SC posts complaint about me online

[emax4]

He probably just doesn't know how to handle rejection. Instead he does it the wrong way instead of just pursuing someone else

[BeenThereDoneThat]

Well, hooray for his comment getting deleted!

[Kristev]

It got deleted! Perfect.

[Flying Grype]

Regarding your hair, makeup, etc. -- no. It's not your fault that you've been sexually harassed by a customer, and yes, that's what I would call it if he has a conversation with you and later airs his "rejection" publicly, because that's not something he'd do to a male employee.

You've learned that you can't prevent harassment by dressing down, therefore you won't invite it by dressing up or looking the way you want to.

The only way to stop this kind of thing is for there to be consequences for the perpetrator, and in this case it means your boss has to actively defend you against this crap. That means listening to you when you say you're bothered by someone, banning them or giving them the talk when the person is positively identified, and standing up for you when someone airs a grievance in public.

[Kaibutsu]

Some of us like being able to point out how Ra's Al-Ghul's name is supposed to be pronounced, and having a slew of people back us up.

You know that was probably my only issue with the Dark Knight movie. All it took was ONE fan on the staff to get that detail taken care of.

[EricKei]

You know that was probably my only issue with the Dark Knight movie. All it took was ONE fan on the staff to get that detail taken care of.

I was wondering about that, too. I always thought it was pronounced "raish" as well.

[CalyCoRose]

When I worked at The Gaming Store, the second time around, I'd always dress up. I did my hair, wore skirts, a corset top, and high heels. Normally I'd dress up to give the store a little more respectability to the women who weren't gamers who came in to buy things for their sons/husbands/boyfriends. I'd even wear make up.

I'd get flirted with by the married men (I'd flirt back - nothing serious at all), and the single gamers who had money to spare, no one to spend it on (except themselves), and could hold an intelligent conversation about things other than their Magic collection and/or their D&D character. The grungier gamers would slink right past me.

[Redbeard]

-As a last bit, I've been told by my regulars that I'm the perfect girlfriend. I read comics, do sci-fi AND fantasy RPGs, play card/boardgames, am awesome with children, don't need jewelry (give me D&D miniatures!), hate the idea of too much commitment (aka marriage at this time of my life) have a steady job & paycheck, my own apartment, a college education, and am not hard on the eyes. I also like Pina Coladas, and getting caught in the rain... BUT, I still think of myself as one of the guys, so I guess none of this matters. I don't need a Shining Knight to come rescue me, I already slayed the damn dragon myself! (Wouldn't hurt to have someone to help me bring in groceries tho Lol )

When you get a chance, listen to "Happliy Ever After" by The Brobdingnagian Bards.
You'l like it!

[Dighti]

Trials

As one of the very few female gamers, I've run into this kind of behavior quite a bit. I've found that the best way to avoid it is to 'casually' mention "my husband" or "my boyfriend". Like when talking about a new release, you might note that "my boyfriend didn't like it as much as I did", for example. You also might consider getting and wearing a 'friendship' ring at work.

[Jay 2K Winger]

As one of the very few female gamers, I've run into this kind of behavior quite a bit. I've found that the best way to avoid it is to 'casually' mention "my husband" or "my boyfriend". Like when talking about a new release, you might note that "my boyfriend didn't like it as much as I did", for example. You also might consider getting and wearing a 'friendship' ring at work.

Except the OP has stated that she's tried this, and it hasn't worked.

The "hopefuls" see such things as only a challenge to overcome, not an actual roadblock.

[Andara Bledin]

I am not what I would call sexy but I think I'm sort of cute (my fiance would argue with that ^^;; ).

I've seen your pics. I'm sure your fiance isn't the only one to argue with that.

I've tried scratching my nose with the ring, and now even outright mentioning my fiance- but some guys are just CLUELESS. The last stalker I had to shake off seemed to completely not hear me mention "I'm engaged" twice before daring to ask if I was seeing anyone *face desk*.

I had this amazingly cute surfer dude ask me out once. I made a point to show off the shiny diamond in my engagement ring to him and he still asked me out two more times in the next 10 minutes. >_< It might have been nice to go out with him once or twice, but I'm not sure I could have handled that much concentrated obliviousness for an extended period or repeated exposure.

I was wondering about that, too. I always thought it was pronounced "raish" as well.

It is.

Arkham City (among others) gets it right.

^-.-^

[silverstaff]

Yep, some folks don't understand the difference between "polite friendliness" and "romantic interest". I also agree that, while some folks may have gotten good results from wearing a faux-wedding ring, there are some idiots out there who will ether ignore it, or may even believe the adult movies they've watched that all married women are looking to have a "fling". Not that I watch those sorts of movies, but I've heard stories about them...

I know one friend of mine, a fellow in the comic/gaming community, who has a bogus wedding ring he wears to conventions. . .to pick up girls! He says he wears it to Gen Con every year.

He says it works for him, he gets fangirls who are looking for a fling and guys who aren't looking for commitment and want to forget the encounter ever existed once they go home back to their significant other.

So, wearing a fake wedding ring might send a "go away" signal to many, to some others, yeah, it will have the opposite effect.

[dalesys]

To the more lizardly of loungers all a ring or boyfriend means is: "Great! She won't follow me home after I've got mine."

[Kogarashi]

Arkham City (among others) gets it right.

^-.-^

Surprisingly enough, so did the cartoon from the 90's.

[PepperElf]

I haven't read all of the thread yet but my first instinct on reading the original post with all the stuff in red was...


... wait, he's writing a bad review because you won't date him?
Hell... if that's how he acts when he gets turned down I'd be surprised if ANYONE would want to date him. how fucking immature



edit: did a quick catch-up.
glad the review got deleted. i mean if that had been over at PFB or M3C it would have been pulled very quickly since it wasn't a consumer review but a personal whine over the fact that the imaginary relationship he thought he had was in fact imaginary.


the only thing i can suggest to even try preventing it is... i just remember a restaurant i went to once in south africa. they had a sign posted stating that they would kick out anyone who bothered the barmaids.

perhaps something similar at your store? like... "do not bother the goddesses; they can summon dragons to eat you" or...

"Please roll your D20 before attempting to chat up any employee... "... followed by a list of 20 beasts or creative gaming ways to die. not that you'd actually kill them of course but... it would perhaps lead to some creative fun and get some customers laughing. (well except for mr. thin-skin who whined about you online of course)