New trend in parenting, let the child spank you!

[chops]

I had to:

In Soviet Russia, child spanks YOU !!

*ducks*

As far as effectively disciplining kids in a store, one of my coworkers has two effective ways of disciplining her two girls:

1. If they're going to a store to buy a particular item for the girls and they give her the "I want" bit, the trip is over and they go home immediately.

2. If they misbehave in any other way at the store, they have to put their hands on their heads and keep them there until they exit the store.

Very effective.

[iradney]

If I had done that to my mom, I would still be in my room, in the corner with a glowing butt. I never did that - I would sometimes tap her butt to get her attention, but I learnt early on, if Mom says "NO" she means "N-O"

[mariamousie1]

Sad. When I was little I once hit my mom. Let's just say I never tried THAT again. My mom can be truly scary, and that's one thing she doesn't put up with.

[crazylegs]

Lots of kids throw the most horrible temper tantrums,

Its not the tantrum thats the issue, but the way the parent (didn't) handle the situation, and reinforced the message that hitting gets you what you want in life.

Stay Safe

[Seshat]

Its not the tantrum thats the issue, but the way the parent (didn't) handle the situation, and reinforced the message that hitting gets you what you want in life.

Agreed. Kids are still learning how to control their behaviour, how to get what they want in life, and what the social rules are for their society.

Tantrums happen. It's what the parent does about it that matters, and that shapes what type of young adult the kid will become.

And what sort of work the young adult will need to do to become a good middle-aged or old adult. (Parents are responsible for the late teen/young adult. But I, at least, hold an adult increasingly responsible for themselves as they get beyond that stage.)

[Rapscallion]

Of course, she will also be having to live with and even find potential mates from this same pool of useless gits, so that may actually backfire.

Being single is awesome. If you like, I could run courses for your daughter to attend.

Rapscallion

[crazylegs]

Being single is awesome. If you like, I could run courses for your daughter to attend.

Roger that Raps, being able to choose where you go, where you spend christmas, what you watch on TV, what hobbies you have, your friends(and how you act around them), your work

[/rant]

(recently single, can you guess!)

Stay Safe

[kibbles]

Its not the tantrum thats the issue, but the way the parent (didn't) handle the situation, and reinforced the message that hitting gets you what you want in life.

Stay Safe

I think though that every parent at least once has given into a temper tantrum, that doesn't necessarily mean it's a regular thing IMO.

[ForestDragon]

Sad. When I was little I once hit my mom. Let's just say I never tried THAT again. My mom can be truly scary, and that's one thing she doesn't put up with.

Ditto ditto. Then when she told my DAD what I had done....hooo, boy...
Never, never, never again.

[zzapp the witch]

Palmercash.com sells a shirt with a silouette of a happy family on it with the caption: My parents beat me and I turned out fine.

Needless to say, they look at you funny when you accidentally wear it to parent/teacher conferences......

(My mother won't go out with me when I wear that shirt, even though we are a spanking family.)

[Sliceanddice]

.... i want that shirt zzapp... i also want the rhymes with witch Bee shirt too....

[MystyGlyttyr]

In Soviet Russia, child spanks YOU !!

I'm glad I'm not the only one who thought that as soon as they saw the title.

When I was five, I robbed my kindergarten teacher, and in a seperate incident later, set her desk on fire. My parents spanked the HELL out of me, and I didn't do it again. (I'm not starting a spanking vs. no-spanking debate, whatever gets results.)

But it's sort of a choose-your-battle kind of thing. If I fell down on the floor in the store and whined, they'd basically just ignore me because they had to save their energy for the next time I committed arson. I'm sure people would see that and think what a brat I was and how rotten my parents were, not knowing how much WORSE I could be and how much better THEY would be.

Still, this lady seemed a little confused in her approach. Then again, occasional acts of bribery aren't terrible...

[Sliceanddice]

mysty are you trying to get me to love you? (oh i never start fires at school no no no, i just stole things and hit other kids[who where bulling me]!!!)

[blas]

I like you more and more each day, Mysty. Where were you when I was in kindergarten? We had a teaching assistant who had no business dealing with special education students (yes, I was one of them!).

Oh well, she's dead now. But it would have been funny if all us "stupid" kids had set her desk on fire. But meh, I'm pretty sure an empty church on the day of her funeral was probably punishment enough.

[BookstoreEscapee]

My little nephew (who's about 18 months old now) is going through a hitting phase. He likes to swat his mom on the butt. He's so small, and he doesn't mean anything by it, he just gets excited.

Yeah, most kids do...at that age, before they're really verbal. By 4 or 5, they should know better and be able to learn "use your words"...