Quoth AmbrosiaWriter
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Kaycichu, the whole "it wasn't so bad" thing bugs me too. I get the feeling they feel guilty and are trying to console themselves, rather than me, or something. Just makes me want to scream though. The one and only time I could tolerate someone saying it wasn't all that bad... it really was, but my sister knew that. And she said the words along with a ton of hugs and snuggles throughout the 2 hours of torment (they thought I had cancer... lot of procedures involved). I'm one of those super affectionate weirdos who would do almost anything for a hug, so that was a rare treat. I get all happy when I think of that day now, because she worked so hard to overwhelm the bad experiences with a metric buttload of good stuff.
That might work for others, too... plan a special treat so that there's a positive memory to go along with the negative. Even if it helps a tiny bit, that's a start. (I hope I'm not pointlessly rambling too much... I'm really stressed lately, and that makes me rather chatty sometimes.)
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