When a friend in need becomes draining

I have a friend at work that I've gotten kind of close with. Recently, she and her husband have fallen on some rough times. He'd been out of work for a while but recently did get a stocking job. However, their house was foreclosed on, meaning their credit is shot for a while and they're living with another friend until they can find a place to rent. Its sad that they lost the place, but I have a hard time garnering too much sympathy because while she was the only one bringing in income (working at a Volde-Mart, mind), they still put out for her smoking habit, both of their WoW subscriptions, cable, internet, AND she purchased a $90 a month smartphone contract. I know because I have the same plan. I'm sorry, but if I knew I was having trouble making house and utility payments, I would have freaking downsized my lifestyle! I love her and her husband to death but it's getting wearying hearing about the latest crappy thing that's happened and how shitty life is. More from her than him, he seems to be taking one day at a time. I can't help but think that they brought this on themselves in a way from all the spending. You don't 'need' to play Angry Birds or Plants vs. Zombies every spare moment. I felt horrible when she told me they lost he house AFTER she'd invited me over and we drank an entire bottle of Jager. I know that stuff isn't cheap. Anyways, I just need to think of a way to tactfully turn down invites to spend every possible free moment with her without seeming like a heartless bitch. I've recently decided to give another chance at a friendship with a male colleague at work that she doesn't think much of and I'm afraid she'll be pissed at me for spending a few free afternoons and weekends with him instead. Lord knows he has issues too, but he's not constantly needing attention, rides, or money, either. But I'm tired of always coming to the rescue or eating/drinking ourselves sick together every time she's feeling crappy about things. It's just really draining, you know?

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When a friend in need becomes draining