Plaidman

[shadowpanda]

The flowers and donations are an amzing idea

I would also like to throw my hat into the ring of resources for people to chat. I am willing to talk to anyone who wants a friendly ear, or a bit of verbal reality check or whatever people need. Please PM me for contact info. I live in the UK just to make people aware of time differences which may lead to a delay in responses xx

[aurelemsrealm]

I just want to extend my sympathies to Plaidman and his family. I didn't know him personally, but had read a number of his posts. I often sensed that he dealt with a lot of pain and sadness in his life. I even thought about sending him a message a few times, but wasn't sure how he'd receive it. Hopefully, he's in a better place now.

[Cookie]

Thank you thank you to you guys for sending the flower arrangement.

Midnight12, thanks for posting that. I forgot one of his stories was featured in the comic. I don't think it's ever too soon for good memories and smiles.

[telecom_goddess]

That's great......I'm sure his mom will really appreciate the flowers.

[Midnight12]

yes, thank you thank you thank you

earlier was looking around in the cs comic page with hubs and we found an old one
hope its not too soon for good memories and smiles

brain bleach!

also added this comic, some of Thelma and Louis and some from his photo album here to the photobucket
EDIT: also thank you Miss Breeden

[draggar]

Good job, Boozy (and other mods).

[Nurian]

Thank you, Mods. It's good to have a way to say good bye.

[Kara]

This is for the mods:

You are awesome. Forever.

[Boozy]

A floral arrangement has been ordered and will be delivered to the funeral home tomorrow morning, before the service.

The arrangement is on behalf of everyone here at CS. The card will read: "For Driver, who was much loved by so many at CS.com".

No financial contributions will be accepted towards the flowers. However, anyone who would like to contribute something is reminded that the family has requested donations to The Children's Tumor Foundation.

[telecom_goddess]

I've been in that dark place myself a few times in the past. Luckily I think I've gotten past that stuff. My life isn't perfect but it's pretty good and I can feel happy a good deal of the time.

I'm starting to feel myself heal a little bit from this. But it is true that when someone does something like this it leaves a lot of people hurt, more than you may ever know. Plaid accomplished something great ..he touched the lives of people around the world. And he wasn't aware of that.

I lost another dear friend to suicide many years ago...and it took me a long time to get over that one. It's going to take me a long time to get over this, if I ever do. But the key difference this time is that there is this big network of friends, something I didn't have before. So I'm glad about that.

[ArcticChicken]

I'm also going to toss my hat in the ring as someone people can contact if they need to talk. I don't post that much but I'm on here all the time, and I check my email several times a day. I'm not much available over the weekends, but I have a lot of free time during the week. I have FB, skype, and while I don't have a chat program on my computer right now, I'd be happy to download one again. If anyone wants to talk, just send me a PM.

[Antisocial_Worker]

I'm going to chime in and add my voice to those who are willing to talk to you and listen in return. I, too, have been in that same dark place that so many others here have been. I went so far as to figure out how I would do it... and then my boyfriend had a patient who attempted it using the method I had chosen, and he refused to tell me how he felt about that. That told me enough.

It also told me that you can't leave this place without hurting so many others.

So, please. If not the others who have volunteered, I'll listen. Send me a PM and I'll give you a way to reach me. I'm on here most every day so I'll get it soon.

I care here. We care here.

[FormerCallingCardRep]

Sandman, Hubby is about to have one removed from his ankle that the roots have gone between the bones. I am not looking forward to the pain he will have while it heals.

I know I sound like a broken record and a spammer but people can always make donation to the NFNetwork.org in his name ("Driver" Liles). I donated yesterday though their PayPal link, I emailed them asking them to put it in his name and memory.

One of the services they provide is a summer camp for kids with NF so they can meet others their own age and adults that can guide them through problems. A friend of ours from our local support group serves as an adult mentor at the camp every year. I think Plaidman would get a kick knowing that some of the money donated in his name will go help children with NF

[Sandman]

former's husband has a good point on the pain that follows having a fibroid which has it's roots on a nerve... it's even more painful when you have that removed. it takes a long time for it to heal. i had one removed and i still get twinges from the area.. but i know it's healing

[RecoveringKinkoid]

I just want to say that no matter how depressed you get, no matter how much you think nobody cares, no matter how awful everything seems, there is never a case where you can just check out and not hurt a whole bunch of people in the process.

Couple years ago, a good friend of mine, (another Kinkoid, in fact) killed himself in a rather messy way and was found by his best friend. He'd left a note on the door "call the police and don't go inside."

Well, dumbass, your buddy went inside. Who the fuck wouldn't?

So yeah. I was at that memorial service and I saw what kind of state his best friend was in. In fact, nobody was in a much better condition, including me. (I think I must have mentioned that Kinko's let the entire store go to a memorial service and got other Kinkoid's from neighboring cities to cover the shift. This was why.)

My friend's name was Jaimey, and I loved him. And I'd like to kick him right in the nuts.

I know there are a lot of depressed people on here. I have been there. I have had that dark night of the soul. I have thought about the pistol in my nightstand in that dark night. There, I said. Who hasn't had that night. Let's just be honest here.

It gets better. God is my witness, it gets better. Your problems are temporary. Someone cares. Probably more someones than you think. Call someone and give them a chance to talk you down so they don't hate you and worse, hate themselves. Don't cheat yourself out of something beautiful that is most likely in your future.

I am happy and have a wonderful life. What I have now was worth every drop of blood and pain and sweat I had to spend to get here. I think back to that night and have to sit down until the shaking stops.