Very Complicated Situation.

[Zellie Crescent]

That bitch is poison, you should find out if there's a time when the "dad" and super bitch aren't there and get all of his collectables and stuff out of there. He might be living there with bare walls for a while, but it will be better to know that the bare walls are there because of him and not that bitch. Better yet go over there NOW, like RIGHT NOW! Don't even finish reading this. And you should call the cops because that could be premeditated assault.

[Seshat]

Then, father turns round to my fiance on Tuesday and tells him that he and New Partner have arranged an ambush for Wednesday, to catch my fiance's mother visiting the house so New Partner could beat her up! Fiance of course told his mother not to come, and we arranged to meet her elsewhere. Fiance made the astronomical mistake of telling Father where we were going to meet his mother, so Father said he would tell New Partner where we were so she could come and attack my fiance's mother there.

POLICE. NOW.

And get out of that house.

That's .. pretty much everything I have to say.

[Miss_Stress]

Hasn't your father caught on to what's going on yet?

Rapscallion

My dad knows everything, I told him it all and he's as disgusted as I am by my fiance's father and the new partner :/

[Rapscallion]

Hasn't your father caught on to what's going on yet?

Rapscallion

[Miss_Stress]

**UPDATE**

Before I tell you the update, Jester I completely agree with you. He does need to make a stand and he needs to do it sharpish, but I cannot do it for him. I wish I could, but I can't and as you say, only he can do this.

The update, however, is not an improvement on the situation. My fiance's mother visited him at the house on Monday, to see how he was and have a catch up. She was there for 15 minutes at the most, the same as always. Father was told, and he subsequently told New Partner. Then, father turns round to my fiance on Tuesday and tells him that he and New Partner have arranged an ambush for Wednesday, to catch my fiance's mother visiting the house so New Partner could beat her up! Fiance of course told his mother not to come, and we arranged to meet her elsewhere. Fiance made the astronomical mistake of telling Father where we were going to meet his mother, so Father said he would tell New Partner where we were so she could come and attack my fiance's mother there. It ended with us meeting my fiance's mother and having to go somewhere miles away from the house just so she could see her son.

[Jester]

My fiance is not a teenager, he is a grown adult.

Yes he is. And it's time for him to start acting like one.

First of all, and I've said this before, he needs to stand up for himself. If this means moving out, and I think it does, he needs to move the fuck out.

Until then, he needs to grow a pair and take a stand. Whether or not he pays rent, this is still his stuff and his room. He shouldn't ASK about putting a lock on his door. He should go buy a lock and install it on his door, and when (not if) Harpy and Dad start giving him shit about it, he needs to exhibit the fact that he has an actual spine by explaining, calmly and firmly, that since they have shown that they have no respect for his privacy or his possessions, he saw no choice but to install the lock. If they don't like it, tough....they are the reasons he did that. And he should cite specifics. Period, end of story.

As for the diabetes stuff, well, if they want it somewhere else in the house, that is their right. Sorry, but it is. If he's at all worried about potential tampering with any of it, he should move it into his room. If that is not an issue, and it's just inconvenient or annoying to him to have his stuff in Place B instead of Place A, well, that's life. Deal with it.

I'm sorry, but this kid needs to stand up for himself and act like the adult he is. Until he does, I have zero sympathy for him. Harsh? Yes. Life is harsh. That is the reality of it. And as much as his situation sucks, he has it in his power to improve it.

As I said, he needs to grow a pair.

[Miss_Stress]

You're in the UK, right? I seem to remember you're not that close to me. If you were, I could offer some storage space.

Rapscallion

Thank you Rapscallion I'm not that close to you no but thank you anyway.

[Rapscallion]

You're in the UK, right? I seem to remember you're not that close to me. If you were, I could offer some storage space.

Rapscallion

[Micer]

Catalog. Catalog. Catalog. The best of his stuff should be moved out now, or hell, even stored in something that can be padlocked and can take a good solid hit. It might make his living area spartan, but it's better than being nicked for that cowbirds hell-spawn.

And work on getting him out of there! Because I can almost guarantee things are going to start going missing if she's that disrespectful to straight out go and get something obviously not hers out of his room, and the last thing I would want to imagine is the stuff he needs to take medically suddenly turning up tampered or missing.

My gods, what a piece of... something, cause I sure as hell wouldn't be calling that work.

[Miss_Stress]

Can you or Fiance's Mom store some of your fiance's stuff in the meantime? The stuff he deems valuable? I don't trust Harpy at all to be honest.

I've already got a Spiderman plate, dish and cup at my house. He bought them as a collector's thing almost - something to display, not use. New partner and her family and grandson turned up for Sunday lunch, new partner disappeared into fiance's room (without permission), fetched down that Spiderman dinner set and gave it to her grandson to eat off! I took it back to my house the very next day.

[iradney]

Can you or Fiance's Mom store some of your fiance's stuff in the meantime? The stuff he deems valuable? I don't trust Harpy at all to be honest.

[Seshat]

Get your fiancee out now. And look into resources for friends-and-family of the abused. Heck, your fiancee may even count as abused at this point!

[Miss_Stress]

**UPDATE**

Well, the new partner has started moving her stuff into my fiance's father's house now. Fiance was aware of this, and asked for a lock on his door so he could have some privacy (as well as protecting his possessions - he has a lot of action figures and he is concerned that the new partner will take them for her grandson as she has done in the past), and has been told no. So, my fiance is not allowed any privacy in his own home. My fiance is not a teenager, he is a grown adult.

Also, the new partner has demanded that he move all his diabetes things upstairs - his glucose checker, his needles, his sharp bin, and even his insulin which must remain refrigerated. She intimated to my fiance's father that she doesn't want her family to know he is diabetic, and actually seems quite eager to hide it all away and act like it's something to be ashamed of.

That's all that's happened for now, but I suspect more is on the way.

[hawkchick11]

I feel like this thread was written about my dad and (now-ex) stepmother.

She got her claws into him and destroyed the relationship my sisters and I had with him. Everything was about her and her sons, her family, her friends, etc. She took his money, ran up huge credit card debit in his name and when he found out she was cheating, she bolted. He was so blind to everything, the poor bastard still wanted to stay married to her and work things out. The only positive thing she did was divorce him.

I was like your fiance though, I tried to help him before he made the mistake of marrying her but sadly, it fell on deaf ears. Now we're the ones left to pick up the pieces. Our relationship is getting better but will probably never be where it was. Hell, he still spends more time with her kids than my sisters and I.

Keep your head up. Its going to be hard to watch but thats really all you can do right now. Just be there for your fiance.

[Miss_Stress]

Personally, I would love to see someone other than Fiance or Miss Stress get up in Superbitch's face and tell her what for.

I say other than Fiance or Miss Stress because we all know that if either of them did anything of the sort, Superbitch would twist it around and make them look bad to Dad. But if a third party did it, especially with Dad looking on, that would be Pure Awesome.

One way or another, Superbitch really needs a very public and very humiliating dressing down. She needs to be called on the carpet.

I pray for this! Fiance's grandmother (the dad's mother) has told his dad what Superbitch is like and told him what she is doing, and dear old Dad responded with "I'm not listening to you, I'm sick of you interfering!"