No you can't have my boyfriend

[RecoveringKinkoid]

I've noticed that, too.

Understand me, I'm not saying a physically unattractive guy can't be awesome, charming, and sexy. They can, and I say that with conviction and experience. However, it always seems to be the women of guys who are really not what you'd call "classically attractive" who are the most rabid defenders of their turf.

Maybe they really do appreciate their guy's charms to the point that they can't believe other women wouldn't find them as attractive as they do.

[Sheldonrs]

If you want girls to jump on you like a duck on a june bug, tell them you're gay.

When woman find out I'm gay it's like someone openned the gate to the last chocolate bar on Earth.

It used to drive my straight male co-workers crazy because we would go to a bar after work on Fridays and the pretty young waitresses would be all over me and not even notice them. A few would even sit in my lap to take my order.
Didn't do a thing for me but it pissed the guys off. hahaha

[Boozy]

A few thoughts on the many points made in this thread:

1. A problem with you significant other's "psycho" ex is a problem with your significant other. Despite popular belief, most people don't have the psychological make-up to stalk someone with absolutely no encouragement from the object of their affection. Its far more likely that the significant other is having trouble being assertive and isn't being clear that they aren't interested.

Or maybe they're cheating on you with the psycho ex.

Either way, "psycho" exes usually turn out to be not so crazy after all. Rude, misguided perhaps, sometimes desperate, but not actually mentally ill.

2. Like many of you, I've never understood the "hands off my man" attitude. He's not my man. He is a person. He does not belong to me, nor I to him. Furthermore, he's a big boy and can make his own decisions. I am not interested in a man who needs my help in fending off admirers.

3. Women who spend a lot of time with gay men often do so because they can get the intimacy of a male relationship without the threat of sexual pressure. These women have sometimes been hurt in the past by men and are looking for a safer relationship.

Men who love the company of lesbians are usually hoping for a spontaneous threesome to break out, like they've seen on the Internet.

That is all.

[LambChop]

Men who love the company of lesbians are usually hoping for a spontaneous threesome to break out, like they've seen on the Internet.

That is all.

>_>

<_<

*slowly raises hand* ...guilty. >_<

In all seriousness though, I wish I had those kind of problems. I'm not what most would call 'hawt' but I like to think I'm handsome in my own ways. That being said, I know that I've never been threatened by other men coming on to significant other. All of my previous girlfriends had no troubles in fending off 'smarma-sauruses,' and they were always surprised when I had nothing to say about it. If other guys are hitting on you, that just means I have a 'hawt' girlfriend (cue 'ego boost').

Jealousy is a horrible thing so I don't do it...but neither will I put up with it.

[GingerBiscuit]

Oh I can get a little jealous now and again, when someone's being far too obvious- but it's mainly becuase it's just rude and arrogant on their part. Most of the time I'm not jealous at all- and neither is he. We know who the other is coming home with. If your relationship is secure, happy and respectful there is almost no need for jealousy.

[Andara Bledin]

When woman find out I'm gay it's like someone openned the gate to the last chocolate bar on Earth.

Gay men are "safe." They know that no matter how flirty or close a relationship gets, it will never go past a certain boundary.

^-.-^

[Lace Neil Singer]

A few thoughts on the many points made in this thread:

1. A problem with you significant other's "psycho" ex is a problem with your significant other. Despite popular belief, most people don't have the psychological make-up to stalk someone with absolutely no encouragement from the object of their affection. Its far more likely that the significant other is having trouble being assertive and isn't being clear that they aren't interested.

Or maybe they're cheating on you with the psycho ex.

Either way, "psycho" exes usually turn out to be not so crazy after all. Rude, misguided perhaps, sometimes desperate, but not actually mentally ill.

Actually, no to both. In my case, I have had it on record from at least seven other people about this woman, and she IS a psycho. Her pathological jealousy while dating my boyf was noted by several of his friends and workmates, all who urged him to ditch her and who have long memories. She also turned up at his work to bug him.

Yes, my boyf did have trouble standing up to her and telling her to piss off, but most people would get the message about their ex not wanting them around after the police had visited them at their home once and once at their ex boyf's workplace. This girl did not and in fact, didn't stop with the nastiness til she met her current victim.

Despite what you might think, there are actually people like this around who are FULLY to blame, not their exes. I know you didn't specifically direct this at me, but I find it quite insulting that you're taking this general view towards every report of a nutty ex when there are actually people who may not have a diagnosable mental problem, but are acting deranged and out of order.

[Boozy]

Despite what you might think, there are actually people like this around who are FULLY to blame, not their exes. I know you didn't specifically direct this at me, but I find it quite insulting that you're taking this general view towards every report of a nutty ex when there are actually people who may not have a diagnosable mental problem, but are acting deranged and out of order.

I wasn't directing my comments towards you at all, and I am sorry that you found them insulting. I certainly don't deny that there are crazy people out there.

[zzapp the witch]

That was my thought on it Boozy, if she's still coming around, he's giving her something. Whether its attention, on up to sex, its something.

[blas]

I must respectfully disagree with you, my dear Boozy. Although at times it's purely human nature to call someone "psycho" because of odd things that they do, there are some exes out there who really do deserve that title. It's just not natural to do some of the things that our exes on here have done.

[Lace Neil Singer]

Thank you and Boozy, I wasn't being mean.

Zap, he wasn't giving her anything, unless by attention you mean calling the police. If you see that as attention, then you're obviously as nutty as she is. O_o In fact, a lot of the times, she didn't even get to him; just waited outside so I would appreciate if you didn't cast asperations on me or my boyf, who you don't know.

Just to clarify, I'm not getting stressed up or attacking anyone; I just would prefer it if people wouldn't insinuate that my boyf is cheating on me, when he is not, or that his psycho ex is just a harmless misunderstood innocent girl. Yes, I'm sure that some so called psycho exes are innocent, but this one certainly is not. Still, she's gotten her perfect victim now and wears her victim's ring, so she's happy; and my boyf and I are happy cuz we don't have to deal with her stalkerish behaviour. So let's just leave it at that, m'kay?

[Ree]

Ok, guys. Let's respect each other.

Lace Neil has asked for the issue to be dropped, so move on.

[Boozy]

Although at times it's purely human nature to call someone "psycho" because of odd things that they do...

I am so guilty of this. I used to use the word "psycho" to describe anyone who is unpleasant and mildly eccentric.

Thanks for accepting my apology, Lace. All the talk of psycho exes reminded me of a recent relationship that my sister was in, where it turned out that her boyfriend was to blame. I hadn't read your previous posts carefully until just now. I'm glad this girl appears to be out of your life now. Although I have to say, I feel a little bad for the new guy she's got her hooks into. He probably didn't even see her coming.

[Eireann]

I've dealt with psycho exes before, and I know all too well how they operate. ANY attention, no matter how negative, is enough to keep them after you. The way to deal with it is to stop communicating with them entirely, but most of us believe that if we just talk to them, or email them, they'll realize what they're doing and will stop.

It's not that easy, alas.

So, I don't believe that it's due to the person being stalked, unless you want to blame them for believing - as so many people do - that the behavior can be reasoned with. It can't. Too many people out there, once they start getting weird over another person, will continue to call, drop by, come to the workplace, whatever, just to get the attention of the person they're obsessed with. And it's damned hard, often, NOT to communicate with the other person in any way.

[zzapp the witch]

My post was in regards to boozy as if she were responding to my situation, not yours, Lace.

And I'm editing the term corrector in me.