Creepy Old Men (plus one young guy)

[HorrorFrogPrincess]

A younger guy hit on me once when I was a cashier. He was with a friend and friend's girlfriend, and made a highly inappropriate comment to me. My manager, who was right there, went along with the guy! I tore Manager a new one right there, and after completing the transaction, the first guy became very humble and apologized.

Manager did not. I complained about him, but he's still there. Wish he had gotten his ass fired.

[jedimaster91]

Since I work at the downtown branch of our library, I've been hit on by the dregs of society. It tends to come in spurts, but only a few really stick out. One guy was quite persistant in his persual of me for about five minutes. Asked me if I was seeing anyone and I said yes. He mentioned something about getting tired of my BF at the time and I told him not likely and went back to working on my computer. He hemmed and hawed and grumbled for a bit then grumpily announced I probably couldn't take a <insert slang term for male anatomy here> and stomped off.

There was a guy who left a comment on one of our class comment sheets about my...ahem...derriere and how nice it looked in my jeans. That was back at the beginning of my weight gain and before I had money for new clothes, so the jeans were a bit snug. I kinda shrugged that one off because even though we had a pretty good idea of who had written it, we didn't think that the branch manager would do anything about it and the incident occured during my last couple weeks working that branch.

The other one that really sticks out was this creepy drunk that kept asking me (stupid) work related questions with me getting more and more visably annoyed and angry that he was being loud and dumb. It does take quite a bit for complete strangers to notice me getting angry. People who know me well can tell, so when a lab full of people can tell I'm pissed, it was bad. He finally admitted he just wanted to "smell me." I tossed his drunked behind out so fast he didn't know what hit him. And I did it loudly, too, so I got the staff's and security's attention. Haven't seen the guy since, which is more than fine by me.

The rest are shut down pretty easily once I flash the diamond that resides on my left ring finger. I also must give a pretty convincing "don't go there" vibe and I try to be talking on my cell phone when I leave to go to my car. Thank goodess I got a new job and will be leaving there in a couple weeks.

[AlmightyALT]

One summer when I was a teen I worked as a lifeguard at the local YMCA. I caught a guy smoking and told him to put it out before I went to relieve the tower guard. He put it out, watched me a bit and then came over to 'chat me up'. I told him very coldly with out looking at him, "I'm on duty and can't talk." Never bothered me again. And this guy was some really rough looking guy in his upper 30s!

[LadyAndreca]

I'm 28 but still get mistaken for a college freshman a lot. I tend to get flirted with a LOT by the contractors and day workers who come into our store to pick up supplies. Most of the time, it's lighthearted and silly enough, but there's two guys, both regulars in their 50s or so, who REALLY bother me.

One of them likes to target the younger cashiers (counting me since I look 18 even if I'm not) and be really persistent about wanting them to come outside with him, to his car with him, and/or home with him. He just gets more insistent the more you tell him no. I told him once I was on the clock and couldn't leave, and he tried telling me I wouldn't get in trouble and he'd make it up to me if I lost any pay. He was walking backwards out the door calling back to me, trying to convince me to come with him. As pathetic as it was creepy.

The other I've seen around but only had to interact with him once--he's a vendor, not a customer. I found him standing around looking bored at the end of my shift the other day.
Me: Hi! Looking for anything, or just waiting for someone?
Him: Oh, I'm with [big brand tool company]. They already called a manager for me. *looks me up and down* I can look at you though!
Me: *EWW!!!* *suppressing shudder* Well, if someone's on the way, I was on my way to clock out. Bye! *flee!*

[Fufu487]

Ya I totally understand. I'm in financial services aswell, and when I have a cust, I'm sitting down at a desk with them for at LEAST 10 mins. There are some WEIRD STRANGE men out there......with no clue. just no clue....

[Lace Neil Singer]

Only had one such incident; probably cuz I'm such a bitch. XD It happened while I was at the country park. At the time, I was bedding down the show team. This guy was watching me. I was used to members of the public who just stood and stared gormlessly while I went about my stable tasks, so I ignored him... til he said to me, as I passed with a wheelbarrow full of horse crap, "You have lovely breasts. Can I see them?"



My initual response was to drop the wheelbarrow and just stare for a while. He was smiling stupidly at me; I eventually found my voice and shouted, "Get the f out of here before I call the police!" He left very sharpish. I was worried I'd get into trouble for swearing, but my boss backed me up and said that if this guy ever came back, he'd call the police himself. Never did see creepy man again; but it kind of worried me that he got turned on by watching someone shovel horse crap. O.o

[Seshat]

Seshat, you are my hero. All of your advice is excellent, well phrased, and could be life-saving. I hope the people who see it here pass it on to others.

Thank you so much, Empryss!

Strange men in suits will come up to me and try to get my phone number or hit on me or both, and some of them are creepily persistent. I had one guy follow me out to my car, and seeing that I drive an older, cheaper car, told me that if I would be his girlfriend he'd buy me a nicer one. Sorry, I am not a trophy girlfriend. Ugh.

ACK!

If you're being followed to your car or your home, do not go there. Go to lights and people. Preferably lights and people and security/police. Go to a police station or fire station or ambulance station as #1 choice. If you're in a mall parking lot, go back to the mall.
A manned railway station. An unmanned railway station with a security zone/alarm intercom system. A petrol station or convenience store if you have to (as any regular reader here can attest, the good ones have a silent alarm).

DON'T let a creep follow you to your car or home!

One of them likes to target the younger cashiers (counting me since I look 18 even if I'm not) and be really persistent about wanting them to come outside with him, to his car with him, and/or home with him. He just gets more insistent the more you tell him no. I told him once I was on the clock and couldn't leave, and he tried telling me I wouldn't get in trouble and he'd make it up to me if I lost any pay.

Is there any way to get him banned?

If not, then PLEASE, you and the other older cashiers talk to the younger cashiers about him and other creeps, and tell them to walk the creep over to one of you more stubborn/safely-bitchy cashiers and let YOU handle him. And tell them just to keep walking if he tries not to follow.

OR they can handle him under your supervision - help them learn these lessons that might save their lives one day.

(I know, I know, it's not fair for me to suggest that you & the other older cashiers put up with him more than you'd otherwise 'have to', but it's a safety thing for the kids. They just ... are too vulnerable to this sort of creepery. )

[Andara Bledin]

I'm fortunate in that I have some sort of "not a victim, do not target" vibe going on. I've had people that are known pervs & jerks ack completely normal around me.

^-.-^

[LillFilly]

We have a group of elderly men that sit in the same area every day, same time. They figure themselves real casanovas and will talk loudly to each-other about the women walking by; however they don't seem to realize that, because they're all partially DEAF, that they're actually yelling their comments of "nice boots sexy legs" and "great butt, I'd like that in my lap" for all the mall to hear. We finally had to talk to them after several employees complained they WILL NOT go to that part of the mall anymore!

[Plaidman]

A long time ago at my first store, I was training this new girl. (I admit, she was cute and I had a massive crush on her), when I was doing some simple paperwork and a oldman customer was being checked out. He said loud enough for even me to hear, how much he would love to suck her ass.


She wanted to quit there. I managed to convince her to stay, and managed to convince other workers to kick that sick sonofabitch out.

[Bramble]

Ok I WAS eating when I read that 'suck on her ass' thing. Now I'm not -.- But yeah that is just all kinds of WRONG plaid.*blergh*

[SourRobot]

I hate it so much. It happens to me all the time too, always by the older men. Except now it's starting to be a problem with coworkers because I've got three security guards who won't leave me alone. It doesn't help that my department is right next to the entrance/exit that they hover around. I don't understand why they find me so interesting since I'm not even attractive (trust me, I don't even attempt to look nice for work anymore).

[Plaidman]

Except now it's starting to be a problem with coworkers because I've got three security guards who won't leave me alone. It doesn't help that my department is right next to the entrance/exit that they hover around. I don't understand why they find me so interesting since I'm not even attractive (trust me, I don't even attempt to look nice for work anymore).

They might generally like you, for, well you. Not every guy drools after only hot woman. Not saying they're pleasent towards you however, but maybe its your personality?

Or maybe they're just idiots. Etherway, sorry you gotta deal with it.

Besides, I've learned that really attractive woman, will cut your heart out stomp on it and smile. You learn just how truely ugly they really are.

[MelodiousBubbles]

Me: Actually, he's a few years older than me.
HC: Not by as many years as I am, though! *creepy wink*

Me: And that's why I'm dating him and not you.

Figured the response needed a bit of fixing >.>

[Seshat]

I'm fortunate in that I have some sort of "not a victim, do not target" vibe going on.

If you can figure out how to teach it to others in your life, you might do them a world of good!