*sigh* dating drought

[smileyeagle1021]

DJ and AS... it could be worse... you could live in salt lake where it isn't that hard to find anyone intellegint... but you'd better be into no strings attached, 'fuck em and leave em' sex, because that's what it seems like a lot of the intellegint people are into here.

[sarasquirrel]

I'm sure all of us could go on tirades about how hard it is to dress ourselves. I've got a decent rack, but I also have a Buddha belly. My constant fight is trying to find shirts that are big enough for the belly but not too big for the boobs. grrrr My biggest complaint has always been options. If you're thinner, you have more options available for your shape. Even at my size (16-ish), the options available are extremely limited - unless you want to dress like an old lady. Which I don't. Or spend big bucks at specialty boutiques like Torrid (where I still have the big belly, smaller boobs issue).

Thank god for Maurices.

i dont have much of a chest, but it seems proportionate to the rest of my body. i sometimes have problems finding shirts that fit all around. sometimes theyll fit on the top but not the bottom, and vice versa.
pants arent usually too much of a problem, shorts are though, its either riding up the butt or granny shorts. even though im thin, i dont like my legs, so i end up wearing capris.
now shoes...im not a shoe gal, i just wear sneakers, but i always have a problem finding a pair i like in my size, either 10 is super popular, or i just fail..

[BookstoreEscapee]

Well, Admin, this is a case where you are provably wrong. At least one member of this site literally wakes up in the morning and throws on the first pants and shirt out of his drawers that aren't his fathers.

Why are your father's clothes in your drawers?

i dont have much of a chest, but it seems proportionate to the rest of my body. i sometimes have problems finding shirts that fit all around. sometimes theyll fit on the top but not the bottom, and vice versa.
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now shoes...im not a shoe gal, i just wear sneakers, but i always have a problem finding a pair i like in my size, either 10 is super popular, or i just fail..

I have a smallish chest and a bit of a belly (which I'm working on); button-down shirts tend to be too tight in the waist or too big in the chest, or they're baggy in the back. I have a couple shirts I love that I can't wear at the moment; my goal is to wear them again

I've been looking to replace a certain pair of loafer-type shoes, just plain old black leather with a little bit of a heel...I can't find anything. Everything is sandals and those little bike-shoe type sneakers; the closest I can find to the style I want is dress shoes, and I want something I can wear socks with. Found a couple pairs online that I liked the look of, but I need to be able to try them on and I don't want to order anything online if it's going to cost me more if I have to send them back. Frustrating.

[artifical sweetner]

DJ and AS... it could be worse... you could live in salt lake where it isn't that hard to find anyone intellegint... but you'd better be into no strings attached, 'fuck em and leave em' sex, because that's what it seems like a lot of the intellegint people are into here.

we have those here too! its like the mindset of most guys (or girls i guess i dunno never dated any :P)

for the record i live in jersey but have dated people from all over. but for some reason jersey guys dont really like me hehe

[BookstoreEscapee]

for the record i live in jersey but have dated people from all over. but for some reason jersey guys dont really like me hehe

Maybe that's my problem - it's just New Jersey!...then again I don't go anywhere lately except work. Most of the guys there barely speak English... Not that I want to date someone from work...again...

[AdminAssistant]

I can't wear capris.

They're always too long or too baggy at the bottoms. I just cover my legs year round.

[Shards]

Why are your father's clothes in your drawers?

In my house whoever did the laundry separates them into three piles, one for my clothes, one for my mother's one for my dad's.

When dad or I do it, it's pretty easy to go... 'Mine... Male and not mine... Female attire...' but when my mom does it, which happens more frequently than I'm proud to admit, interesting combinations of my father's and my own clothes start showing up in both our dressers, which is quite entertaining considering that I'm tall and thin and dad is Medium height and wide...

[blas]

I can't wear capris either unless they are tight and match my heels. Then my legs look almost long enough to pull it off so that I don't look like a stumpy-legged lady.

Or if it's the cargo type capris, I have to have matching platform sandals. No flats with capris. My legs are way too short.

Damn, being short sucks. Anything that isn't tight enough in the butt hips and thighs or can't be worn with heels makes my legs look stumpy and short.

[Jester]

I'm sure all of us could go on tirades about how hard it is to dress ourselves.

I can go on tirades about many things....but not that. Frankly, this is one of the areas I do have it rather easy. It used to actually be tougher when I was thinner than I am now, at least for finding jeans, but overall dressing myself is damn easy and simple, and when I dress up, I look damn good.

What? I have enough areas in my life that are frustratingly difficult.....I'm allowed one easy pass, don't you think?

it could be worse... you could live in salt lake where it isn't that hard to find anyone intellegint... but you'd better be into no strings attached, 'fuck em and leave em' sex, because that's what it seems like a lot of the intellegint people are into here.

Or you could be in Key West, where most of the people you are going to find are either into a gender other than yours, taken, psychotic, or tourists.

Of course, the bad thing about tourists is that they leave after a few days. Conversely, the good thing about tourists is tha they leave after a few days!

(Seriously, though, it is rather hard to find anyone down here worth dating who isn't already involved with someone else. Hell, my latest squeeze, I had to go 2600 miles west to find!)

[Reyneth]

Bah. Still no email and the "last online" show's been online every night since I wrote him (Tuesday, I think). My email was read but not deleted yet, so who knows. I think I'll send a "Hope you have a nice weekend" email and see if there's any reply.

[artifical sweetner]

Maybe that's my problem - it's just New Jersey!...then again I don't go anywhere lately except work. Most of the guys there barely speak English... Not that I want to date someone from work...again...

yea i see you're from central jersey ... dunno how often you go to the shore but those fist bumping bennys dont do it for me either :P hahaha

[AdminAssistant]

Sooo...I think I've decided to go back out there and fish in the virtual sea again. I won't be using the same site where I met BT; I've searched Plenty Of Fish and there's a decent selection of non-creepy looking guys in my area. So, I think I might try that. Which means I need to set up a profile, which I hate, because I never know what to say about myself.

*sigh*

[protege]

Eh, I've used PoF. Big waste of time, IMHO.

[smileyeagle1021]

Eh, I've used PoF. Big waste of time, IMHO.

they all seem like a waste of time... I've got profiles on every major sight and some not so major (well, the free ones anyway)... set them up about 3 months ago... haven't gotten a single email... not one.

[Gravekeeper]

they all seem like a waste of time... I've got profiles on every major sight and some not so major (well, the free ones anyway)... set them up about 3 months ago... haven't gotten a single email... not one.

I met my ex off of one such site. So I know the possibility of success *is* there. I can't vouch for quality but success? Sure. ;p

She was cute and fairly smart, but....immature. Horrible immature. But was one of those things where they successfully hide their bad side until you're living together. Than you're stuck trying find a way back out.

Than she tried to pull a junior high level mind game on me and I tossed her out on her arse the same day. Since it was my place to begin with. Basically some guy asked her out ( and she WENT OUT with him ) so she turned around to me and attempted to use that as leverage to make me do what she wanted ( ie she wanted me go out and party with her, though I explicitly told her that wasn't my thing when she first asked me out ). Essentially, she wanted me to compete with this guy for her affections and was pulling this "Oh well I love you, but I think I love this guy cus he does everything I want him to do so I dunno maybe if you did that too".

Yes, she actually said that and yes, the only problem was I wouldn't go out and shitface party with her and her friends every weekend. Seriously. ><

I basically told her flat out he could have her if she was going to pull crap like this. I think she was honestly completely shocked that I wouldn't rush in to fight over her with some other guy. She didn't expect her ploy to backfire in her face like that. She was even more shocked when I told her she would be moving out immediately. ( No, I'm not horrifically cruel, she had a friends place to crash at and I packed her stuff and put it in storage till she could get it. ). But I have an absolute zero tolerance for bullshit head games and manipulation.

Best part was whatever monkey it was she went out with decided to come pick a fight with me over how badly I had supposedly treated the precious snowflake he went out with despite knowing full well she had a boyfriend. But I was at work at the time so instead he ended up running into two of my friends. So he proceeded to tell them what he wanted to tell me...

Now, I only heard this part from my friends. My friends know me of course, but they knew my ex as well obviously and knew exactly what had happened. So suddenly they have this butthead that my ex went out with in front of them telling them how horrible a person *I* am for hurting her precious feelings.

Apparently, they tore him a new verbal asshole for 20 minutes straight and corrected the various, lets say inaccuracies, in my ex's account of things until the guy ran off with his tail between his legs. This come to Jesus event was so horrific for him that he never called my ex again either.

Still, why in the world would you show up somewhere that you know someone and their friends is going to be to try and pick a fight? Than, failing to find them, pick a fight with several of their friends instead? ><

We're back on good terms these days, though ( me and my ex ). Of course it took quite a few months of cool down and move on. Obviously. -.-

Right, story time over.

Anyway, point is online sites can work. <cough>