*sigh* dating drought

[Food Lady]

I've been in a drought...going on 9 years now My experience usually goes like this--I'll hit it off with someone, and then never hear from them again....Tired of wasting my time, I've given up on the idea. I'd rather stay home, build models, read, watch TV, or take a nap

I feel the same. But at my age it's sadder.

[blas]

On an opposite note, I've met people who would be stereotyped as retarded/bimbo/dumbass but have been really bright individuals.

People stereotype me as a plain fucking idiot all the time because of my blonde hair, large chest, and overall appearance. I'm no genius but I definetly know that Chicken of the Sea is tuna fish.

My boyfriend looks like a stereotypical pretty boy, but he's pretty intelligent. He has ADD and sometimes comes across as a male ditz, but if you see some of the awards of his at his parents' house and the scores he's gotten on aptitude tests for jobs, he's pretty smart. But he can't spell to save his own life, lol.

I'll admit it, I try to stay away from dorky guys. Star Wars, I don't mind, I'm a fan of it, actually, but stuff like WoW, D&D, hardcore gamers, anime, stuff like that.....blech.....I couldn't date a guy who was into that stuff. And guys who are anti-social or don't like being out in public....forget it. I enjoy a quiet night in as much as anyone else, but I can't spend every night at home...especially when I don't get that much time off....I'll spend a Friday night in with my bf, as long as we can go out with friends or even by ourselves to go bowling or something the next night...as long as we can be out and social with people. I'm home alone all week as it is, I can't be home bored all weekend. And if the guy isn't the social type or doesn't get along with people easily, nope, no thank you.

[Shards]

WoW, D&D, etc. are all things that are quite popular with both stereotypical gamer geeks and casual 'I enjoy playing them when there's nothing else to do, but can and will frequently go out to hang with people without said activities involved' gamers alike.

Personally, the only thing that is influenced by my D&D playing as far as girls go is which days I can take them out, and that's only because my house is the one that's used for it when we play and I don't feel comfortable with friends at my place when I'm not there. Also, if the girl is interested, I ask the group if she can come learn to play and hang with us during our Sunday afternoon 'roll dice, drink soda and hang out' sessions that we call Dungeons and Dragons, but only if they ask me or it comes up and they say they're interested. It's my hobby, my GF doesn't have to get into it or even like the concept herself, just as long as she doesn't ask me to stop the one thing I consistently do with my male friends.

[blas]

I'm not ripping on people who are into that sort of thing, it's just really not something I'm interested in. I'm more interested in tanning, shopping, going to the dog park, going to the movies, bowling, going to the bar, etc. I dated a hardcore gamer a few years ago, and he only left the house to go to work or to come see me. Not everyone is like that, but I just don't get along well with people who don't go out and be social very often or are into those things that are on the total opposite side of the spectrum.

[AdminAssistant]

I'll admit it, I try to stay away from dorky guys. Star Wars, I don't mind, I'm a fan of it, actually, but stuff like WoW, D&D, hardcore gamers, anime, stuff like that.....blech.....I couldn't date a guy who was into that stuff. And guys who are anti-social or don't like being out in public....forget it. I enjoy a quiet night in as much as anyone else, but I can't spend every night at home...especially when I don't get that much time off

For once, I'm am totally with you, blas!

I love geeky guys, in theory. But as soon as one mentions a major interest in any kind of gaming, especially WoW or D&D, my interest in them goes down. I don't ever want to play second fiddle to a fictional character. Anime wouldn't bother me too much, as long as they weren't hardcore otakus, because that's just obnoxious (and my friend who is a Japanese history and culture scholar would ix-nay it).

Let me put it this way - my ideal guy would be a McGee. Nerdy, yet cool.

[blas]

Are you saying you're normally totally against me ?

[AdminAssistant]

Not at all! But we do normally take different views on things. Not bad, just different.

[Jester]

A guy who doesn't know the correct usage of where/wear and your/you're etc or who can't be bothered to proofread or correct it in his advertisement to the available woman he's trying to garner her interest in him isn't someone I'm going to look twice at.

Again, I have to point out that people who can't spell often don't realize they are using the wrong version of the word. Hell, my one friend, who is damn bright, will send me texts that read "were shuld I meet u?" He of course means "where," not "were," but his spelling ability is pretty low. Doesn't make him less intelligent.

That being said, I do agree with you that dating site profiles are, for all intents and purposes, dating resumes, so these people should try to put their best foot forward. Just saying.

First impressions aren't everything, but when there are hundreds of profiles out there, I'm of the opinion that a person should make sure it's a good first impression.

Which is why I usually made a point of NOT putting my picture on any profiles I had on such sites!

It's my hobby, my GF doesn't have to get into it or even like the concept herself, just as long as she doesn't ask me to stop the one thing I consistently do with my male friends.

I am the same way with football. I would love to date a football fan, but if my girl is not into it, no worries, just as long as she doesn't get on my case for spending Sundays in the fall in bars, drinking beer, and yelling at the tv as I watch my favorite game.

Sadly, I have never dated a girl who was more than just a casual fan. Probably a good thing, as knowing my luck, I would end up with a Denver Broncos fan, or worse....a University of Arizona fan!

[Gravekeeper]

For once, I'm am totally with you, blas!

I love geeky guys, in theory. But as soon as one mentions a major interest in any kind of gaming, especially WoW or D&D, my interest in them goes down. I don't ever want to play second fiddle to a fictional character.

No offense, but you both seem to be mistaking geek with psychological problems. ;p

If you don`t leave the house away from WoW or can`t put the love of your life before a god damn video game or any other pass time for that matter its not because you`re a geek. Its because you have issues.

I freely admit to being a geek, but its not more important than actual human beings in my life. Its just where my interests lay. I always say the difference between a Geek and a Dork is that the geek can act like a normal human being in public. ;p

On the flip side, I would be blas`s arch nemesis. As I am half geek and not particularly fond of the general public. Nor would tanning, shopping or bar hopping hold my interest. As none of them would be mentally stimulating enough. I`m a very cerebral person....hence I ended up a geek. -.-

Edit: Well, ok, shopping *might* to a degree. Because it gives me an audience with whom I can mock products and people with. Toy stores are especially amusing for this.

That being said, I do agree with you that dating site profiles are, for all intents and purposes, dating resumes, so these people should try to put their best foot forward. Just saying.

Yes, see, that's how I look at it. I know I don`t have the best grammar in the world. But for a dating site or first impression email or whatever, I would make damn sure I had spelled everything correctly. Because its the first impression and ``omg ur so hawt`` does not make a good first impression. ;p

Gah, my laptop keyboard has gotten itself into some weird alternate symbol mode and I can`t get it out. So all my punctuation is wrong.

Ok, see, now I have to hide on OkCupid again because I tried logging into it and I`m being wooed by terrifying things....

All because of that match % thing.

[blas]

Oh come on GK...you know I'm not an uppity Yankee city girl like I try to act like

I do enjoy going out for drinks...but after tonight....I got a nice reminder as to why my boyfriend and I decided to make going out a sometimes event.......drunk people can really irritate me at times. When I'm the driver and I can only have a few drinks or can't drink at all.....drunk people, especially loud obnoxious ones, infuriate me. I don't think I'm ever that out of hand when I'm drunk. I tend to just be chatty and overly talkative...

Oh tonight was horrible.

[Gravekeeper]

drunk people can really irritate me at times. When I'm the driver and I can only have a few drinks or can't drink at all.....drunk people, especially loud obnoxious ones, infuriate me.

Yes, see, exactly that. To me, a bar is just a place where Loud and Stupid combine forces to aggravate me. Last time I was at a bar it was New Years ( Problem Number 1 ) with an Aussie friend ( Problem Number 2 ) and her American cousin. Than some other drunk American tourist wandered to our table and began hitting on both of them in the most fantastically stupid, obscene ways possible. Cousin would have none of it, as she had a boyfriend, but Aussie was so drunk it was WORKING on her. While me and Cousin watched in increasing horror, anger and discomfort till we finally left.

I mean seriously, this guy was a *complete* douchebag in every way shape and form. The baths in Axe Bodyspray kind of douchebag. So not only do we have that to put up with, but she actually enjoyed and encouraged it while the two of us exchanged disturbed, silent looks. Since we couldn`t get much in edgewise around douchbag.

Gah, that was a bad night.

[Jester]

I always say the difference between a Geek and a Dork is that the geek can act like a normal human being in public.

Good analysis. I have often said I am a Star Wars GEEK, but not a Star Wars DORK. The difference being I go to the movies, I love the movies, I fucking quote the movies.....but I don't own a full Storm Trooper armor suit, I don't know the names of the minor minor minor characters that have five seconds of dialogue in the background in an unimportant scene, and I have never camped out for one of the movies or put the movies ahead of my social, dating, or sex life. Oh, and I HAVE a social, dating, and sex life!

Actually the short version of this is that I tell people I am a Star Wars geek and not a Star Wars dork because I get LAID.

I know I don`t have the best grammar in the world.

I have to call BUUULLLLSHIT on this! Dude, you are a fantastic writer, you know it, I know it, the whole site knows it. Yes, you have the occasional typo in your missives (I can't help but notice such things....they leap off the screen at me like your hand might leap off a flaming barbecue grill), but your grammar is sound. Even if you DO spell things occasionally with that extra "u" for some Canadian colour...er, uh, color.

I don't think I'm ever that out of hand when I'm drunk. I tend to just be chatty and overly talkative...

And I have to call BUUULLLLSHIT on that one too!

I know, Blas....you and I have never been out drinking together. (Yet.) However, as an expert on the subject from long years of study and practice, I can tell you that we are often just as loud, stupid, and obnoxious when we are drunk as the people who irritate us with their loud stupid obnoxiousness when we are not drunk. We don't think we are that bad, but the majority of the times, we really, really are. It just doesn't seem that way when we are in the moment because, well....we're drunk!

Of course, it took me years of painstaking research on the matter to come to this conclusion, and I do have several a few years on you, so you may still want to stubbornly disagree with me on this. That's fine. It's not easy to admit that you may be one of THEM.

[AdminAssistant]

I've been looking forward to the summer, when all these undergrads scatter and go away, then it'll be safe to go out and party wherever without drunken frat boys and obnoxious half-dressed girls all over the place. Woo-hoo!!

Yes, I should've clarified between geek and dork. I couldn't stand to be with a dork. But I am a geek, albeit a history geek. But I do like to go out with friends to bars and restaurants.

[Jester]

...it'll be safe to go out and party wherever without obnoxious half-dressed girls all over the place.

I rather like obnoxious drunken half-dressed girls, thank you very much.

But I am a geek, albeit a history geek.

I think we would get along famously. I am a bit of a history geek myself, depending upon what history you are referring to. Methinks you would enjoy my living room library!

[AdminAssistant]

I like all history, I get it from my Dad, who prefers military shtuff (especially World War II and Vietnam - I think it stems from guilt of not serving, anywho). Now, I study theatre history, and am attempting to specialize in French theatre from 1830-1950 (ish). But I like all of it.

Trust me, Jester, if I ever have the cash and time for an actual vacation, Key West is towards the top of my list. Tropical weather without feeling obligated to do the whole...beach, bathing suit...thing. I'm there!