SC posts complaint about me online

[CalyCoRose]

I used to work at a Gaming Store. The first time I worked there I was married and pregnant. Didn't keep guys from hitting on me.

The 2nd time I worked there, I was only married. Still didn't keep guys from hitting on me. But I usually just "flirted" with the old guys whom I knew where happily married and just got a kick out of a chick 20-30 years younger than them who gamed.

[Can I Help Your A$$?]

I'd hate to see how he is at a strip club.

[flybye023]

One thing worth mentioning: if you're worried about what people will think about you (if they know it's you) after reading this guy's review, honestly my first reaction is the person who posted this is not normal.

I would not read that review and think "oh, gee, that girl working at the game store must really be a bitch" I would think "the guy who wrote that is a creep. Not only did he think the employee was "interested" in him, he went online and told everyone she done him wrong."

[emax4]

I feel bad for the guy, but maybe the problem is not that he went overboard to hurt you as he felt that you had hurt him, but rather that he took things the wrong way and doesn't know how to handle rejection. I hate to sound hypocritical and join in the society that tends to "blame the victim", but how you can blame someone for not knowing how to do something? Perhaps nobody told him things to make life easier after a rejection, such as "that's one less woman in the world to tell you 'no' ", and should have said, "eh, I know you're hurt but it's probably not a good idea to slam the whole business", or put them in the reverse situation and see if they think it's fair.

I think for anyone single and looking, it's easy to make the mistake of attraction when you find something in common with someone of the opposite sex. I'm sure I've made that mistake at times. Not everyone knows about putting Mac software on PCs, the subtle phrases of the old Mystery Science Theater 3000 episodes, or old keyboards and synthesizers. But if some woman I found physically attracted to mentioned stuff about ATI kexts, used the phrase, "Push the button, FRANK!", or talked to me about her old Yamaha DX7IIFD with the "E!" upgrade, immediately I would feel a connection based on the fact that the general population doesn't know about those things. I think this is why, when meeting strangers, we often talk about the news or the weather; which is something generally may have a similar feeling about. No?

[MoonCat]

One thing worth mentioning: if you're worried about what people will think about you (if they know it's you) after reading this guy's review, honestly my first reaction is the person who posted this is not normal.

I would not read that review and think "oh, gee, that girl working at the game store must really be a bitch" I would think "the guy who wrote that is a creep. Not only did he think the employee was "interested" in him, he went online and told everyone she done him wrong."

This. Especially the part where he states that he finally figured out she "did that with everyone." Oh horrors! A store employee who's pleasant and polite, and chats with everyone?? How dishonest! I think it's pretty obvious to anyone who reads his review that he's being a jerk. I agree someone (maybe your CW or boss?) should report it as a personal attack.

[FenigDurak]

Oh, ugh.

There is one last detail people are leaving out of the rational behind the attack.

A decent number of geeks who have the complex of "It's female and nice to me means she is flirting" also have the complex of "If she isn't directly interested in me she MUST be a <female derogatory of your choice> that is ONLY using her looks and charm to manipulate me to do <Action, in this case, buy crap>". I mean, it's the Mike complex ala SP, just you know, a real person...

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I knew plenty of people like that (and got enough of the "She's a whore" rants) to make me want to bash skulls. Fortunately, none of my close friends were like this (a whole slew of beta males and the girls that love them :P).


Ninja addendum: Wedding ring wouldn't work, if they are anything like me they simply wouldn't get what it means :P

This. This a thousand times. This was me for so many years. I worked at a comic store, went to cons, love sci-fi, etc. I tried the fake ring, tried being less friendly, and more and none of it worked as well as throwing the words "my boyfriend" into the occassional conversational anecdote. Worked like nerd repellent. Just make sure your boss and coworkers know about your ploy.

[Kristev]

I'm thinking, personally, that he's actually involved with the other store he preferred. Maybe owner, maybe employee, but something doesn't quite pass the smell test.

That would explain the reason he'd be coming in. Spying on the competition.

As for the attacks on you personally, most inexcusable. Perhaps yahoo can do something about it?

[Little Retail Rabbit]

This. This a thousand times. This was me for so many years. I worked at a comic store, went to cons, love sci-fi, etc. I tried the fake ring, tried being less friendly, and more and none of it worked as well as throwing the words "my boyfriend" into the occassional conversational anecdote. Worked like nerd repellent. Just make sure your boss and coworkers know about your ploy.

Really? That works? I've been with my Bear for 7 and half years and its NEVER worked when I've told people about him! Well, in the past, if I got into a long conversation or two with someone, it wold eventually come out that my fiance lives abroad, and I do see where the "oh so he doesn't actually exist" or "so she's open to cheat on him" mentality to comes from (neither are true, of course). But nowadays, I don't even mention that and it doesn't seem to work.

Like i said at the end of my last post, met a lad in the bookstore a few weeks back who seemed to be very smitten with me, and so twice I mentioned not only that was I was 6 years older than him, but that I was engaged too. In hindsight, i don't think he was listening to me at all anyway (I think he was trying to "impress" me with his knowledge of music...which pissed me off, because he ignored me outright the 3 times I said "Well goth music isn't the same as metal, its a movement that actually came out of the post-punk scene in the late 70s"...several times he just said "well goth and punk are exactly the same thing, so I just call it all punk" >.< ), but at the end of our conversation he said "So...are you seeing anyone?"

Oh for fuck's sake >.<

[bankworking]

Agree with some of the others. If the inserts you put in are the worst things he said about you, I think my reaction on reading the review would be that he's just upset that his attempt to ask you out on a date failed. Screams loser to me, and doesn't really say anything bad about you.

If someone wrote that about me, I'd be tempted to hang it up and point it out as a "joke" to anyone in the future who I thought might be trying to flirt with me. ....okay, no I wouldn't, not at my current job, but if I had a job where I could get away with it, I'd definitely be tempted.

[taxguykarl]

I'd hate to see how he is at a strip club.

It won't be long before he gets the boot as those places are strict look but don't touch establishments.

[mariamousie1]

I'd like to read replies to this "review". Apparently he thinks that if you're nice to people, you must want to date them. Then, by being nice to everyone, that makes you some kind of whore and tease. What a moron.

[zzapp the witch]

Once I read your last paragraph, I skipped all these pages to post this: You just described me. AND you just described the ideal woman for the majority of decent guys I know.

I mean hell, you go straight up to the top on the scale of hawtness for a lot of guys I know because you don't wear makeup! (My bf hates it, smelling and taste, yippee for me). None of that namby-pamby girly crap? Just one of the guys? This is just getting better and better. You're simple, happy, easy going, and can take care of yourself. You're a guy-without-white-knight-issue's dream!

You emotional whore, you!

[Solumina]

I used to have a similar issue, except that I was a regular customer in the shop and therefore could always just runaway, I have found that doing something girly with my hair seemed to help (which I thought was quite strange but I guess it makes you seem like more of a girly girl, without making your look like you are trying to look attractive, like makeup would do). Even something as simple as an embellished headband seems to do the trick, and has the added bonus of being something that you yourself wouldn't notice.

[Redbeard]

Any follow up on this? Did you get the review taken down as a personal attack?
And PLEASE tell me that's he's been banned, no business needs that kind of customer

[Goddess of Retail]

Replies to my fellow Retail Peoples

Hey peoples of customer service.

Let me just say this first: Wow! Never in a million years did I think so many people cared about this type of...specialness. Since it's basically the end of the thread, I'll let you all know that neither myself, boss, co-workers, etc. complained about this to Yahoo but it somehow got deleted anyway. Idk if the guy simply realized he looked like an ignorant moron or if Yahoo themselves reads these and THEY thought he was an ignorant moron

As to answer some of your other questions/observations;

-Yes, my friends/co-workers tell me I suffer from Ugly Duckling Syndrome. Needless to say, I don't believe them.

-No, we couldn't ban him, because unfortunately the 'descriptors' he gave about himself (middle-age, away for 6 months, used to be a reservist, talked to me) describes about 7 different former customers. I wish there was a way to tell >

-I unfortunately have to agree with the people who said the fake ring DOESN'T work. I've tried that, talking about my non-existent boyfriend, etc. and none of them ever work. Most guys do seem to see this as simply another hurdle...

-Also sadly, I've tried wearing light makeup, putting up my hair, doing my nails, and so forth (going with the idea of being 'too' girly to hit on) and that only attracts the REALLY special ones. Instead of the kinda nice or somewhat awkwardly cute gamer guys, when I take time to 'up' my appearance, the smelly, gross, non-deserving-of-the-welfare-they-are-on idiots come out in droves like pot-smelling herds of lobotomized cattle.

-As a last bit, I've been told by my regulars that I'm the perfect girlfriend. I read comics, do sci-fi AND fantasy RPGs, play card/boardgames, am awesome with children, don't need jewelry (give me D&D miniatures!), hate the idea of too much commitment (aka marriage at this time of my life) have a steady job & paycheck, my own apartment, a college education, and am not hard on the eyes. I also like Pina Coladas, and getting caught in the rain... BUT, I still think of myself as one of the guys, so I guess none of this matters. I don't need a Shining Knight to come rescue me, I already slayed the damn dragon myself! (Wouldn't hurt to have someone to help me bring in groceries tho Lol )