One crisis is over, another is just beginning (language and long)

[Irving Patrick Freleigh]

Does that mean that in a few years we'll be back in baggy jeans, flannel shirts, and Docs with unwashed hair in our faces listening to Nirvana??

I'm still waiting for the first wave of Kurt Cobain impersonators to hit the scene.

[goldaries13]

Today's the day. His first radiation appointment.

We visited a lawyer yesterday. His mother legally has no standing if she tries to become his medical proxy, so all she'd be doing if she tried is essentially wasting time and money. Everything in terms of The Dane's living will, his will, and other legal wrangling is all set.

Now, for a rant. The background for the rant is thus: The Dane and I are attending a fairly large university in central New York. We do interact with other students, but quite frankly, we don't hang out as such because these people don't seem to have moved past the 'drinking till you pass out is fun' stage.

I was at one of the college libraries the other day when one of these people came up to me. If she had simply said, 'sorry to hear about The Dane, hope he gets better,' and move on, I wouldn't be ranting about it.

Fuckwit: Hey, Gold! How's it going?
Me: Meh, good and bad.
FW: I heard about The Dane. He was such a good guy...
Me: Uh, He's still very much alive.
FW: Yeah, but he had brain surgery, right? Doesn't that... change things?
me: ...
FW: I mean, I'm sure [university] will give him his degree anyway, since the bulk of his coursework took place before...
Me: Are you trying to ask me if my husband's...
FW: *cutting in* Retarded. Wouldn't that invalidate your marriage, too?
Me: How dare you? You know what, you're sick. Coming over here, acting like my friend and that you're concerned, when all you wanted was to satisfy some sick curiosity... What the fuck is wrong with you?

I ran off before she could say anything. I mean, honestly? How sick is that?

[RootedPhoenix]

I....
*offers chocolate* People like that are sick. I'm sorry you had to put up with that.

[Ree]

Sorry I didn't see this until now.

:hugs:

We are here for you.

[Bliss]

Me: Are you trying to ask me if my husband's...
FW: *cutting in* Retarded. Wouldn't that invalidate your marriage, too?

Projecting much lady?

[goldaries13]

Projecting much lady?

I have to admit, this made me giggle.

[XCashier]

Projecting much lady?

I think you nailed it.

What a stupid airhead. I hope she was properly embarrassed and learns to think before she speaks. Maybe...

[tropicsgoddess]

Wow, talk about a serious brain-to-mouth filter malfunction with that chick.

[Bliss]

I have to admit, this made me giggle.

I am glad, that was my intention. I didn't offer hugs since I normally think there is nothing I can say that would fix things. But I did this because I know the fight that comes is hard and you guys need to remember what you're fighting for to get over it with success. Stuff like your love, cool summer breezes and laughing.

[goldaries13]

His radiation appointment went okay (I can hear the groans already. "of course it went okay, it's his first appointment!" but I worry). The team warned us that in the coming weeks The Dane may have sores and ulcers in his mouth and throat and that he'll be tired and possibly nauseous.

I, personally, can't wait for the next two weeks to be over and done with, because then school will be over and then The Dane can just rest. He had class after his radiation treatment and he said he was starting to feel a little sick. He really thought about skipping but the professor is a bitch. His next appointment is either Monday or Tuesday, I forget which.

[Der Cute]

I'm glad you gave the WhatFor to that woman. Gah!! And I'm glad you've been to the lawyer and got your ducks in a row. Good on you. Now, it's treat the Evil Thing and hope it learns You Don't Want It.

Hugs to both of you - you need it. Want some fudge too? *fudge and cookies and kitty loves*

Cutenoob

[Broomjockey]

Worrying is normal, don't feel bad about it. Actually, you shouldn't feel bad about *anything* you've done in this thread.

Worrying? You love him, you'll worry no matter what.

That twit in the library? Obviously been drinking too hard. Surprised she managed to dress herself.

Calling the SIL names? Calling it as it is.

Tossing the MIL out? completely necessary. Not all parents are good ones, In-laws or not. Some are destructive. I'd relate some tales, but I doubt it's needed. Getting a bad influence out of your life and out of his is an excellent thing, and will only improve matters.

Just remember that you've got support here, and we love it when people get what's coming to them, so if you need to vent more, have at it Good luck in the coming days

[Cia]

A raving cunt harpy was probably one of the nicer things you could say about your MIL. I could just see the judge quizzing your MIL:

Judge: Where do you live?
MIL: Denmark.
Judge: Where does your son and DIL live.
MIL: The US.
Judge: Case dismissed.

Do you think the Dane would get upset if his mother and sisters were shipped back to Denmark in a metal shipping container?

I bet that fellow university student of yours falls down alot since her foot is shoved so far down her throat it's poking out her ass.

For my wedding my MOH and bridesmaid wore dresses with black bodices and gunmetal skirts. Or you could go with dresses that are a negative to yours - black with white trim.

[goldaries13]

I love you guys. Always with the quick wit.

The Dane is doing alright today. Still some lingering nausea. He has apparently taken it upon himself to drink all my decaf green tea because it's the only thing that settles his stomach(well, that and soup, but he's feeling lazy today).

My brothers and half-brothers have all made plans to drop by in the coming weeks. Mostly so that someone will always be able to drive the Dane to and from his appointments. That, and apparently this is like a vacation for them. For those that are counting, that's 5 brothers, 2 half-brothers, 3 wives, 2 common law wives, 2 girlfriends, 15 children, and 8 or 9 giant SUVs.



What can I say? The first thing my family is likely to say in a crisis is, "All y'all! Pack your stuff and be in the damn car in fifteen minutes! We gotta go help <whatever relative has dropped off into hell>!"

[SengaKitty]

What can I say? The first thing my family is likely to say in a crisis is, "All y'all! Pack your stuff and be in the damn car in fifteen minutes! We gotta go help <whatever relative has dropped off into hell>!"

All I can say, my dear, is you have an awesome family behind you. It sounds like they actually care about each other, which is more than can be said for The Dane's family. I'm really glad to hear they're going to be there for you and The Dane.

You're still in my thoughts and prayers, and I'm keeping a candle lit for all of you.

Oh, and a tip for the radiation? (My Dad had radiation for throat cancer), Keep lots of water around too. Anything the Dane can drink and keep down that with ease the sores. It'll be hard for him to drink cokes and things likely. I don't want to scare you, but be prepared for a feeding tube. The radiation can burn the throat so badly that they won't be able to swallow. This is not a bad thing, or a permanent one, just a side effect of killing That Evil Thing.

We're here for you honey!