Tough love is still love. And it is often the only chance you have to get through to entitled fuckwits siblings who don't have a clue what the real world is like.
My brother: He got a $16K payout when my dad went on disability because he was young enough to qualify for child support. I got nothing because I was too old. -.-
A month later, he had a $400 sword, a $2,000 soundsystem in his $1,300 car and a $1,000 laptop to show for it. The rest of the money was 'just gone' and he had no idea how or where. One month, $16,000, gone.
My guess is actually booze and drugs, though he claims to be straight edge. Said claim coming just after he removed the pics on FB of himself smoking from a hooka (sp?), and a bong, chugging beer, etc. So, yeah, he TOTALLY doesn't drink or do drugs...
With my dad & nephew in the car, he tried to get the attention of some random chick stopped next to him at a traffic light. She looked away from him (that bitch!). When the light turned green he slammed on the gas, then cut her off and slammed on the brakes to 'put her in her place for not showing proper respect.' What a great thing to do with your 7 year old son in the back seat, right?
I've tried reasoning with him. The rocks in my yard listen better.
I tried flat out honesty. But that just made him angry because 'I don't understand how hard life is.'
So now, I just don't return his calls, and I don't feel bad for him. He's made his own bed and the longer he lies in it, the more he suffers from his shortcomings. The way he's going, I expect he'll self destruct in the next couple years. Maybe rock bottom will make an impression on him where I failed.
I would say you've done your level best with your brother, Seraph. If he is too spoiled/stupid to listen, then let him reap what he sows. Honestly, it sounds like a lot of it is your father's fault for not setting boundaries. There comes a point at which children need to be cut loose. It sounds like your brother reached that point a long while ago.
My brother: He got a $16K payout when my dad went on disability because he was young enough to qualify for child support. I got nothing because I was too old. -.-
A month later, he had a $400 sword, a $2,000 soundsystem in his $1,300 car and a $1,000 laptop to show for it. The rest of the money was 'just gone' and he had no idea how or where. One month, $16,000, gone.
My guess is actually booze and drugs, though he claims to be straight edge. Said claim coming just after he removed the pics on FB of himself smoking from a hooka (sp?), and a bong, chugging beer, etc. So, yeah, he TOTALLY doesn't drink or do drugs...
With my dad & nephew in the car, he tried to get the attention of some random chick stopped next to him at a traffic light. She looked away from him (that bitch!). When the light turned green he slammed on the gas, then cut her off and slammed on the brakes to 'put her in her place for not showing proper respect.' What a great thing to do with your 7 year old son in the back seat, right?
I've tried reasoning with him. The rocks in my yard listen better.
I tried flat out honesty. But that just made him angry because 'I don't understand how hard life is.'
So now, I just don't return his calls, and I don't feel bad for him. He's made his own bed and the longer he lies in it, the more he suffers from his shortcomings. The way he's going, I expect he'll self destruct in the next couple years. Maybe rock bottom will make an impression on him where I failed.
I would say you've done your level best with your brother, Seraph. If he is too spoiled/stupid to listen, then let him reap what he sows. Honestly, it sounds like a lot of it is your father's fault for not setting boundaries. There comes a point at which children need to be cut loose. It sounds like your brother reached that point a long while ago.
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