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I guess I have to wear a gunnysack to work.
Someone (of course I don't know who), obviously someone who is bored, jealous and has nothing better to do with their time, went over my head and complained about my outfit to my boss last night.
My outfit was a pair of courdoroys (sp?), a long v neck sweater with a tanktop under the sweater to prevent cleavage. But that STILL wasn't good enough I guess!
Oh, and the excuse was "This person was concerned that you'd be a target for sexual harrassment. They didn't so much complain about your outfit as much as they were more worried about your safety!"
Yeah right.....I've been sexually harrassed by two maintenance men for almost a year. Last night was the first time in MONTHS that I didn't wear just jeans and a tshirt. I figured since I got promoted, it would make a better impression to look a little nicer.
So I challenged my boss. If I were, say, flatchested and 100 lbs, OR if I were, say, 50 pounds heavier than I am right now, would I be complained about? Absolutely not. People are too worried about offending flatter chested and bigger girls about their outfits because "young ladies are already so self conscious as it is".
And I'm NOT? Being singled out, almost discriminated, because I'm thin and large chested at the same time? I wasn't wearing a mini skirt and a halter top! I was properly covered. The shirt was long enough to cover my entire belly, even if I sat down or reached up. The tanktop was worn under to PREVENT cleavage!
What next? Should I stop tanning, because it makes my skin look brighter and healthier and would make me a bigger target for harrassment? Should I stop wearing makeup because it's SO distracting? Should I get my hair stripped because it's so bright and shiny?
Give me a fucking break. ANYONE is a target for sexual harrassment. Male, Female, black, white, big, small, tall, short, flat chested, big chested.......EVERYONE! Hell, my trainer asked to be let go from her old department because she had been sexually harrassed by a temp employee. And is she young and large breasted? NO. She's in her 30s and not large chested. There was also a larger girl who was also sexually harrassed by this guy. She isn't toothpick thin or a model either! ANYONE can be sexually harrassed, regardless of age and size and gender. Just because sexual harrassment happens more often with young people doesn't mean it ALWAYS does.
This is so unfair and so stupid it hurts my head.
Also, since we're all adults and I'm a pretty easy going person at work, if that person was SO concerned about MY safety, why didn't they just pull me aside for a chat? Why go over my head when I'm pretty reasonable person and mild tempered?
Off to go knit a gunny sack track suit now....
Someone (of course I don't know who), obviously someone who is bored, jealous and has nothing better to do with their time, went over my head and complained about my outfit to my boss last night.
My outfit was a pair of courdoroys (sp?), a long v neck sweater with a tanktop under the sweater to prevent cleavage. But that STILL wasn't good enough I guess!
Oh, and the excuse was "This person was concerned that you'd be a target for sexual harrassment. They didn't so much complain about your outfit as much as they were more worried about your safety!"
Yeah right.....I've been sexually harrassed by two maintenance men for almost a year. Last night was the first time in MONTHS that I didn't wear just jeans and a tshirt. I figured since I got promoted, it would make a better impression to look a little nicer.
So I challenged my boss. If I were, say, flatchested and 100 lbs, OR if I were, say, 50 pounds heavier than I am right now, would I be complained about? Absolutely not. People are too worried about offending flatter chested and bigger girls about their outfits because "young ladies are already so self conscious as it is".
And I'm NOT? Being singled out, almost discriminated, because I'm thin and large chested at the same time? I wasn't wearing a mini skirt and a halter top! I was properly covered. The shirt was long enough to cover my entire belly, even if I sat down or reached up. The tanktop was worn under to PREVENT cleavage!
What next? Should I stop tanning, because it makes my skin look brighter and healthier and would make me a bigger target for harrassment? Should I stop wearing makeup because it's SO distracting? Should I get my hair stripped because it's so bright and shiny?
Give me a fucking break. ANYONE is a target for sexual harrassment. Male, Female, black, white, big, small, tall, short, flat chested, big chested.......EVERYONE! Hell, my trainer asked to be let go from her old department because she had been sexually harrassed by a temp employee. And is she young and large breasted? NO. She's in her 30s and not large chested. There was also a larger girl who was also sexually harrassed by this guy. She isn't toothpick thin or a model either! ANYONE can be sexually harrassed, regardless of age and size and gender. Just because sexual harrassment happens more often with young people doesn't mean it ALWAYS does.
This is so unfair and so stupid it hurts my head.
Also, since we're all adults and I'm a pretty easy going person at work, if that person was SO concerned about MY safety, why didn't they just pull me aside for a chat? Why go over my head when I'm pretty reasonable person and mild tempered?
Off to go knit a gunny sack track suit now....
if you want it, sympathy and understanding whether you want the hugs or not.
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