SC posts complaint about me online

[Dilorenzo]

Hurm.

Times like this I'm ashamed to be a male gaming/comics fan.

That, and it reminds me that stereotypes exist for a reason. I can only hope it'll go away sooner or later, but, again. Hurm.

[Tama]

Guys like this were apparently so bad for Star Trek that they made up a whole character to model the worst bits of them.

Reg Barclay! XD

[Flying Grype]

Times like this I'm ashamed to be a male gaming/comics fan.

That, and it reminds me that stereotypes exist for a reason. I can only hope it'll go away sooner or later, but, again. Hurm.

So... do something about it. I mean, if you're just ashamed because people will think you're like that, that's one thing. But if you're ashamed that your peer group harasses women like that, you can actually do something to help, by speaking out against it among your peers. You don't have to wait until it goes away on its own, you can actually do something to change it. Be a gentleman, stand up against behaviour like that.

[Mytical]

Keep in mind Flying Grape, that being a gentleman comes with a price. When the person you are standing up for slaps you, you tend to rethink your position on things. Not to mention the "I can fight my own battles.", "I don't need a MAN to do things for me." "What are you a chauvinist pig?" and the like. In the years, and years, I've stood up against things like mistreating a woman..I've probably seen it all (ok maybe not, but a good portion of it). Even had a knife thrown at me for daring to lay out a guy that hit a woman for no reason. Hasn't stopped me mind, but understand that being a gentleman is now a dirty word a lot of places.

People seem to think that it means you want women barefoot and pregnant, that you think they can not defend or speak for themselves, and that you think somehow you are 'superior' to them. Trying to explain otherwise is a waste of time. Obviously trying to hold a door open for a woman, or telling some guy to back off, means you don't respect a female..don't you know?

[Goddess of Retail]

New Update Time!

Hey again.

Well, Senor Stupid-head's post was away for a while, but now it is back...with a new super-suck addition!

We had an awesome review from a customer who's been coming here for about 8 years. He had everything nice to say about us, and especially mention me & how he likes talking to me. (Also, he wins bonus points for making a comment in his post about Stupid-head's remark...something like "Yeah, her smiles aren't just for YOU!)

I laughed when I read that, and it was one day later that Stupid-head's post got deleted. I was full of happy, but I guess he was simply lying in wait, because it's now back, but his opening comment says to beware because "nice guy's name" is NOT a customer, he's an employee who works on comics.

I want to be like; "No, sorry, but I know it wasn't a co-worker who posted that, as my boss specifically forbids us from commenting on our own review sites!" At this point, I may sign in under my own Yahoo ID and simply reply to Stupid-head's new 'review'.

Any suggestions on what I should put? I mean, there's what I'd really LIKE to write but then there's what I should write

BTW, for some of the other postings;

-Looked up all the Youtube/Internets links you all suggested. They all rocked fairly hard

-Rings=no worky, Fake Boyfriend=no worky, Fake Husband=no worky, Saying I'm a Lesbian=super fail/no worky EVER, Saying I'm in Career Mode=they don't even know what that is/no worky.

-To poor gentleman guy (I forget your screen name-Many apologies!)
There are always going to be Super-Ultra-FemiNazis, who seem to make it their personal goal to emotionally/mentally castrate any and all males the come into contact with. Don't listen to them, and keep being a cool, gentlemanly dude. Or, take a look at my new-fangled "How to Deal With Females!" list below.


DO hold the door open for a woman if she is carrying stuff or looks tired.
DON'T hold the door open for a woman if she's walking unaided/fast/arrogantly.

DO offer to help a woman with a package if she seems to be struggling.
DON'T offer to help a woman with a package if she's carrying it fine herself.

DO comment on how nice your wife, girlfriend, well-known coworker looks.
DON'T comment on how nice a complete stranger looks.

DO help your significant other get the lid off the spaghetti sauce jar.
DON'T...well, actually I don't have one. If you don't get the lid off, you may miss out on tasty pasta dinner Just don't be a jerk about it.

That's pretty much my take on the whole Gentleman vs. Chauvinist thing...

[EricKei]

but his opening comment says to beware because "nice guy's name" is NOT a customer, he's an employee who works on comics.

REPLY TO SUCKTOMER> So...you're not only delusional, you're a liar, as well?

[Flying Grype]

Keep in mind Flying Grape, that being a gentleman comes with a price. When the person you are standing up for slaps you, you tend to rethink your position on things.

We're not talking about the same situation. Yes, sometimes women will interpret it as showing off if you jump in to defend her in public against something she doesn't need defending from, such as a door. Would you want someone stepping in and thinking they can save you, in a situation where you'd rather handle it yourself? Then she probably wouldn't either. For example, if she's trying to present herself as competent and independent in front of a boss, it would be annoying if someone stepped in to defend her as if his actions counted in that situation.

Standing up against systematic oppression, such as sexual harassment in the workplace, is a different thing. A woman can't necessarily handle it by herself when the culture (like the gamer guy culture) supports the behaviour (considering someone your girlfriend when she's only barely spoken to you) that she's being subjected to.

Rather, talk about it amongst your male friends, call them on it when they make nasty jokes or otherwise provide you with evidence that they don't think of women as human beings. Could a friend have stopped this guy from treating the OP the way he did, just by saying something like "dude, you're out of line, you're fantasizing and you're not living in reality" or even "quit acting like a stalker"? That's the kind of thing that needs to happen more often.

Standing up against oppression is not easy. Living with it is harder. Learn to identify it in your peers, and shoot it down when you see it.

[suburbandecay]

-I unfortunately have to agree with the people who said the fake ring DOESN'T work. I've tried that, talking about my non-existent boyfriend, etc. and none of them ever work. Most guys do seem to see this as simply another hurdle...

I had a particularly crass coworker tell me the following after I pointed out the woman he was flirting with was married: "I've never seen a ring stop a hole".

I somehow doubt that this is an uncommon viewpoint among the creepers.

[fma_fanatic]

All I can say is been there, done that, married a guy I met at a gaming convention, divorced his sorry cheating ass and met and married a better guy who likes comics, anime, manga and I can't get rid of him! (not that I'd want to ).

I feel for you on being the girl at the comic store who all the guys want to talk to/hang out with. We're cool. I get that. We understand the guys on a level that most of them don't get, except with their friends and they're guys.

I'm also a tomboy, so I can relate to guys up to a certain level. The husband gets scared when I become "girly".

[Gerrinson]

So, I guess while reading most of this I overlooked the part where this loser is middle-aged. I pictured the schmuck as late teens, early twenties. Acting like this when you're middle-aged is beyond pathetic.

Also, I would suggest not responding yourself. Since your boss prohibits it, it is to your benefit to not do so.

Since he reviewed you and not the store, maybe some of the nice customers could be given the link and asked to review his review. He can only claim 'also an empoyee!' so many times before the lie become obvious.

[Eireann]

I'm confused - the text below your red text; is that what the customer wrote?

[XCashier]

Since he reviewed you and not the store, maybe some of the nice customers could be given the link and asked to review his review. He can only claim 'also an empoyee!' so many times before the lie become obvious.

Exactly. A comic shop with 50 employees is stretching things a bit.

[Ironclad Alibi]

I know one friend of mine, a fellow in the comic/gaming community, who has a bogus wedding ring he wears to conventions. . .to pick up girls! He says he wears it to Gen Con every year.

There is a recent movie with a similar plot, Just Go With It. In the movie, the fake marriage thing backfires on the guy when he falls in love with the girl and has to get unmarried.

[Beckpatton]

Like others have said, he obviously thought you were interested in him and doesn't take rejection well.

As I have explained to my younger sister recently, some men, especially immature hormonal teenage boys, and dirty old men, mistake "niceness" for "flirtation". The point being they think "She's talking to me, she must like me!"

She too just wants to be one of the guys, most of her friends are male, but recently some of them have been hitting on her. Not her core group, but their other friends. There's not much you can do about it except to stop being nice!

[PepperElf]

He's STILL attacking you for being friendly?
what does he expect from you now? Sounds like he thinks you OWE him for his bruised ego or something