Rude old men

[Kogarashi]

Just thought of another one while reading about the sleazeballs in the main CS forum.

Why is it lots of old men think it's funny to be rude and chauvinistic to younger women?

Hubby and I visited his family in Texas about three weeks ago, and part of that visit included a dental checkup (my FIL is a dentist). While we were in the waiting room waiting for our turn, an older couple came in. The old man looked over at me and made some comment to his wife about how he'd like me to sit in his lap. I tried to ignore him. Then I asked Hubby for a magazine, and Creepy Old Guy said, directly to me, "Oh, don't pretend like you know how to read."

I was fuming inside. Thankfully, my turn came shortly thereafter, and Hubby commiserated with me in the car later. And I got old guys acting like this while I was still cashiering at Wal-Mart last fall. Like the one who thought it was a riot to pull the money away everytime I tried to take it from him to finish his transaction. Thought he was "making me work for my money." Ugh.

[blas]

Um, why didn't your husband knock the living shit out of that old arsewipe? Or at the very least, say something to him?

You had a man WITH you, and yet this asshat still hit on you. That's just being scum of the earth. You know a lady is with a man yet you hit on her anyway.

Where I come from, that's a good way to end up with a broken nose or missing teeth.

[Kogarashi]

My husband is more non-confrontational than I, and really didn't want to cause a scene in his father's dental office. I honestly don't blame him, though I probably would've told the old guy off myself if he'd made a third comment.

Hubby and I both generally try to be nice people. Now, I'm sure Hubby would've taken exception of the old guy had even made a move to touch me.

[RecoveringKinkoid]

Um, why didn't your husband knock the living shit out of that old arsewipe? Or at the very least, say something to him?

You had a man WITH you, and yet this asshat still hit on you. That's just being scum of the earth. You know a lady is with a man yet you hit on her anyway.

You left out "And he did it in front of his own wife, so he pretty much disrespected everyone in the room, including his own spouse."

I'm wondering the same thing. I'd be more pissed at my own husband, in this situation.

[blas]

His wife is probably used to it. His skin is probably immune to bruises from her purse hitting him.

[Kogarashi]

His wife ignored him. Flat-out ignored him.

I tried to ignore him in the hopes that he'd get the hint and stop, which he did after that second comment. Like I said, had he made a third comment (or a more physical pass), I would definitely have said something (or slapped him), and very likely, my husband would have too. But both of us are relatively non-confrontational and prefer to start off with the "ignore it and it'll stop" approach, so as not to make a public scene. If the old guy wants to publicly announce how sleazy he is, so be it. I didn't want to give him attention.

Scum of the earth don't get the dignity of a response from me, if I can curb my temper enough. They're not worth it.

[MadRocketScientist]

Excuse me sir, your mouth is talking, you might want to look into that.

[XCashier]

The old man looked over at me and made some comment to his wife about how he'd like me to sit in his lap. I tried to ignore him. Then I asked Hubby for a magazine, and Creepy Old Guy said, directly to me, "Oh, don't pretend like you know how to read."

That's when you roll up the magazine and hit the old sleazebag over the head. Like so: Especially if it's a big, heavy magazine like Rolling Stone.

[RecoveringKinkoid]

Well, all I know is that that had been me and my husband, and the old fart wanted an embarassing scene, he would have gotten one.

Let's just say that a dentist's office would have been an excellent place for what would happen next to take place.

[Kogarashi]

Let's just say that a dentist's office would have been an excellent place for what would happen next to take place.

::chuckle:: Yeah, but I don't think my FIL would appreciate me drumming up business like that.

[Auto]

If you don't want a confrontation with the geezer, just take out your cell phone and pretend to make a call in which you tell someone (in a LOUD voice) that some creep wants you to sit in his lap and that you would do that for all the money in the world. that he's basically the nastiest looking goat you've ever seen.

would love to see his and the wife's reaction then.

[zzapp the witch]

See, I've had that exact same thing happen, sans wife, but still in public (at the welding shop, actually).

When he made the "I'd like to have her sit on my lap" comment, without thinking I blurted loudly, "Yes, because I'm sure you're thinking about the same thing when its your granddaughter sitting on your lap."

No one laughed, and more than one guy had the decency to look physically ill.

[DesignFox]

When he made the "I'd like to have her sit on my lap" comment, without thinking I blurted loudly, "Yes, because I'm sure you're thinking about the same thing when its your granddaughter sitting on your lap."

Way to put grandpa in his place!

Kogarashi, I'm non-confrontational for the most part, too. If you get my temper up, I'll cause a scene. But that takes a bit of doing so, I probably would have reacted the same way. (actually, I mostly do, if you were checking out my other posts.) I think that considering it was your FIL's office, you guys went about it the right way.

If I had been that guy's wife, though...he'd have gotten a smack to remember. I never understand people who put up with that bullshit from their SO's.

[Gawdzillers]

I'll bet these are the same guys who do coin tricks at the family reunion and use folksy phrases like "slicker n' snot on a doorknob".

[iradney]

Um, why didn't your husband knock the living shit out of that old arsewipe? Or at the very least, say something to him?

This is the millenium - men don't haev to jump to the defense of their lady love because they no doubt know that their beloved could wipe the floor with the old windbag anyhoo.
TTO doesn't jump to my defense unless he sees that I'm about to kill someone, or I'm feeling fragile (hey, it happens!). He says anything I say to that person is more effective at making their reproductive organs crawl back into their body than anything he could do