so apparently because I'm weirded out by this, I'm a cynical paranoid bitch

[RayvenQ]

Yes it can. But not being able to talk to a person and leaving a note like that are not the same thing. Leaving a note like that rather than approaching the object of affection is, in fact, cowardice. Such bravado is only ever worth a damn thing in person, otherwise it is not bravado--it's cowardice.

Well In my case I had to get a friend of a friend to pass what I wrote on, wasn't to do with courage, probably confidence, but those two do not really interchangable, because i wanted to, but when it came down to doing it, my body refused to move (same with my tongue if i had ever tried speaking to her)

Like I said, I agreed with you on the rest of what you said though.

[Gravekeeper]

I like when Jester posts on these threads, saves me from having to say much.

But yes, he's either a stalker, a coward or an idiot. Or any mixture of the 3. Definitely creepy though. You shouldn't have to justify why you feel that way about it, however. There's a difference between being a cold hearted bitch and trying to avoid ending up tied to post in someone's basement spread eagle in a girl's scout uniform with a happy face drawn over your actual face with a sharpie.

Sounds like the sort of guy that puts up Craigslist ads for "amateur models" for a "photo shoot". >.>

Still, even if he had approached you, I'd still be wary of a guy whose entire basis for coming up to you is "OMFG YER SO HAWT CAN I TOUCH YOUR FEET?".

I was 17 on a side note, and I regretted it honestly. ;p

[Jester]

I have to disagree with this, being shy and cowardace are not related, depending on how shy you are, it can be fairly damned difficult to actually bring yourself to talk to a person, especially if you are attracted to them, not always a matter of courage.

Yes it can. But not being able to talk to a person and leaving a note like that are not the same thing. Leaving a note like that rather than approaching the object of affection is, in fact, cowardice. Such bravado is only ever worth a damn thing in person, otherwise it is not bravado--it's cowardice.

I'm not getting shy from the wording of the note.

Honestly, neither am I. But I did present it as one distant possibility.

[Mike Taylor]

I'm gonna chime in and agree with everybody else.

There's definitely a skeeze factor going on here. Personally, I think it's a doofus who thinks he's being a slick Romeo, but if that letter tripped alarm bells you should listen to them. Whether he's a "playa" or a full blown nutjob is irrelevant.

[SG15Z]

.......ok yeah that's creepy. I'm shy myself, but I never resort to watching a girl in my area from afar for 4 months only to leave a vague note. If I can't work up the courage to talk to her face to face then I don't bother. This guy sounds like a stalker to me, I don't see shyness anywhere, it's just not our style.

[RecoveringKinkoid]

Chalk me up for the "no response" response. If he IS a stalker, even telling him to get lost is contact and attention, and will be perceived as positive.

I cannot stand guys who bang on like that about appearance. It's the only thing that matters to them, and they assume it's the only thing that matters to you, too. "I'll just go on ad nauseum about how good looking she is. She won't be able to resist that." It's yucky. I've broken up with guys over that.

I'm not getting shy from the wording of the note. Shy would be "Hey, I'm your neighbor at blah blah address, and I've seen you around a bit. I'd love to meet you, would you like to meet for coffee at blah blah public place?"

Not "Hey, baby, you're so hot. You're so hot. You're so hot. Call me."

[Irving Patrick Freleigh]

This is the kind of person I like to say "has a special place in his basement for you." I'd give him more credit if he just came up to you the first time he saw you and said "Roses are red, violets are blue, I like spaghetti, let's go ." At least then he's a garden variety creep instead of a plotter and schemer.

I wouldn't give this creepazoid the time of day.

[BookstoreEscapee]

Another vote for stalker.

I second all of Jester's points, except the confrontation one. If he is a stalker, he craves attention of any kind. I'd keep the note handy for say, the next 4 months, but do not attempt to contact him. Period. Sorry your family isn't being more supportive.

I agree, don't call him. Just ignore it, but I'd hold onto the note just in case. In the worst case you'll want it for evidence. Odds are it won't come to that but you never know.

[Talon]

Another vote for stalker.

I second all of Jester's points, except the confrontation one. If he is a stalker, he craves attention of any kind. I'd keep the note handy for say, the next 4 months, but do not attempt to contact him. Period. Sorry your family isn't being more supportive.

[RayvenQ]

2. Dude's painfully shy, and this is his best approach. In other words, a coward, and you don't need to bother with him.

I have to disagree with this, being shy and cowardace are not related, depending on how shy you are, it can be fairly damned difficult to actually bring yourself to talk to a person, especially if you are attracted to them, not always a matter of courage.

Me for example, there was a girl who I liked at school, but i could only express to her how i really felt on paper, because anytime I'd try to say something to her, the words just wouldn't come out. at all. It wasn't a case of courage and/or bravery.

But still, creepy, could have been wored better really, especially the "FRIENDS" part, plus he's also trying to hard to pull you with the whole "if beauty was time" thing.

[Broomjockey]

On first thought: creepy

On deeper introspection, I thought: well, maybe, if you just, well, he could be... nah, fuck it. Creepy. Not the "he knows where you live" bit. If he's a neighbour, of course he would. The whole "watching and thinking a note like that is appropriate and doesn't leave anything beyond a cell" part is creepy.

[Cat]

I will also cast my vote for being creepy...I would sure as hell be freaked out

[Ratha]

You're not wrong, that is BEYOND creepy. Your mom and one friend, I hate to say, are either completely naive or living in a fantasy world. Or both.

[ArcticChicken]

Oh, fuck, no, you are NOT wrong to think that's creepy as hell.

*shudder*

[Jester]

I'm 39 and I'm still a vir--aw, who am I kidding?

But seriously, what you do with your life is only one's person business: yours. If other people don't like it, feel free to tell them where they can stick it. Hell, give them clearly diagrammed instructions.

As for your "fan," I can see three possibilities.

1. Dude's a stalker, and you don't need to bother with him.
2. Dude's painfully shy, and this is his best approach. In other words, a coward, and you don't need to bother with him.
3. Dude's in junior high. After all, for a kid that age, this behavior would make sense. But despite his fantasies, you're out of his age range, and you don't need to bother with him.

There are two ways to deal with this, no matter which of the three above scenarios it is. First is to ignore it. Second is to call the number listed, either from a pay phone or from your phone using caller id block, and listen to the dude, either to politely decline his lovely invitation or to vehemently tell him to leave you alone if he doesn't want to have his testicles removed with rusty grapefruit knife and shoved down his throat for breakfast.

If he is in junior high, I would recommend the gentler approach.