Relationship advice ...possibly NSFW

[Lady Legira]

Velcro. When my BF and I were first experimenting with bondage we bought some velcro cuffs. Enough to make things interesting, easy to get out of if you need to.

I have velcro cuffs partly because my boyfriend is Epileptic and if he seize mid session it's going to be easier for me to get out (or get him out, we go both ways).

[Der Cute]

Velcro..It was ok, but it wasn't the first thing we had used for restraints. We (ex-BF from Stone Age) used silk ties/light stuff. Once he got the Hey That's GOOD signal, we got some stiff velcro cuffs. Ones I couldn't reach with my fingers to undo.
The reason I say scarves is that if she freaks out and goes postal mid-shag - she should be able to undo and escape. Because, she might not be able to retrieve the safe word, with the overload in her head.
This is my point of view, opinion, and is not legal advice.

Treasure's got another way for things - Pretend! (we're focusing on bondage in this thread, she's got new good ideas too). Stranger at bar, Nurse/Doctor, Silly Sex, Strip Poker, Feel up a little bit in public...stuff like that. She's right too, bedroom isn't the only place for nooky. (Do remember the public nudity thing!) What about - Flip a Coin - who's right gets to pick it out that night.

Check out adameve.com, castlemegastore.com, places like that.

Have fun, be safe, use feathers...no more vanilla cardboard!!!

[ArcticChicken]

consider taking sex out of the bedroom... (if you can) try the living room, or the shower...

This is one of the (many) reasons I'm looking forward to the day my BF and I can afford to move in together.

The reason I say scarves is that if she freaks out and goes postal mid-shag - she should be able to undo and escape. Because, she might not be able to retrieve the safe word, with the overload in her head.

That's why I was recommending velcro. I can't reach the cuffs with my fingers, but I can get them to my mouth, or the other hand.

[Jester]

Any sexual/erotic act where someone's got over 50% of the control during a session - THERE MUST BE A SAFEWORD.

While I agree that anytime there is bondage or restraints or that kind of kinky stuff, couples should use a safeword, I disagree with the above statement. In just about ANY sexual act, at any time, one person has more control than the other. It is rarely exactly 50/50.

I could cite examples of what I'm talking about, but since we're all (presumably) adults here, I hope I don't have to.

And honestly, do we really need a safe word for EVERY sex act? Because if you do, there is a definite lack of trust in your relationship.

Velcro. When my BF and I were first experimenting with bondage we bought some velcro cuffs. Enough to make things interesting, easy to get out of if you need to.

I can attest to this, though not from a sexual standpoint. For a costume I've used in the past, I have a straightjacket that is actually velcro in the back, meaning if I have to, I can get out of it very quickly. (It's a costume, for goodness sake.) Still, very effective looking costume. (Dr. Hannibal Lecter, if you were wondering...I've mentioned it on this site before.)