No you can't have my boyfriend

[Evil Queen]

Women who compete with their children for men make me kind of throw up in my mouth a bit.

You and me both.

[Becks]

Whoa. You've gotta be something to get yourself banned from a porn board.

Oh, yeah, he's special like that.

... er.... not that I know anything about porn boards or anything....

Same here.

[GingerBiscuit]

I get my fair share of boys coming on to me, and not getting the message until he turns up- all 6'5", well-muscled hulk of him.

As does he. As well as being tall and muscualr he is classically good looking with a strong jaw, high cheekbones, blue eys and just general hawtness. The amount of times I have been on the dance floor with him and some girls tried to get in between us is untrue- the amount of times I've gone to the loo and found some girl trying it on with him... and he;s just utterly oblivious- he hinks they're being 'friendly'. The only time he clued in is when one tried to jump on him, at which point I told her to stop touching my fiance or she;d find out what pain meant.

I have NEVER understood this though. So you're out, and single, and you see someone you are attracted to. However, they are OBVIOUSLY with someone. Not just trying to pull that someone for the night, but actually WITH. Now, as I have this thing called self-respect, I would never knowingly go after someone in a relationship. I might crush on them a bit, but I wouldn't try and pull a guy in a relationship. Why- because it smacks of low self-esteem, or why else would you do it, and if they're willing to cheat on them, they'll be willing to cheat on me.

[Emrld]

Rk and EQ - I know what you mean about women competing with their Children . . .But it sounds like the Store Bag Girl was messed up enough in the head that she was competing with Mom . . .trying to take away what made Mom happy. Course if the male was willing to do that the Mom was better off without him.

Is it just me that doesn't understand the Evil Eye thing. Honestly if a couple is already established and happy together shouldn't you give respect to that. If it is their choice to only be the two of them and that is what you want in your life why would you try and destroy that. Let alone why give the person you see in your way the stink eye. (And if you are into more than two people in the relationshp but, the person you are chasing isn't . . .well I am not even going there because the people I know in that lifestyle are more likely to show respect to an individuals choice)

[RecoveringKinkoid]

Because people that that have no respect for relationships. They dont' respect other people's, and they dont' respect their own. It makes them feel powerful to cause drama for other people. It makes them feel attractive because they were able to make an unavailable man risk his relationship..

Someone here brought up "low self esteem"

[zzapp the witch]

This last weekend the bf and I were out playing pool, there's a cute chickie that looks familiar to me at the next table and we started chatting. After a few rounds of pool and a few drinks, she gets in real close to the bf. I just keep on shooting while they're talking.

Later, the bf told me that she said, "Better watch out or I'll be taking your woman home with me tonight." Bf told her to go ahead and try. She tried. Told her her bi-dar was off, I'm straight. (Still like her though, she's a kick in the pants). Was hoping she'd hook up with a friend of mine...didn't happen.

Another time the guy at the only gas station I go to asked if we could go out for coffee sometime, I had just started dating bf a couple weeks earlier. Told him I was dating someone, he walked off muttering, "Lucky bastard."

Currently the big thing is fighting off psycho ex. She's caused quite the lot of trouble for me and bf. He didn't take the getting a restraining order seriously until I told him how she said, "If I can't have him, you won't have him either, even if I have to put his ass in jail." Pretty much had to put my foot down and tell him if he enjoyed the drama he can enjoy it by himself. Best guy that's happened to me in years and I'm debating kicking him to the curb because of all the shit he lets her get away with. (And now I feel like a controlling bitch). I'm about ready to punch her teeth in, but I feel that he should be expected to take care of his problems to a certain point. (I also don't know if he's one of those pigs that likes the idea of girls fighting over him).

[Andara Bledin]

Best guy that's happened to me in years and I'm debating kicking him to the curb because of all the shit he lets her get away with. (And now I feel like a controlling bitch).

Yeah, the ex needs to be made fully ex. You shouldn't really have to deal with that.

I wouldn't feel controlling at all. He needs to get the old business taken care of properly before any new business can really get going.

^-.-^

[zzapp the witch]

Yeah, a guyfriend of mine said, "You're either his girlfriend, or you're not."

[Lace Neil Singer]

I know about psycho exes; my boyf's most recent one was a real nutjob at first. Now of course, she's met some other poor guy and gotten engaged, so she's finally leaving my boyf and I alone, but in the past she was really nuts. My boyf had been single for four years after he dumped her for her insane jealousy. She'd practically burst a blood vessel and yell at him even if he walked past a girl in the street, or even accidently laid eyes on one in a magazine. She also wouldn't let him sit at a table by a window, or watch any videos that had scantily clad women in them; he eventually got sick of her and ditched her.

Now, all the time he was single she was fine, but when he dared to get another girlf (me) she went ballistic. At first she was just calling him up and bugging him that way; he'd hang up as soon as he heard her voice and eventually changed his number. Then she decided that she'd get even with me, cuz I "stole" her boyf. She told me that she was going to come down to my local and get me. I told her that if she started any trouble in that pub, everyone would be on my side; they'd look the other way while I was beating the crap out of her and throwing her bodily down the stairs. Needless to say, she never showed up there and afterwards, she just stuck to making snide remarks to people who kept my boyf and I informed as to what she was saying about us. I really pity the poor bastard she's gotten engaged to; she probably makes him walk around blindfolded just in case he accidentally lays eyes on another girl.

[crazylegs]

It makes them feel attractive because they were able to make an unavailable man risk his relationship..

Someone here brought up "low self esteem"

Some people do have more about them than that, its just that you don't notice it because nothing happens, point a)

I have a friend who is getting married in the summer, I am both incredibly pleased for her and also am very jealous of the chap she is marrying (can you see where this is going! ) however I couldn't contemplate making her life difficult or making her unhappy by doing anything silly.

[blas]

My best friend is a guy. A very tall guy. Not extremely large, just everything is proportioned properly. I mean, this guy is a foot or more taller than me. He isn't extremely good looking, but he isn't ugly either.

We go to the bars every weekend. It works like a charm. No guys bother me. They just look at me strange (maybe there's something on my face?).

The unfortunate part is even though we sit next to each other and have been known to dance and hold hands, skanky drunk girls leech on to him. Poor guy. Random girls have came up and started dancing on him or hitting on him and he looks to me for support. If most of those girls weren't twice my weight and build like farm girls, I'd take them on......instead I just say "That's MY boyfriend!"

Kind of sucks that he never gets to protect me from nasty guys. I have to do all the work protecting him from nasty girls.

Just goes to show that girls can be just as skeezy as men.

[Alexandra]

Without having read the thread....

Where I used to work (same place as my husband, he's still there), there was this girl (who's also still there) who made it clear she had a thing for my husband. He made it clear she wasn't interested.

One time she asked me why didn't I go check out other guys. I told her to her face that my husband is the only man for me--and that I'm the only woman for my husband.

There was one time where she told my husband that he made her wet or some crude comment like that. My husband asked her did someone stick a water hose in her rear or something to that effect! (This is a factory setting BTW.)

My husband has said that even if she weren't fat she's still ugly and she has no chance at all. Still, I wish she'd cool it. I'm just thinking, just who does she think she is? Someone apparently forgot to tell her that it's not okay to come on to other women's husbands!

[Crazeyal]

I remember when I was single. I hadn't worked out the whole "attraction is in the mind" thing yet. Everyone has a preferance, some people are shy, some people are picky. Idiots that are just out for sex are easy to pick out... Once you are not involved in the chase that is. "Skanky" women look that way because they act and FEEL like predators. You can be dressed provocatively and carry it off.

I mean, wearing a string and duct tape is STILL "Look at me I'm $@#able!!" But there is a differance between wanting attention and being DESPERATE for it, reguardless of gender.

[blas]

I think the alcohol plays a part as well. I would like to hope that at least when sober, some of these ladies have at least a little bit of class and self respect.

[boringscreenname]

David gets flirted with all the time. A couple months ago he went into the hair cutting place at Wal-Mart. He was the only person in there and I noticed his hair cut was taking a lot longer than normal. When he came out he said the lady cutting his hair kept trying to flirt with him, and was deliberately going slow, and kept running her fingers through his hair and gave him a scalp massage. Then when she finally finished she gave him her phone number. He tore up her number and we haven't been back since.