brides that make my head hurt

[MadMike]

Huzzah for unconventional weddings!

You would have loved my friends' wedding. They combined it with their Halloween party, and they and all the guests were in costumes. The guy who married them was a close friend of theirs who took an online course to become a minister, just so he could marry them, and dressed as a bright red demon. I'm not sure what the bride and groom were supposed to be, but they looked kind of like a vampire couple. If I ever become single, I'm never getting married again, but if I would I would probably do it like that. We had a blast!

My husband and I eloped to Reno, Nevada, because what was supposed to be a tiny, backyard wedding was being taken over by his grandmother and mother.

I can only imagine how stressful that must have been. My family was helpful but not at all pushy, we kept it simple and fairly small (invited roughly 100, about 50 came), and we were still stressed to the poinw here we (somewhat) jokingly kept saying "Fuck this! Let's just elope!"

[AriRashkae]

My husband and I eloped to Reno, Nevada, because what was supposed to be a tiny, backyard wedding was being taken over by his grandmother and mother. One night, as we were discussing some of the issues, he suddenly said, "Let's go to Reno."

We were married by a minister at a chapel across the street from Reno City Hall.

I gotta know: how'd MIL and GIL take this?

[laundryhater]

Yeah 'cause nothing says "classy wedding" like a braless MOB - NOT!

[wagegoth]

When you elope, that's when you get married by a JP, right?

It just means that the bride and groom went off on their own and got married. They might take a friend or two along.

My husband and I eloped to Reno, Nevada, because what was supposed to be a tiny, backyard wedding was being taken over by his grandmother and mother. One night, as we were discussing some of the issues, he suddenly said, "Let's go to Reno." We got a hotel room with a discount when we told them we were coming up to get married, and they let us check in early. My sister drove over from Fallon and helped me fix my hair, then we had a little get-together in Fallon. My cousin bought a cake from the local bakery. We had a lot more fun than if we'd had the wedding that was being planned for us.

We were married by a minister at a chapel across the street from Reno City Hall.

[Lace Neil Singer]

I'd just let my Mum wear what she liked; for one thing, my mother has her own style and I have mine. No way would she let me pick out a dress for her. I want a red dress that I can wear again; no white puffball for me, no way. o_O

[auntiem]

My wedding is going to be in wet suits with the formal accessories, standing out in the water of the Pacific Ocean. Now I just have to find a bride that will go along with that idea

If my SO had his way we'd get married in wet suits under water with the bridal party snorkeling above I assume.

As for the OP - it always amazes me how much non-sewers complain about the cost of alterations. I think it is because people who know what they are doing make it look easy. I can sew, but am lousy on putting in zippers - zippers are my downfall so if I'm making a nice garment I finish it up to zipper instalation then pay whatever the seamstress asks for them to put it in right.

Not knowing what cup size the lady is, but spagetti straps would be hard pressed to do the job of supporting my "girls" - I doubt they'd last thru the ceremony and I doubt any bride wants her Mother having a "wardrobe malfunction" at her wedding.

[bammertheblue]

I'm one of those oddballs who would just pick a color and let each person choose the dress they feel most comfortable in.

That's what one of my friends did for her wedding. She had 5 bridesmaids, all very different heights, builds, coloring, etc. No one dress was going to flatter all of them. So they all wore dresses of a similar shade of dark blue, in whatever style they wanted. Everyone got to wear something that they looked and felt good in, while still matching and looking nice.

[Andara Bledin]

I am glad I am having a very unconventional wedding.

Huzzah for unconventional weddings!

Mine was a masquerade wedding. The only rule was that you had to have a mask (we even provided them for people who didn't bring their own). Oh, and one of the grooms was a woman.

Bridezillas annoy the hell out of me because the husband is usually completely irrelevant to their plans. They just want a huge fairy-tale wedding. I really feel sorry for some of those grooms.

^-.-^

[crashhelmet]

My wedding is going to be in wet suits with the formal accessories, standing out in the water of the Pacific Ocean. Now I just have to find a bride that will go along with that idea

getting back to the OP tho, I know brides can be real bitchy/whiny/uber-control freaks when it comes to their weddings, but this one is going a little bit too far.

CH

[Bright_Star]

I'm glad I eloped.

When you elope, that's when you get married by a JP, right?

[raw456]

It amazes me the level of anal retentivness brides go to when the day itself goes so quick and the only thing the bride is (or should be) focusing on is the groom.

I got married 4 months ago, my bridesmaid didnt have her outfit till 2 weeks before the wedding. Yes I admit I was slightly panicked, but it all turned out good. On the day, the only thing I noticed was my husband.

"Bridezillas" really annoy me, because they are only concerned with the superficial trappings of the wedding rather than what a marriage should be about. I always feel sorry for the grooms of these women

[ottid]

Yea, a tip for young brides. Do not assume that your bridesmaids know what they are going to have to spend money on. Give them time and an approximate cost (if clothing is being made for them) so that they can budget it into their spending.

I think my friends mum may have gone slightly crazy when organising my friends wedding. Engaged at the start of first year at Uni, married at the start of the 2nd year. 2 of the three bridesmaids are still in education, meaning VERY limited budgets. We were not told much about anything, we weren't allowed to do anything to help. The best we did was give the bride some down time away from her mum and her craziness. I do recall that her mum may have said something about not taking over her daughters wedding because that was what her mum had done to her, but that could just have been a figment of my imagination.

OP: Atleast the Bride knew what she wanted, but she could have come to an agreement/compromise to sort out what the MOB was going to wear...

[BookstoreEscapee]

MOB is wearing the same dress as BM, but in a different color. It has to be exactly the same.

Of course...anything else would ruin the entire day! Silly me. I'm one of those oddballs who would just pick a color and let each person choose the dress they feel most comfortable in.

My friend had her bridesmaids in long satin skirts in a dark periwinkle color, and simple v-neck cashmere sweaters in a lighter shade (perfect for an outdoor September wedding on the water in Rhode Island). The skirts were made by a seamstress (a friend or church member, I think, who did it cheap), the sweaters were part of their bridesmaid gift and something they can actually wear for a long time.

[workerbee222]

Or, you could add some more substantial straps so the dress can support her properly.

MOB is wearing the same dress as BM, but in a different color. It has to be exactly the same.

I don't know why a woman who was knowledgeable enough to raise a child to marrying age is taking fashion advice from someone who believes "you can never wear too much metallic green eyeshadow."

[BookstoreEscapee]

Secondly, what's the father's issue with clevage? I highly doubt that the said exposed cleavage was anything indecent. I understand being conservative, but like before, shouldn't it be up to the person wearing said item be allowed to make her own decision? And, if exposed clevage is so abhored, why is it okay she's flouncing around without a bra?

It's just...just....arrrrrghhhhblarglesparf

Good point...if you're worried about showing too much, I would think a spaghetti-strap dress would not be your choice in the first place. And yeah, I don't think my dad would have much to say about what my mother could/should or could/should not wear. She'd buy the dress and then show it to him and say "Look what I'm wearing." And he'd go "Nice" and that would be the end of that. (My dad's not a big talker )

One of my friends had her dad perform the ceremony (he's a minister). Normally he would wear a white robe, but she said "I'm not having my dad walk me down the aisle in a white dress!" She also wanted both dads to wear a tux but the clerical collar doesn't work with a tuxedo shirt. She had an easier time dressing her mom.