouldn't do for my cousin (we all know at least ONE thing I won't do though)...if I had been ASKED. Being told "You will take care of them" is a whole different story.