I suppose I didn't explain myself well... Although I'm not really sure where I had been going with it even as I wrote it.
What I think on reflection, I was trying to get across is that you can be both a townie and a college student, though even that begs the question of 'why do we care?'
Also, about the online stuff... I dunno. I couldn't do it. I mean, for one thing, I just don't believe that something as complex, unique and enigmatic as love (yes, love, not compatibility. Yes, I believe.) can be boiled down to ones and zeros. Also, I've been the player of a practical joke (only once, in middle school) wherein I pretended to be someone I wasn't online to mess with the head of a friend of mine, so it takes quite a bit to convince me someone is who they say they are online. Also, I think the most important part of being in a relationship is being able to love the other persons flaws. Being able to live with the things you don't like about them, and that's very rarely going to happen when you meet someone online because your relationship will be based on an idolized version of you and an idolized version of them. Yes, many people try to play it down, but when you talk/write about yourself, you are judgmentally biased by default, and will either create a page of nothing but the things you don't like about yourself (in which case do you really WANT to meet the people who are interested in that?) or you will put an unrealistically good foot forward. To make it make sense to GKs gamer mind, let's call it taking 30 on your 'attract mate' check.
I have seen online relationships work, and I have a great deal of respect for those who can do them, because they are more trusting of the accuracy, fidelity, and honesty of their partner than I am. I can trust you to hang out with your ex while I'm out of town and assume nothing will happen (had to numerous times with M) but I have difficulty trusting in a relationship which came into reality out of the net, as opposed to retreated to the net when the reality became implausible on it's own.
Eh, just kinda rambling at this point. Back to inFamous for me.
What I think on reflection, I was trying to get across is that you can be both a townie and a college student, though even that begs the question of 'why do we care?'
Also, about the online stuff... I dunno. I couldn't do it. I mean, for one thing, I just don't believe that something as complex, unique and enigmatic as love (yes, love, not compatibility. Yes, I believe.) can be boiled down to ones and zeros. Also, I've been the player of a practical joke (only once, in middle school) wherein I pretended to be someone I wasn't online to mess with the head of a friend of mine, so it takes quite a bit to convince me someone is who they say they are online. Also, I think the most important part of being in a relationship is being able to love the other persons flaws. Being able to live with the things you don't like about them, and that's very rarely going to happen when you meet someone online because your relationship will be based on an idolized version of you and an idolized version of them. Yes, many people try to play it down, but when you talk/write about yourself, you are judgmentally biased by default, and will either create a page of nothing but the things you don't like about yourself (in which case do you really WANT to meet the people who are interested in that?) or you will put an unrealistically good foot forward. To make it make sense to GKs gamer mind, let's call it taking 30 on your 'attract mate' check.
I have seen online relationships work, and I have a great deal of respect for those who can do them, because they are more trusting of the accuracy, fidelity, and honesty of their partner than I am. I can trust you to hang out with your ex while I'm out of town and assume nothing will happen (had to numerous times with M) but I have difficulty trusting in a relationship which came into reality out of the net, as opposed to retreated to the net when the reality became implausible on it's own.
Eh, just kinda rambling at this point. Back to inFamous for me.
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